I can't be friends with moms of 3+ kids

[Anonymous]

I have 3 kids and my oldest is 12. I have many friends with one child. We also have a seven figure income and interesting hobbies and interests. I love hanging out with kids or without kids. All 3 of my kids are pretty amazing and people seem to enjoy hanging out with us.

There is a difference when I hang out with my preschooler’s friends circle vs my 12yo’s friends’ parents who also have older kids in college. I personally like the younger set better. They are more fun.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re old and have an only. We’re still ovulating and have fun fanilies. Can’t relate!

OP here. No, you're not fun. You don't have anything to talk about other than childcare. You're also always tired because you never get any sleep, but you spend your days cooking and cleaning and you complain all the time about your life. So why do this to yourself?

I’m an AVP at a Big Ten. I travel and am a Master’s swimmer. Bye! Sorry you can’t handle more than one lonely child.

You're obviously an exception. Most moms struggle having a career and 3 kids. Many drop working because they can't afford to pay for 3 spots at daycare and keep up with demands of home and work life.

There are plenty of moms in this area with three or more kids who are thriving in their careers and find time for their own interests as well. The ones I know have husbands who are equal partners when it comes to household responsibilities. They are also very deliberate about what is worthy of their time and how to maximize it - like working out with friends early in the morning.

Same. My neighbor has three and is a major player at a marketing firm. She plays tennis, travels, and is a great mom. I’d rather hang out with her than with many others I know who have fewer kids but always seem frazzled and overwhelmed. It’s not the number of children, or even the circumstances—it’s personality, capacity, and balance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You go out to a restaurant, you spend 60 dollars. So you go out half the time.

You go out to s restaurant AND pay the babysitter. It’s starting to look like $150 for an outing. Unless you are dining at McDonalds.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You go out to a restaurant, you spend 60 dollars. So you go out half the time.

You go out to s restaurant AND pay the babysitter. It’s starting to look like $150 for an outing. Unless you are dining at McDonalds.

Pick richer friends.

[Anonymous]

As a nanny please tel me where these mysterious families with 3+ kids are who pay $60 an hour?

[Anonymous]

Well, in my circles I don’t know anyone with 3+ kids with a decent career. Most of them SAHMs. A couple work, but not high income jobs.

[Anonymous]

I have 4 kids. We don’t have breakable knick knacks in the living room. We also don’t go out to dinner as much because, for us, it does get expensive. I just don’t care about these things that much. I really like my family the way it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny please tel me where these mysterious families with 3+ kids are who pay $60 an hour?

It’s not an hour. It’s a couple of hours.
How much do they pay you when a couple has a night out?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a nanny please tel me where these mysterious families with 3+ kids are who pay $60 an hour?

It’s not an hour. It’s a couple of hours.
How much do they pay you when a couple has a night out?

OP explicitly said $60 an hour. Literally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, in my circles I don’t know anyone with 3+ kids with a decent career. Most of them SAHMs. A couple work, but not high income jobs.

It’s almost as if there are “circles” besides yours—ones with higher-earning women with better titles than the mothers you socialize with.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are trolling, obviously too much time on your hands. Maybe have a second to keep you busy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, in my circles I don’t know anyone with 3+ kids with a decent career. Most of them SAHMs. A couple work, but not high income jobs.

That’s me. 4 kids. Not a high income earner. We are financially stable and I honestly just don’t care that much about being rich or impressive to people I don’t know. Honestly, though, this would be true for me even if I only had one or two kids.

[Anonymous]

Man OP is weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, in my circles I don’t know anyone with 3+ kids with a decent career. Most of them SAHMs. A couple work, but not high income jobs.

Ew can you imagine being friends with someone not obsessed with status and working a high income job?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a nanny please tel me where these mysterious families with 3+ kids are who pay $60 an hour?

It’s not an hour. It’s a couple of hours.
How much do they pay you when a couple has a night out?

OP explicitly said $60 an hour. Literally.

Correct. “It's impossible to have adult only time doing something fun because spending $60 an hour for a sitter is too expensive for them.” Hyperbolic, judge mental, self-satisfied and cruel. Super cool combo.