Is my husband gay or am I crazy?

[Anonymous]

Self reflection, what do you look like? Have you
Let yourself go? Have you aged poorly? Maybe you are the problem?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he is bi ???? Sorry but there is no such thing as a bi-sexual man. Men are either straight or gay, there’s really no In between

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:HER HUSBAND IS GAY WTF PEOPLE WAKE UP

That is not necessarily true. I do not see that as definite at all. They are having sex once a week. That is good. He is religious. This does not scream gay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Self reflection, what do you look like? Have you
Let yourself go? Have you aged poorly? Maybe you are the problem?

They are having sex!! People get bored. Hello! Nothing is wrong. Seems like a long marriage. She loves him. Why she is looking for issues is beyond me.

[Anonymous]

She is crazy.
I do not think her husband is gay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:HER HUSBAND IS GAY WTF PEOPLE WAKE UP

That is not necessarily true. I do not see that as definite at all. They are having sex once a week. That is good. He is religious. This does not scream gay.

Means nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:HER HUSBAND IS GAY WTF PEOPLE WAKE UP

That is not necessarily true. I do not see that as definite at all. They are having sex once a week. That is good. He is religious. This does not scream gay.

Once per week is not “good” more like a minimum amount for survival.

[Anonymous]

Like 85% of Mormon men seem gay to may and obviously 85% of them are not gay.

[Anonymous]

He doesn’t sound gay to me. But you still have to deal with why you have doubts. Maybe therapy for you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like 85% of Mormon men seem gay to may and obviously 85% of them are not gay.

well, it is genetic and many do inter-marry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like 85% of Mormon men seem gay to may and obviously 85% of them are not gay.

well, it is genetic and many do inter-marry.

That’s interesting because a lot of Mormon men I’ve met have given me the same gay vibes. Would not surprise me if some of them are in the closet because it is such a conservative religion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like 85% of Mormon men seem gay to may and obviously 85% of them are not gay.

Ha no. You are probably just not used to men being kind and expressing the teeniest bit of emotion.

As somebody who was a practicing Mormon for 30 years and who lived among tons of closeted gay guys, many of whom married women, I’d say there is a 90% chance that OPs husband is gay. This is exactly how the ones who are closeted or who haven’t yet realized they are gay act.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like 85% of Mormon men seem gay to may and obviously 85% of them are not gay.

well, it is genetic and many do inter-marry.

WTF??? I have never heard that homosexuality is genetic and Mormons do not intermarry in the sense you’re talking about. You might be thinking of fundamentalist Mormons.

[Anonymous]

You’re not crazy. I had a great dynamic in a past relationship but also had suspicions he was gay for a lot of the same reasons you did. The best friendship dynamic was really unique to that relationship- I’ve never had suspicions about sexuality in any other relationship and they’re just much more sexually oriented. The guy either has intimacy issues or is deeply closeted gay (we also came from a religious background.)

I’m sorry you’re married with children dealing with this. Ultimately you will never know unless your husband is gay, chooses to accept it, and tells you. If you are unhappy in your marriage because of sex, that’s grounds for counseling. If you’re otherwise happy I probably wouldn’t rock the boat with kids involved unless you think your husband would come out with it sooner or later.

[Anonymous]

OP, I have said this before, but I would ask somebody who is gay. Seriously. Once I wondered about somebody and I showed my lesbian friend their Instagram account, where this guy posted pics of his home, his dog, selfies, his lady friends, and his guy friends, and she said he is definitely gay. A year later he came out. He was Mormon so he had a hard time coming out to himself; I’m pretty sure others knew he was gay before he did.