I can't be friends with moms of 3+ kids

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We are all different and are made for different lives. I personally would never want to have only 1 child and could write a very mean and judgmental post like OP did.

But I am actually very happy with my comfortable life, my interesting job, my wonderful nanny, my super efficient house cleaner and my very fun (and sometimes loud) 3 kids!

To each his own and I have met several people who wished could have had more children… I have never met one who wished for fewer kids.

I have to say, you sound old and boring OP… perhaps you are not old, but you are definitely boring

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Anonymous wrote:Pp w 5 kids. I socialize w childless people. I have a spouse who can babysit. I really don't see how its any harder than 2 in terms of my social life. Once you need babysitting you need babysitting

That's pathetic that you see it that way.

I'm perfectly happy being pathetic in your eyes and having a great social life!

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Anonymous wrote:You’re old and have an only. We’re still ovulating and have fun fanilies. Can’t relate!

OP here. No, you're not fun. You don't have anything to talk about other than childcare. You're also always tired because you never get any sleep, but you spend your days cooking and cleaning and you complain all the time about your life. So why do this to yourself?

I’m an AVP at a Big Ten. I travel and am a Master’s swimmer. Bye! Sorry you can’t handle more than one lonely child.

This is horrible mean. It was kind of rude of OP to make judgements in her original post, but this is beyond the pale and really reflects poorly on you. Shame on you. So mean.

OP felt free to make some sweeping generalizations. If you dish it out…

OP insulted you (apparently). YOU insulted a child. That's the difference.

No, that poster didn’t. They said OP wasn’t able to handle more than one. That’s a reflection of the Op, not the kid. They were insulting the OP who no one feels sorry for, except apparently you.

I feel sorry for basically everyone on this thread--moms of singletons and multiples. You've all shown your ass today. Congrats!

And what about yourself? You taking the high road?
Save the lecture.

DP. One line comment is a lecture? You didn't fare well in school, did you?

How ironic. It was three lines. Math not your thing?

It's a single line of text made up of three sentences. Your desperate attempt at a comeback...failed. Idiot.

Dp. It literally posts on three different lines every time you keep quoting it. You sound unhinged and immature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are all different and are made for different lives. I personally would never want to have only 1 child and could write a very mean and judgmental post like OP did.

But I am actually very happy with my comfortable life, my interesting job, my wonderful nanny, my super efficient house cleaner and my very fun (and sometimes loud) 3 kids!

To each his own and I have met several people who wished could have had more children… I have never met one who wished for fewer kids.

I have to say, you sound old and boring OP… perhaps you are not old, but you are definitely boring

You have never met one who was comfortable admitting out loud that they wished for fewer kids.

On the other hand, OP is a real jerk so…

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Anonymous wrote:We are all different and are made for different lives. I personally would never want to have only 1 child and could write a very mean and judgmental post like OP did.

But I am actually very happy with my comfortable life, my interesting job, my wonderful nanny, my super efficient house cleaner and my very fun (and sometimes loud) 3 kids!

To each his own and I have met several people who wished could have had more children… I have never met one who wished for fewer kids.

I have to say, you sound old and boring OP… perhaps you are not old, but you are definitely boring

You have never met one who was comfortable admitting out loud that they wished for fewer kids.

On the other hand, OP is a real jerk so…

This. Also, even if someone might admit to themselves that it might have been better to have fewer kids for any number of reasons, very few parents would wish one of their children out of existence. It's easy to lament a child who never came into existence. My MIL has spent her entire adult life being sad she never had a daughter, for instance. I am the mother of an only, and that was a conscious choice we made and that I am happy with. But it is impossible not to sometimes wonder what another child would have been like. We came close enough that we had names picked out. That doesn't mean I think we made a mistake in sticking with one, but it's normal to sometimes think about the other paths your life might have taken. I also sometimes think about what life would be like if I'd taken a promotion across the country when it was offered to me 15 years ago, or if I'd dropped out of grad school after the first year when I was very inclined to do so. I have no regrets in life, but my mind sometimes travels down these roads anyway. It's normal.

