Half shirts to high school!

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OP here and I had no intention of shaming parents or kids. I just had a question and I’ve received the answers I was looking for.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to high school in the late 90s and crop tops were in style then but they were banned by our dress code.

I went to high school in the mid 80s. Crop tops were in fashion then too. Banned at school. Shorts weren't allowed either, and this was in the south where it was hot pretty early in the year. No tan tops either, for boys or girls. Looking back I guess it was a fairly strict dress code (by today's standards) but it seemed fine then and we somehow managed to be fashionable. (judging by the awful 80s pics for "best dressed" )

When my husband went to high school in the deep south (any further south, and you'd be underwater), he wasn't allowed to wear shorts, and the schools didn't have air conditioning.

I just checked that high school's dress code now: they have uniforms, girls (but not boys) have to pass the "fingertip length" test, shirt length is regulated (not too long, not too short), the only piercings they allow are normal ear piercings, no flip flops, Afros may not be longer than 3 inches, beards are not allowed, hair in "unusual colors" is not allowed...

A good indicator of the school's priorities, in my opinion, and I don't mean it as a compliment.

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Anonymous wrote:The world needs all kinds of jobs to be filled. These parents are just getting a leg up for children to the stripper and escort jobs. Please dont shame them.

You again?

You got your a$$ handed to you on another thread for comments like this. So just go away.

Why are you taking offence to my comments?

Do you not respect strippers and escorts? Is an escort any less of an honorable profession than say Big Law?

You are fine with people expressing themselves through their clothes but not through their profession?

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Anonymous wrote:The world needs all kinds of jobs to be filled. These parents are just getting a leg up for children to the stripper and escort jobs. Please dont shame them.

Or as the Ivy League lady reminded us, your kids boss.

This is a disturbing thread. My kid doesn’t wear crop tops. She is really doesn’t put too much thought into her clothes. I occasionally do wonder if her shorts are too small (3.5 in inseams is what she buys). But she is covered, happy with herself, doing well in school, and is overall a lovely person. Why harass her about style (especially when I know nothing about it).

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I don't mind the Sporty Spice look, but my daughter said the zippy jackets come off in class and girls have stopped wearing bras under their tops in the name of feminism. She's 13 and wondering where it's all going.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG. Grow a spine and parent your teen. It doesn’t matter what other girls are doing.

+1. Don't let your kid where them to school if it bothers you. jfc

+2 Cool moms are pathetic.

I think it's pathetic when parents don't allow their kids to dress in style and then come online complaining about how they have no friends or have been left out by their supposed friends, blah, blah.

If you dress your kid like an accountant, don't get shocked when they have no friends or social life.

These are also things I wish I could sometimes yell at my client's parents but can't. Nothing makes me angrier than getting a new client who is seeing me for depression or suicidal thoughts and at the root of all that is a fcking wardrobe! Yes, bullying IS wrong, but it's your job as a parent to NOT actively make your kid the target of bullying by sending them to school in clothes that aren't cool or in style.

I don’t really have an opinion about crop tops, but yikes, are you a therapist? Are you suggesting that getting cool clothes will help solve depression and suicidal thoughts?

Parents shaming girls definitely will

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Anonymous wrote:OMG. Grow a spine and parent your teen. It doesn’t matter what other girls are doing.

+1. Don't let your kid where them to school if it bothers you. jfc

OMG back at you. It doesn't sound like it is bothering OP, it sounds like she wants to know if they're allowed or appropriate for school.

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Anonymous wrote:I still remember the outfit I bought when my BF broke up with me. Little white cropped tee, black miniskirt with black thigh high tights and 90s chunky heels. He broke up with me because I wouldnt have sex with him. A little aggressive for 7am on a Monday but it felt good.

I'm the pearl clutcher from upthread and I love this and want a movie about it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG. Grow a spine and parent your teen. It doesn’t matter what other girls are doing.

+1. Don't let your kid where them to school if it bothers you. jfc

+2 Cool moms are pathetic.

I think it's pathetic when parents don't allow their kids to dress in style and then come online complaining about how they have no friends or have been left out by their supposed friends, blah, blah.

If you dress your kid like an accountant, don't get shocked when they have no friends or social life.

These are also things I wish I could sometimes yell at my client's parents but can't. Nothing makes me angrier than getting a new client who is seeing me for depression or suicidal thoughts and at the root of all that is a fcking wardrobe! Yes, bullying IS wrong, but it's your job as a parent to NOT actively make your kid the target of bullying by sending them to school in clothes that aren't cool or in style.

And if your daughter dresses like a slut, don't be shocked when the boys only want one thing from her. There is a large swath between 'accountant' and 'slut'. Surely, there is something in the middle. Self-respect and decorum for godssake. It's school, not Lallapalooza or a DaBaby concert.

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As a 1988 high school graduate in Fairfax Co, NO boy in my school wore half shirts like that. Maybe other parts of the country

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And if your daughter dresses like a slut, don't be shocked when the boys only want one thing from her. There is a large swath between 'accountant' and 'slut'. Surely, there is something in the middle. Self-respect and decorum for godssake. It's school, not Lallapalooza or a DaBaby concert.

Next you'll tell us that short skirts cause sexual assault.

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As a 1988 high school graduate in Fairfax Co, NO boy in my school wore half shirts like that. Maybe other parts of the country

I'm a GenXer from the Midwest, and I remember boys wearing shirts like that. Not a lot, but not none, either.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't mind the Sporty Spice look, but my daughter said the zippy jackets come off in class and girls have stopped wearing bras under their tops in the name of feminism. She's 13 and wondering where it's all going.

To heck in a bucket, obviously!

Or, alternatively, nowhere in particular. Bralessness will not cause the world to come to an end.

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As a 1988 high school graduate in Fairfax Co, NO boy in my school wore half shirts like that. Maybe other parts of the country

1985 my now H has pictures in a 1/2 shirt

Graduated from Gonzaga

Lol