Dating Two Guys - Need To Make A Decision

[Anonymous]

Stop trying to select who you date based on who you MIGHT marry. That is the fairly tale world of BS. You date someone to get to KNOW THEM. Then if it happens it happens. YOU can NEVER tell if you'll marry someone you're dating because the decision isn't yours.

This is the issue with people dating and always assuming "I have to date THE ONE". Why? And how the heck are you suppose to know that? If you did you'd play the lottery.

[Anonymous]

Get your AMH checked. I started TTC at 33 since I had high ovarian reserve and regular periods. It’s been 2 years and we haven’t had kids yet and I regret waiting. We are “unexplained” and are in the midst of IVF. I would start trying at 35 if you’re married or ready.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask yourself…why are these two people not married?

Yep. Odd

Are they divorced?

Not odd! Lots of reasons why people get married at the age they do. Better question is if they've had long term relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask yourself…why are these two people not married?

Yep. Odd

Are they divorced?

Not odd! Lots of reasons why people get married at the age they do. Better question is if they've had long term relationships.

Valid question, yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I call TROLL!

Yup!

[Anonymous]

Did you decide OP?

[Anonymous]

I don't think neither is the answer, not waiting for a fairly tale is the smart thing to do. If you remotely want children in the future, I would ask the simple question of who will be a better father? It's a balance of who's more patient, who's more willing to take on more housework, who enjoy children more, who has better DNA and who has more financial stability.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating two guys at the same time and I don’t know who to choose. It started off as first dates around the same time, and now it’s up our fifth date this past weekend. They are both really great guys and have qualities I want in a man. I do like one slightly more than the other, but then the other guy wins me over again on a date.

I usually date one guy but I’m in my early thirties and don’t have time to waste. I spent way too long in a relationship with the hopes or marriage, and I wanted to try multiple guys to see how that goes. Now I feel like I’m at a point where I have to break it off with one guy, but I can’t decide which guy.

Single mom here. I have been dating 3 guys for most of the last few months and been intimate with all of them. You do not know a person really well until you see them in different situations. You also need to see if you are sexually compatible.

It takes way too much time to date one person at a time especially if you are above 30 and want to have more children.

See how easy women have it? The average guy would never be able to find three women to date at the same time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask yourself…why are these two people not married?

Yep. Odd

Are they divorced?

Not odd! Lots of reasons why people get married at the age they do. Better question is if they've had long term relationships.

OP here. No. I don’t think it’s odd that they aren’t married. Neither have been married. Many people are getting married later and later and waiting for the right one. Both have had longterm relationships and they broke up for various reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you decide OP?

OP here. I’m going to keep on dating both I have more feelings for guy 1. Not going to sleep with either of them again until I decide who I want to pick.

[Anonymous]

Op do you suspect that they are dating other women?

Are you open about dating other people right now?

Also how are you balancing communicating with both of them and the schedule of meeting with them? Like do you make up excuses or is it don’t ask don’t tell

Please keep updating us loving this thread

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op do you suspect that they are dating other women?

Are you open about dating other people right now?

Also how are you balancing communicating with both of them and the schedule of meeting with them? Like do you make up excuses or is it don’t ask don’t tell

Please keep updating us loving this thread

OP here. They both know I’m seeing others. Both causally asked on our second date and I was honest that I was seeing other people. Guy 1 asked after we had sex if I was still seeing others. He said he really likes me and hasn’t been on other dates since we our third date. Guy 2 asked about exclusivity but never really said if he was seeing other women.

I’ve been able to manage seeing both of them. I don’t make excuses - I just say I’m busy that night. They both know I’m seeing others and I’m sure they know that I might be on another date when I say I’m busy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are they? What do they do? How much money do they make?

OP here. This thread has taken off! Things have been busy and I haven’t been on here to respond until now.

Guy 1 is 37, In finance, and makes between $200-300k. I have an idea but I’m not sure exactly how much he makes.

Guy 2 is 39, doctor, and makes between $400-500k. I have an idea of how much he makes but don’t know how much exactly.

It’s much more than money for me. I want a husband with a good career, but I want someone than is stable, dependable, honest, kind, respectful, etc. I want a man that will be a good partner and father.

Two questions.

Have they ever been married?

Just how loud is that ticking clock?

[Anonymous]

You know what you have to do.

3some.

May the best man win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are they? What do they do? How much money do they make?

OP here. This thread has taken off! Things have been busy and I haven’t been on here to respond until now.

Guy 1 is 37, In finance, and makes between $200-300k. I have an idea but I’m not sure exactly how much he makes.

Guy 2 is 39, doctor, and makes between $400-500k. I have an idea of how much he makes but don’t know how much exactly.

It’s much more than money for me. I want a husband with a good career, but I want someone than is stable, dependable, honest, kind, respectful, etc. I want a man that will be a good partner and father.

Two questions.

Have they ever been married?

Just how loud is that ticking clock?

OP here. I’ve never been married. I’m 32 and ideally would like to be married by 35 and kids by 40.