But any parent who honestly sometimes thinks about what their life would be like if one of their children didn't exist? They rightly will never say this out loud because it would be to horrible to admit.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re old and have an only. We’re still ovulating and have fun fanilies. Can’t relate!

OP here. No, you're not fun. You don't have anything to talk about other than childcare. You're also always tired because you never get any sleep, but you spend your days cooking and cleaning and you complain all the time about your life. So why do this to yourself?

I’m an AVP at a Big Ten. I travel and am a Master’s swimmer. Bye! Sorry you can’t handle more than one lonely child.

This is horrible mean. It was kind of rude of OP to make judgements in her original post, but this is beyond the pale and really reflects poorly on you. Shame on you. So mean.

OP felt free to make some sweeping generalizations. If you dish it out…

OP insulted you (apparently). YOU insulted a child. That's the difference.

No, that poster didn’t. They said OP wasn’t able to handle more than one. That’s a reflection of the Op, not the kid. They were insulting the OP who no one feels sorry for, except apparently you.

I feel sorry for basically everyone on this thread--moms of singletons and multiples. You've all shown your ass today. Congrats!

And what about yourself? You taking the high road?
Save the lecture.

DP. One line comment is a lecture? You didn't fare well in school, did you?

How ironic. It was three lines. Math not your thing?

It's a single line of text made up of three sentences. Your desperate attempt at a comeback...failed. Idiot.

Dp. It literally posts on three different lines every time you keep quoting it. You sound unhinged and immature.

And another lame DCUM cookie cutter response.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re old and have an only. We’re still ovulating and have fun fanilies. Can’t relate!

OP here. No, you're not fun. You don't have anything to talk about other than childcare. You're also always tired because you never get any sleep, but you spend your days cooking and cleaning and you complain all the time about your life. So why do this to yourself?

I’m an AVP at a Big Ten. I travel and am a Master’s swimmer. Bye! Sorry you can’t handle more than one lonely child.

This is horrible mean. It was kind of rude of OP to make judgements in her original post, but this is beyond the pale and really reflects poorly on you. Shame on you. So mean.

OP felt free to make some sweeping generalizations. If you dish it out…

OP insulted you (apparently). YOU insulted a child. That's the difference.

No, that poster didn’t. They said OP wasn’t able to handle more than one. That’s a reflection of the Op, not the kid. They were insulting the OP who no one feels sorry for, except apparently you.

I feel sorry for basically everyone on this thread--moms of singletons and multiples. You've all shown your ass today. Congrats!

And what about yourself? You taking the high road?
Save the lecture.

DP. One line comment is a lecture? You didn't fare well in school, did you?

How ironic. It was three lines. Math not your thing?

It's a single line of text made up of three sentences. Your desperate attempt at a comeback...failed. Idiot.

Dp. It literally posts on three different lines every time you keep quoting it. You sound unhinged and immature.

Are you on a phone? On a computer screen it's one line. Regardless, it's a stupid quibble. Maybe don't call other unhinged and immature when you fit that bill yourself.

[Anonymous]

I feel like every person who has one child wished at one point or another that they had more kids. The ones who only wanted 1 either had a spouse who didn’t help, marriage on the rocks, got married too late and/or fertility problems. These are my good friends who share deep thoughts.

I’m happy with my 3 beautiful children. I’m glad their kids will have cousins. I hope to have many grandchildren one day.

Everyone is different and has different priorities and joys.

I love my kids. I hang out with other people who love their families. Sorry not sorry. I stay home and we go on 10+ trips per year. We have a good life. You may find us boring but I probably would find you equally boring.

I’m actually on a girls trip right now and everyone has multiple kids and we have plenty of good fun. I’m actually typing this drunk. I came back to the room earlier than the other friends. 3am is way past my bedtime but my friends are still able to stay out until 5.

