I haven't heard from my boyfriend since Friday night

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, there are some good detectives on here. Maybe you can think back about details he told you about his life/hobbies/friends/past travels, and we can help piece something together. I know that you must have spent a lot of time talking with him since it was long distance, so maybe some of the details he shared might be meaningful, and we can help seize upon those.

OMG why would you encourage OP to keep this...thing...going in her head??? It's not like this guy was holding her and loving her every day and then he one day up and disappeared. They literally were hours and hours apart from each other. What is there to sort out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, one thing- in your first thread you said you were 27 and here you say you are 26. That's the only 'lie' I can prove, and it doesn't make me think everything else in the story is a lie.

I noticed this as well, but didn't want to say anything.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I just found another relevant recent thread by the OP about her bipolar boyfriend:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/456093.page

I remember that thread. Hmmmm. Are we sure it is the same poster.

It definitely is - 4 hours away, mentions of 'best friend,' same writing style..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, I just found another relevant recent thread by the OP about her bipolar boyfriend:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/456093.page

Wait a gd minute- this was her too?
OP, yes he has disappeared before and no everything has not been perfect for the last month if this just happened March 14. Ugh.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, one thing- in your first thread you said you were 27 and here you say you are 26. That's the only 'lie' I can prove, and it doesn't make me think everything else in the story is a lie.

I noticed this as well, but didn't want to say anything.

This actually sounds like the little things people change to avoid being identified.

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Anonymous wrote:He is a grown man. If he wants to leave town to start over again he is allowed to do that.

Are you forreal? And to just leave everybody in this world who actually cares about him wondering about his whereabouts? If he has the right to do it, we all have the right to criticize him for his selfish actions.

Yeah, it might be selfish of him. But he apparently did not feel that he owed the Op an explanation. Maybe in his mind they weren't as serious/committed as they were in the Op's mind. Maybe bobcat man didn't even realize that Op considered him to be her boyfriend. Maybe he thought that a clean break would be the best thing for them both.

He said he loved her and call himself her boyfriend. You are really reaching here.
It's fine for him to up and leave and it's also fine for those he gave the wrong info too to do a wellness check. So what's your point?

Op has been calling this guy an "ex" for quite a few pages now. Correct me if I'm wrong but it sounds as though the "wellness checks" were done after Op was aware that bobcat guy had been lying to her. The distinction may seem sort of subtle, but it's not.

She was going to do a wellness check even earlier, but folks were telling her she was crazy. She called the sheriff yesterday about a wellness check, before she found out he was lying to her, but she didn't get a call back. She called again today after she knew of the lies, and after the uncle confirmed more lies.

Just because he is an Ex doesn't mean she wants him dead in a ditch. I think the sheriff well-check is:
1. A way to insure another human being isn't in distress (even jerks like this guy don't deserve death)
2. Give OP a tiny bit of closure. She doesn't have to have any direct contact with him ever again, but when sheriff calls back and confirms he's there, she'll know, and the she can delete him from her life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I just found another relevant recent thread by the OP about her bipolar boyfriend:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/456093.page

Wait a gd minute- this was her too?
OP, yes he has disappeared before and no everything has not been perfect for the last month if this just happened March 14. Ugh.

This doesn't make me think she's fake, btw, just not being so bright about this whole thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the PP that first questioned if he were bi-polar. People that are bi-polar oscillate from feeling they are invincible and can do anything to feeling of worthlessness. The problem with Bipolar is the highs are so high that people often resist the meds -- they do not want to lose the high.

People in the highs and lows can be incredibly self-centered.

Read up a little on bi-polar....

+1. Lots of bipolar in my family. My best guess is he goes on and off his meds (the itinerant work history, random living situation). You can't rationalize the decisions of someone with bipolar. Dodged a bullet here, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:He is a grown man. If he wants to leave town to start over again he is allowed to do that.

Are you forreal? And to just leave everybody in this world who actually cares about him wondering about his whereabouts? If he has the right to do it, we all have the right to criticize him for his selfish actions.

Yeah, it might be selfish of him. But he apparently did not feel that he owed the Op an explanation. Maybe in his mind they weren't as serious/committed as they were in the Op's mind. Maybe bobcat man didn't even realize that Op considered him to be her boyfriend. Maybe he thought that a clean break would be the best thing for them both.

He said he loved her and call himself her boyfriend. You are really reaching here.
It's fine for him to up and leave and it's also fine for those he gave the wrong info too to do a wellness check. So what's your point?

