I haven't heard from my boyfriend since Friday night

[Anonymous]

Don't beat yourself up. You were too trusting in this case, but that isn't such a bad thing. Hopefully, you will be a little more cynical in the future. Don't give up on love, though. You'll find a man who is worthy of your affections. You obviously have a big heart and were truly concerned for his safety.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn! Jeff just called you out!

No, he did not call me out at all. Someone mentioned it in the beginning and I said that was the same person....

I didn't read the first many pages of the thread. If you haven't already, can you update us on what happened between your finding out he was lying to you and now?

OP here: Sure, I did find out he was lying to me about job stuff in the beginning and he did put his online profile back up after we got into a huge fight. I called him out on everything and he didn't deny it and ended up admitting the truth about work and some family things. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and we continued talking for about 3 weeks as just friends and then he ended up coming back to visit me and we spent a long weekend just talking about EVERYTHING and decided to give it another try. Once we made that decision, things have been AMAZING. I haven't questioned him at all, he's been here to visit me multiple times as I have also gone up there. He met my best friend and my family and I met his 2 best friends and his uncle. So for the last month+, things have been great until this past weekend when he just disappeared. This was not a troll post by me at all, I truly did think something happened until some PP's started doing some deep digging for me and now I'm sitting here questioning everything....again.

OP, I think you need to move on. I don't think people change that fast. They don't go from lying about big things to suddenly not being someone who lies about stuff. And lying is a big deal -- especially in a long distance relationship. Long distance relationships are really hard work, but if there is any shot at a long distance relationship working, the one truly foundational thing is trust.

[Anonymous]

OP, you've been SO quick to respond to this post. Somebody posts and within minutes you've replied to it. It's been like that since you started the thread. I'm positive that you've spent more time hitting 'refresh' than you have actively searching for answers.

Close your browser and take a break. At this point, people on this thread aren't going to be able to help you. You need to make a plan as to what you do next.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol. OP you are hopeless.

No just young and naive. OP, I'd consider working on your self esteem and take a break from dating.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn! Jeff just called you out!

No, he did not call me out at all. Someone mentioned it in the beginning and I said that was the same person....

I didn't read the first many pages of the thread. If you haven't already, can you update us on what happened between your finding out he was lying to you and now?

Look at Jeff, being active on a thread that's not Political! Even our Mighty Overlord can't resist being part of the crazy that is this thread.

I'm totally hooked. I have other stuff to do and I can't get away from this thread. I might have to lock it just so I can get my other stuff done.

Noooooooo!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here: I still really don't appreciate the people acting like it's one big joke and that this is all hysterical and fully because to me, it's not. Whether people care or not, this still was 6 months of my life with a guy that I did fall in love with. He gave NO INDICATION that anything was wrong with us and what's worse is that the last month has been AMAZING. We don't fight, we video chat every other night, things have been great. So when he told me he was going to Maine and would text me Sunday night and I didn't hear from him, I truly did believe something happened. Maybe I am too trusting or whatever but I really lost sleep over worrying about him. Now, I have no idea what to think or what to believe but this still is messing with my head big time and the posters who think this is funny....just no.

OP you are 27- you have got to wisen up now. It's great that everything has been great for the last month, but before that what was this guy doing? Lying. And what did he do the moment you guys had a big fight? Put his profile back up. One good month doesn't erase all of that! He is not the last guy you will ever meet. And in the name of everything holy find a local guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP Here: I still really don't appreciate the people acting like it's one big joke and that this is all hysterical and fully because to me, it's not. Whether people care or not, this still was 6 months of my life with a guy that I did fall in love with. He gave NO INDICATION that anything was wrong with us and what's worse is that the last month has been AMAZING. We don't fight, we video chat every other night, things have been great. So when he told me he was going to Maine and would text me Sunday night and I didn't hear from him, I truly did believe something happened. Maybe I am too trusting or whatever but I really lost sleep over worrying about him. Now, I have no idea what to think or what to believe but this still is messing with my head big time and the posters who think this is funny....just no.

OP you are 27- you have got to wisen up now. It's great that everything has been great for the last month, but before that what was this guy doing? Lying. And what did he do the moment you guys had a big fight? Put his profile back up. One good month doesn't erase all of that! He is not the last guy you will ever meet. And in the name of everything holy find a local guy.

I'd also suggest you date a guy that you don't initially think is your "type." You may be attracted to men who are shady liars who treat you badly. Go out with someone you wouldn't normally consider your type .... you may be pleasantly surprised.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And in the name of everything holy find a local guy.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Here is another great quote from the other thread!

"OP ain't gonna move on - you see she's obsessed with knowing EVERYTHING and I got $5 says that in corresponding with him under a faux persona she's gonna end up falling for him all over again and rationalizing his lies and in another 2 months she'll be back on here pissed off because he she paid to get his car fixed or foot the bill for their vacation to Vegas or something.
Some people just can't see the benefit of moving on and end up paying for it."

It's just about two months to the day since that was written!

[Anonymous]

I am not sure what to think...if OP is a troll, she is the BEST TROLL EVER. But, I suspect she is naive. This guy is bad news.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn! Jeff just called you out!

No, he did not call me out at all. Someone mentioned it in the beginning and I said that was the same person....

I didn't read the first many pages of the thread. If you haven't already, can you update us on what happened between your finding out he was lying to you and now?

Look at Jeff, being active on a thread that's not Political! Even our Mighty Overlord can't resist being part of the crazy that is this thread.

I'm totally hooked. I have other stuff to do and I can't get away from this thread. I might have to lock it just so I can get my other stuff done.

Man here - don't you dare lock this. I just wasted a whole f***ing day reading this stuff and yes, I know how it makes me appear, but I need to have a clear resolution to this saga. Besides, it's waaayyy more entertaining than the Wolf's story

[Anonymous]

I really want to be friends with Uncle J and his dog now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here is another great quote from the other thread!

"OP ain't gonna move on - you see she's obsessed with knowing EVERYTHING and I got $5 says that in corresponding with him under a faux persona she's gonna end up falling for him all over again and rationalizing his lies and in another 2 months she'll be back on here pissed off because he she paid to get his car fixed or foot the bill for their vacation to Vegas or something.
Some people just can't see the benefit of moving on and end up paying for it."

It's just about two months to the day since that was written!

Where do we send the $5?

[Anonymous]

OP, I feel so sad for you. Ditch this dude, take some time to really reflect on your life, and NEVER let a dude fuck you over EVER again. You deserve so much more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here is another great quote from the other thread!

"OP ain't gonna move on - you see she's obsessed with knowing EVERYTHING and I got $5 says that in corresponding with him under a faux persona she's gonna end up falling for him all over again and rationalizing his lies and in another 2 months she'll be back on here pissed off because he she paid to get his car fixed or foot the bill for their vacation to Vegas or something.
Some people just can't see the benefit of moving on and end up paying for it."

It's just about two months to the day since that was written!

Where do we send the $5?

+1 He called it.