Dating Two Guys - Need To Make A Decision

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like neither are right because you can’t decide. When you know, you know.

Agree!

[Anonymous]

OP here. I slept with both of them over the weekend ( used protection). One was slightly better than the other but both were good.

I have talked future plans with both and they both said they are looking to settle down. One is 5 years older and the other is 7 years older than me. Both are about the same on paper. I like one slightly more. They both talked about exclusively after sleeping together this weekend. I feel like I have to make a decision.

[Anonymous]

I call TROLL!

[Anonymous]

Keep throwing leg. Don’t decide now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I slept with both of them over the weekend ( used protection). One was slightly better than the other but both were good.

I have talked future plans with both and they both said they are looking to settle down. One is 5 years older and the other is 7 years older than me. Both are about the same on paper. I like one slightly more. They both talked about exclusively after sleeping together this weekend. I feel like I have to make a decision.

I hate the way women judge men in bed. It's like a contest.

[Anonymous]

I usually date one person at a time as well but think you are in a unique position to explore both relationships a little more. I’ve met people I thought were “the one” and they changed dramatically after a few weeks. I would go on a weekend getaway with both which involve a semi-long drive in the car and see who makes a better travel partner. It may also be worth exploring things with them intimately first before deciding. It’s your future and you need to gather as much information as you can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I call TROLL!

OP here. How am I a troll?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I slept with both of them over the weekend ( used protection). One was slightly better than the other but both were good.

I have talked future plans with both and they both said they are looking to settle down. One is 5 years older and the other is 7 years older than me. Both are about the same on paper. I like one slightly more. They both talked about exclusively after sleeping together this weekend. I feel like I have to make a decision.

I hate the way women judge men in bed. It's like a contest.

OP here. Men judge women in bed all of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I usually date one person at a time as well but think you are in a unique position to explore both relationships a little more. I’ve met people I thought were “the one” and they changed dramatically after a few weeks. I would go on a weekend getaway with both which involve a semi-long drive in the car and see who makes a better travel partner. It may also be worth exploring things with them intimately first before deciding. It’s your future and you need to gather as much information as you can.

OP here. Same. I’ve only ever dated one guy at a time but I’m early thirties and don’t have time to date one guy at a time if I want to get married have kids soon. I’m tired of wasting time on one guy and having to start over again. My thought was to date 2-3 guys for 1-2 months and see if I liked any of them to continue. Now I like two of them. I had another guy but broke it off after third date because he wasn’t right for me.

[Anonymous]

How are their executive functioning skills ? Apparently a lot of DCUM wives married losers that can’t unload the dishwasher or schedule a doctors appointment so you may throw that into consideration.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do they treat waiters and animals?
Are their parents still together?

Some waiters really do suck, but the way a person treats animals tells me all I need to know.

[Anonymous]

Pull a George Costanza, Do the Opposite.

"It became very clear to me sitting out there today, that every relationship decision I've ever made, in my entire life, has been wrong. My life is the opposite of everything I want it to be. Every instinct I have, in every of life, who to date... It's all been wrong."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted the same questions a few weeks ago. I was leaning towards one, but decided to keep dating both and see what happened (while being honest with both, of course).

I’m really glad I did, because the one I was leaning towards ended up having problems that didn’t come out until later on.

I think there’s generally a lot of pressure on women to choose, commit, and put out early on, but 5 dates is nothing. I think it takes a solid 12-15 before people’s true colors begin to show.

Let them know you aren’t ready to be exclusive and keep dating both another few weeks. How they handle it will tell you a LOT about their character. A man who can’t wait 2-3 months to be physically intimate and pressure you to choose is NOT the kind of man you want to be with long term.

Were you the poster who was seeing the doctor and the other guy who you had more chemistry with? If so - what happened?

[Anonymous]

How old are they? What do they do? How much money do they make?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are they? What do they do? How much money do they make?

The latter is the real thing that the people of DCUM care about. Just pick who makes more money and has a higher net worth. Problem solved.