Dating Two Guys - Need To Make A Decision

[Anonymous]

Guy 1 is not likely to hang around long knowing you are still dating others, when he has stopped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you decide OP?

OP here. I’m going to keep on dating both I have more feelings for guy 1. Not going to sleep with either of them again until I decide who I want to pick.

How are you going to explain that?

[Anonymous]

Not OP, but I’m 33 and treating this dating process as a job search. Always applying for multiple opportunities in case one lead doesn’t pan out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy 1 is not likely to hang around long knowing you are still dating others, when he has stopped.

+1. If you stop sleeping with him, then he'll likely take that as a rejection/not fully into him. You crossed a line by sleeping with them, and most decent guys wouldn't be ok with you sleeping with them and also seeing other people. Next time, don't sleep with anyone until you're ready to be exclusive since you want to get married. The only guys who would be cool with sleeping with you outside of monogamy aren't marriage material.

For now, go with guy #1. It's clear that you like him more and feel more comfortable with him. More importantly, you listed some things about the other guy that seem like deal breakers, such as how he supported you during a difficult time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy 1 is not likely to hang around long knowing you are still dating others, when he has stopped.

That’s on him. OP didn’t ask him to stop dating others.

I recently dated a guy who told me on date 3 he stop dating others to focus on me. It made me very uncomfortable as I was still dating other people, and I didn’t want to feel pressured to commit before I was ready.

If someone’s standard is “I stopped dating others early on so you should too!”, they aren’t really someone you want to be with. Very controlling.

[Anonymous]

I’m guessing this is a guy posting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing this is a guy posting.

Why would you think that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not OP, but I’m 33 and treating this dating process as a job search. Always applying for multiple opportunities in case one lead doesn’t pan out.

The closest analogy to job search is dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are they? What do they do? How much money do they make?

The latter is the real thing that the people of DCUM care about. Just pick who makes more money and has a higher net worth. Problem solved.

Once you boil down female psychology to its bare essence things become so much more interesting. It’s all about money, even when equity is supposedly the goal these days.

Women are a handful. Can’t make decisions, or waffle 95% of the time on anything, then when a man gets mad because his linear thought process is alarmed by the neurotic up and down process and voiced this annoyance to the the woman she gets upset. The whole marriage thing is nuts. I’ve come to the conclusion a series of long term partnerships is way easier than getting saddled with any one anxiety prone head case for too long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like neither are right because you can’t decide. When you know, you know.

+1. If either was the right one, there wouldn’t be a question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are they? What do they do? How much money do they make?

The latter is the real thing that the people of DCUM care about. Just pick who makes more money and has a higher net worth. Problem solved.

Once you boil down female psychology to its bare essence things become so much more interesting. It’s all about money, even when equity is supposedly the goal these days.

Women are a handful. Can’t make decisions, or waffle 95% of the time on anything, then when a man gets mad because his linear thought process is alarmed by the neurotic up and down process and voiced this annoyance to the the woman she gets upset. The whole marriage thing is nuts. I’ve come to the conclusion a series of long term partnerships is way easier than getting saddled with any one anxiety prone head case for too long.

Your issues with “women” are, well, your issues. Try treating them as human beings and your experiences may improve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are they? What do they do? How much money do they make?

The latter is the real thing that the people of DCUM care about. Just pick who makes more money and has a higher net worth. Problem solved.

Once you boil down female psychology to its bare essence things become so much more interesting. It’s all about money, even when equity is supposedly the goal these days.

Women are a handful. Can’t make decisions, or waffle 95% of the time on anything, then when a man gets mad because his linear thought process is alarmed by the neurotic up and down process and voiced this annoyance to the the woman she gets upset. The whole marriage thing is nuts. I’ve come to the conclusion a series of long term partnerships is way easier than getting saddled with any one anxiety prone head case for too long.

You sound like a misogynist who is also the common denominator in your failed relationships. Please do spare the poor women you date and don’t marry.

[Anonymous]

I had this issue in my early 20s. I wanted to make a quick decision and chose one guy while staying friends with the other. It was pretty naive of me to do that. I always had unresolved feelings about the second guy. In the end, I broke up with the first guy after over a year as I was always wondering about the 2nd guy and dated him for a while and realized he wasn't right either, but the first guy had been the better choice overall in terms of relationship material and being a life partner. In the end, I ended up with neither one. Take your time as it is a big decision.