Dating Two Guys - Need To Make A Decision

[Anonymous]

You messed up by sleeping with them because now you are pressuring yourself to choose and they are pressuring you and there's the false sense of needing to be close.



And you probably don't care that much to be with either of them, but you'll pick one and find yourself in the same spot of dating someone too long that's a dead end..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You messed up by sleeping with them because now you are pressuring yourself to choose and they are pressuring you and there's the false sense of needing to be close.



And you probably don't care that much to be with either of them, but you'll pick one and find yourself in the same spot of dating someone too long that's a dead end..

NP: I waited 4 months and still picked the wrong person. Realized the issue was me and my picker…

[Anonymous]

You do realize they are also dating other people so you're not the only one making choices?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You messed up by sleeping with them because now you are pressuring yourself to choose and they are pressuring you and there's the false sense of needing to be close.



And you probably don't care that much to be with either of them, but you'll pick one and find yourself in the same spot of dating someone too long that's a dead end..

NP: I waited 4 months and still picked the wrong person. Realized the issue was me and my picker…

That could be part of the problem too. But 4 months really isn't that long it's the same amount of time as March until now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do they treat waiters and animals?
Are their parents still together?

Waiters and animals? JFC.

[Anonymous]

If you feel like you HAVE to pick one, instead of WANTING to pick one, then either neither are right or you need to get to know more about them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How are their executive functioning skills ? Apparently a lot of DCUM wives married losers that can’t unload the dishwasher or schedule a doctors appointment so you may throw that into consideration.

This PP thinks they're funny, but seriously, OP, do have serious talks about how the job of raising kids will be handled ahead of time. If either is clearly in the traditional camp of woman does all parenting tasks, drop them.

[Anonymous]

I get dating both guys at the same time if you’re not exclusive, but sleeping with them both is not cool. This whole exercise is cringeworthy as you go through some checklist devising if they’re worthy. Newsflash - regardless of which one you pick, there’s no guarantee you’ll get married.

[Anonymous]

Op, I suggest sleep a bit more with them and let it flow and then see how feelings develop organically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you sleep with both of them? That’s kind of gross.

No it isn’t. They don’t own her. I hope OP uses protection, but sleeping with someone doesn’t automatically make you exclusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like neither are right because you can’t decide. When you know, you know.

+1

+2

[Anonymous]

Easy…..whichever one likes you the most.

[Anonymous]

Which one has larger hands and shoes? That one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I slept with both of them over the weekend ( used protection). One was slightly better than the other but both were good.

I have talked future plans with both and they both said they are looking to settle down. One is 5 years older and the other is 7 years older than me. Both are about the same on paper. I like one slightly more. They both talked about exclusively after sleeping together this weekend. I feel like I have to make a decision.

I hate the way women judge men in bed. It's like a contest.

Awww, sorry we make you insecure. But it really is a contest.
I hate the way men judge women who just happen to walk in the street. It's like a contest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating two guys at the same time and I don’t know who to choose. It started off as first dates around the same time, and now it’s up our fifth date this past weekend. They are both really great guys and have qualities I want in a man. I do like one slightly more than the other, but then the other guy wins me over again on a date.

I usually date one guy but I’m in my early thirties and don’t have time to waste. I spent way too long in a relationship with the hopes or marriage, and I wanted to try multiple guys to see how that goes. Now I feel like I’m at a point where I have to break it off with one guy, but I can’t decide which guy.

yes you do