Op has been calling this guy an "ex" for quite a few pages now. Correct me if I'm wrong but it sounds as though the "wellness checks" were done after Op was aware that bobcat guy had been lying to her. The distinction may seem sort of subtle, but it's not.

She was going to do a wellness check even earlier, but folks were telling her she was crazy. She called the sheriff yesterday about a wellness check, before she found out he was lying to her, but she didn't get a call back. She called again today after she knew of the lies, and after the uncle confirmed more lies.

So the person that YOU LOVE goes missing and your first thought is to hop on DCUM, ask for advice? Does that sound reasonable? To me it sounds like a person who is feeling like it really isn't there place to be asking these questions but they want to find out where this person went....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I just found another relevant recent thread by the OP about her bipolar boyfriend:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/456093.page

Wait a gd minute- this was her too?
OP, yes he has disappeared before and no everything has not been perfect for the last month if this just happened March 14. Ugh.

In this thread she said she's been with him for 7 months, but she was adamant it was 6 months in this thread. So maybe not the same? Or another inconsistency.

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Anonymous wrote:He is a grown man. If he wants to leave town to start over again he is allowed to do that.

Are you forreal? And to just leave everybody in this world who actually cares about him wondering about his whereabouts? If he has the right to do it, we all have the right to criticize him for his selfish actions.

Yeah, it might be selfish of him. But he apparently did not feel that he owed the Op an explanation. Maybe in his mind they weren't as serious/committed as they were in the Op's mind. Maybe bobcat man didn't even realize that Op considered him to be her boyfriend. Maybe he thought that a clean break would be the best thing for them both.

He said he loved her and call himself her boyfriend. You are really reaching here.
It's fine for him to up and leave and it's also fine for those he gave the wrong info too to do a wellness check. So what's your point?

Op has been calling this guy an "ex" for quite a few pages now. Correct me if I'm wrong but it sounds as though the "wellness checks" were done after Op was aware that bobcat guy had been lying to her. The distinction may seem sort of subtle, but it's not.

She was going to do a wellness check even earlier, but folks were telling her she was crazy. She called the sheriff yesterday about a wellness check, before she found out he was lying to her, but she didn't get a call back. She called again today after she knew of the lies, and after the uncle confirmed more lies.

So the person that YOU LOVE goes missing and your first thought is to hop on DCUM, ask for advice? Does that sound reasonable? To me it sounds like a person who is feeling like it really isn't there place to be asking these questions but they want to find out where this person went....

Clearly it sounds that way to you. Not to a lot of other people though. I'm certain no one is changing their mind.

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Anonymous wrote:He is a grown man. If he wants to leave town to start over again he is allowed to do that.

Are you forreal? And to just leave everybody in this world who actually cares about him wondering about his whereabouts? If he has the right to do it, we all have the right to criticize him for his selfish actions.

Yeah, it might be selfish of him. But he apparently did not feel that he owed the Op an explanation. Maybe in his mind they weren't as serious/committed as they were in the Op's mind. Maybe bobcat man didn't even realize that Op considered him to be her boyfriend. Maybe he thought that a clean break would be the best thing for them both.

He said he loved her and call himself her boyfriend. You are really reaching here.
It's fine for him to up and leave and it's also fine for those he gave the wrong info too to do a wellness check. So what's your point?

Op has been calling this guy an "ex" for quite a few pages now. Correct me if I'm wrong but it sounds as though the "wellness checks" were done after Op was aware that bobcat guy had been lying to her. The distinction may seem sort of subtle, but it's not.

She was going to do a wellness check even earlier, but folks were telling her she was crazy. She called the sheriff yesterday about a wellness check, before she found out he was lying to her, but she didn't get a call back. She called again today after she knew of the lies, and after the uncle confirmed more lies.

Just because he is an Ex doesn't mean she wants him dead in a ditch. I think the sheriff well-check is:
1. A way to insure another human being isn't in distress (even jerks like this guy don't deserve death)
2. Give OP a tiny bit of closure. She doesn't have to have any direct contact with him ever again, but when sheriff calls back and confirms he's there, she'll know, and the she can delete him from her life.

I'm guessing it was a whole lot of number 2.

[Anonymous]

I feel like OP has disappeared. I hope she'll come back to update if she gets anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like OP has disappeared. I hope she'll come back to update if she gets anything.

LOL, because it's been a whole 15 minutes since she's posted?

[Anonymous]

I'm sure the police will want to talk to her some more, right? If it is determined that this guy is missing..