[Anonymous]

I find people who talk about themselves and their dull jobs the most boring. Nothing worse than a self important lawyer who talks about themselves when no one is interested. I had this neighbor who would constantly talk about her work and I would try to avoid eye contact so I wouldn’t get stuck listening to her talk about herself. She was so unaware that literally no one cared about her work.

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All this makes me wonder why women sabotage themselves having 3-4 kids? Why do you do this to yourselves?

My second pregnancy resulted in twins. I had a hard time picking one to take home so ended up with both.

Same! And we have friends who understand (but also a nanny and a housekeeper since we both work demanding jobs.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find people who talk about themselves and their dull jobs the most boring. Nothing worse than a self important lawyer who talks about themselves when no one is interested. I had this neighbor who would constantly talk about her work and I would try to avoid eye contact so I wouldn’t get stuck listening to her talk about herself. She was so unaware that literally no one cared about her work.

I totally agree! And I work in international development and pre pandemic I used to travel a lot to different countries… my work is always different and I think not boring at all. That said, I talk about my travels and my experiences in those places… not the actual work… that IS pretty boring to everyone else!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a dad of three kids going on four. My first comment would be no babysitter costs even remotely $60 per hour. Are they doing your taxes and legal work too? Second comment, lots of people are cheapskates and basically never go out after having any number of kids. Third comment, we OFTEN use the fake excuse that we can't find a babysitter or can't afford one when we just don't want to hang out with that person. Same for airplane tickets to relatives we don't feel like visiting, "oof can't handle five plane tickets." Next thing you know we are all flying to hawaii. OP I bet they just don't want to hang out with you lol

OP here. But they do want to hang out, they do. They just bring all the kids with them and then spend that night chasing after them.

And yeah, good luck with plane tickets and hotels for a family of 5.

Well, they want to hang out with you as long as they have the ability to use their children as an excuse to get away...

Also, finding plane tickets and hotels for a family of five is like...the easiest thing ever? It's not like there are 15 of them.

It's not hard, but expensive.

What's your point? If you have three kids and therefore can't afford airfare and hotels then presumably travel wasn't a big priority of yours (unless you wanted one and ended up with triplets...).

If you're like all my friends with three kids, you can afford it, that's why you had three.

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Anonymous wrote:Pp w 5 kids. I socialize w childless people. I have a spouse who can babysit. I really don't see how its any harder than 2 in terms of my social life. Once you need babysitting you need babysitting

That's pathetic that you see it that way.

I'm perfectly happy being pathetic in your eyes and having a great social life!

Hmm, I have a great social life but neither my husband nor I see him as a babysitter to our own children. You know, the ones he made.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like every person who has one child wished at one point or another that they had more kids. The ones who only wanted 1 either had a spouse who didn’t help, marriage on the rocks, got married too late and/or fertility problems. These are my good friends who share deep thoughts.

I’m happy with my 3 beautiful children. I’m glad their kids will have cousins. I hope to have many grandchildren one day.

Everyone is different and has different priorities and joys.

I love my kids. I hang out with other people who love their families. Sorry not sorry. I stay home and we go on 10+ trips per year. We have a good life. You may find us boring but I probably would find you equally boring.

I’m actually on a girls trip right now and everyone has multiple kids and we have plenty of good fun. I’m actually typing this drunk. I came back to the room earlier than the other friends. 3am is way past my bedtime but my friends are still able to stay out until 5.

This is NOT true, so please stop spewing garbage like this, drunk or not. It's rude and unbelievably idiotic. I have multiple children but I have very close friends with onlies and yes, it was on purpose. They're rich enough and have good enough marriages and didn't have fertility issues but they decided to stop at one for many reasons.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re old and have an only. We’re still ovulating and have fun fanilies. Can’t relate!

Is this an oxymoron? As for you ovulating…eewwww.

None of the moms of multiples I know look like their having fun. None.

Another poor poster.

You are aware that these disgustingly classist remarks only make you look bad, not the people you’re responding to, right?