Overly involved inlaws who are a nuisance at kids activities

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I don't blame your husband for being upset. You really are a piece of work, OP.

Thanks for your input, #boymom!

How about namby pamby son grow the eff up and learn how to manage his parents and his schedule/kids’ calendar.

How about MIL/FIL grow the eff up and respect basic guidelines related to events and venues. If you came backstage and snapped photos at a dance recital while my kids were changing clothes, I would sue you. Period.

Yes, no one has touched on this. Were children in a state of undress backstage? And your MIL wanted to take photos? I think you should emphasize to your husband how disrespectful, creepy, and potentially illegal this behavior was.

^This. OP, you need to file a police report. If you don't you will be guilty the rest of your life for not addressing this abhorrent behavior. The fact she was around other people's children who were undressing, and then refused to leave when asked is a big red flag.

I’m on OP’s side here but this is literally insane.

[Anonymous]

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You should not apologize OP. Use this as an opening to start marriage counseling.

Your MIL disrespected YOU when she wouldn’t leave after you asked nicely. It’s especially bad that she did this in front of the volunteers AND in front of your children. In ignoring the volunteer, she’s showing your children the camp’s authority doesn’t matter, in ignoring you she’s showing your children that YOUR authority doesn’t matter. She’s establishing that only grandma’s rules matter.

That’s not okay.

Do not apologize for standing up for yourself. The worst part is that your husband yelled at you in the car—presumably in front of your children? He’s showing them he doesn’t respect you either. Only grandma is worthy of respect. Your children are attuned to this and are internalizing this lack of boundaries as normal.

Personally, I would use this as the start of a much needed break. Marriage counseling right away.

+1. I couldn’t have said it better.

+2. Agree with this. You are right to take a beat to calm down and get control of your emotions. The grandparents need to back down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I don't blame your husband for being upset. You really are a piece of work, OP.

Thanks for your input, #boymom!

How about namby pamby son grow the eff up and learn how to manage his parents and his schedule/kids’ calendar.

How about MIL/FIL grow the eff up and respect basic guidelines related to events and venues. If you came backstage and snapped photos at a dance recital while my kids were changing clothes, I would sue you. Period.

Yes, no one has touched on this. Were children in a state of undress backstage? And your MIL wanted to take photos? I think you should emphasize to your husband how disrespectful, creepy, and potentially illegal this behavior was.

^This. OP, you need to file a police report. If you don't you will be guilty the rest of your life for not addressing this abhorrent behavior. The fact she was around other people's children who were undressing, and then refused to leave when asked is a big red flag.

I’m on OP’s side here but this is literally insane.

I’m one of the prior “gtfo my backstage” posters and also think that OP filing a police report is absurd.
If police need to be involved the camp director will handle it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I don't blame your husband for being upset. You really are a piece of work, OP.

Thanks for your input, #boymom!

How about namby pamby son grow the eff up and learn how to manage his parents and his schedule/kids’ calendar.

How about MIL/FIL grow the eff up and respect basic guidelines related to events and venues. If you came backstage and snapped photos at a dance recital while my kids were changing clothes, I would sue you. Period.

Yes, no one has touched on this. Were children in a state of undress backstage? And your MIL wanted to take photos? I think you should emphasize to your husband how disrespectful, creepy, and potentially illegal this behavior was.

^This. OP, you need to file a police report. If you don't you will be guilty the rest of your life for not addressing this abhorrent behavior. The fact she was around other people's children who were undressing, and then refused to leave when asked is a big red flag.

I’m on OP’s side here but this is literally insane.

+ a million

[Anonymous]

You were right. Husband and mom are wrong. It’s his Mom so there is no understanding. It is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you over-sharing their schedules?

“Jim, I did raise my voice at your parents, but only after they blatantly ignored a venue staff member who told them they couldn’t be there, and ignored me the first several times I couldn’t be there. Tell me: what should I do and how should I react when your parents are literally ignoring me and a venue staff member telling them they can’t be somewhere due to event and COVID restrictions? How about you go have a conversation with THEM about listening to me and respecting basic boundaries and venue rules that I’m not even in charge of. After you have that conversation with them, and after they apologize to me for ignoring me and the staff member, then and only then will I apologize about raising my voice.”

Perfect lines!