Is my husband gay or am I crazy?

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he is bi ???? Sorry but there is no such thing as a bi-sexual man. Men are either straight or gay, there’s really no In between


Where on gods green earth are you getting this information. And are you over 70?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:HER HUSBAND IS GAY WTF PEOPLE WAKE UP


+1

These commenters, at best, have one token gay friend.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:HER HUSBAND IS GAY WTF PEOPLE WAKE UP


+1

These commenters, at best, have one token gay friend.


On the other hand, as I said before, I am probably one of the only conservative Christians here, and most people here probably don’t have many conservative Christian male friends, and I have dozens and have known hundreds. His behavior is typical of that culture.
Anonymous
Or rather, not atypical. It’s not like most are that way, but her description of him sounds unsuspicious to me.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:HER HUSBAND IS GAY WTF PEOPLE WAKE UP


+1

These commenters, at best, have one token gay friend.


On the other hand, as I said before, I am probably one of the only conservative Christians here, and most people here probably don’t have many conservative Christian male friends, and I have dozens and have known hundreds. His behavior is typical of that culture.


On the other other hand, I’m probably the only Mormon on here and this guy’s behavior is typical of the dozens of the gay Mormon men I know. This is how people who have gay shame act.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:HER HUSBAND IS GAY WTF PEOPLE WAKE UP


+1

These commenters, at best, have one token gay friend.


On the other hand, as I said before, I am probably one of the only conservative Christians here, and most people here probably don’t have many conservative Christian male friends, and I have dozens and have known hundreds. His behavior is typical of that culture.


+100 people on here don’t even have a token conservative Christian friend.
Anonymous
Jessica Turner wrote about this after Matthew came out and divorced her. So sad. I mean, they’re putting on a good Instagram coparenting display, but it sounds so painful.
Anonymous
Conservative Christian woman here. I just mentioned this post to my husband and he is dismayed by some of the responses. Friendships with men have been the norm in male culture, not just among conservative Christians. Doing things one on one with other men - do you all know any working class men? This is the norm. And mentorship is not suspicious. Come on!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:HER HUSBAND IS GAY WTF PEOPLE WAKE UP


+1

These commenters, at best, have one token gay friend.


On the other hand, as I said before, I am probably one of the only conservative Christians here, and most people here probably don’t have many conservative Christian male friends, and I have dozens and have known hundreds. His behavior is typical of that culture.


+100 people on here don’t even have a token conservative Christian friend.


It doesn’t matter how many conservative religious men you know if you don’t know any who are gay and not out. I know tons.
Anonymous
As someone with a ton of gay friends... he sounds exactly like the kind of dude they hook up with on the DL on the weekends. And then the guy goes back to their GF. The "straight" men who hide it are disgusting IMO
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:HER HUSBAND IS GAY WTF PEOPLE WAKE UP


That is not necessarily true. I do not see that as definite at all. They are having sex once a week. That is good. He is religious. This does not scream gay.


Once per week is not “good” more like a minimum amount for survival.




Most marriage counselors define 11 times per YEAR or fewer to be a “sexless marriage.”

Weekly sex is not abnormal - especially for dual income couples with kids who have been married for years.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:HER HUSBAND IS GAY WTF PEOPLE WAKE UP


That is not necessarily true. I do not see that as definite at all. They are having sex once a week. That is good. He is religious. This does not scream gay.


Once a week? 50 yr old hetero male married 15 years with a gaggle of kids. I would have sex 3 times a week if I could; but DW limits us to once a week. I have to manage self care to keep from pestering her mid week.

If OP is looking for more frequent sex, and her DH at 40 is demurring, something is off (and I would guess he’s gay for my $.02).
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Conservative Christian woman here. I just mentioned this post to my husband and he is dismayed by some of the responses. Friendships with men have been the norm in male culture, not just among conservative Christians. Doing things one on one with other men - do you all know any working class men? This is the norm. And mentorship is not suspicious. Come on!


Working class men are not going on one-on-one hikes, unless they are hunting and even then usually it’s 3 or more.
Anonymous
The new young attractive male friend holds your answers. Catfish him on social media already.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Conservative Christian woman here. I just mentioned this post to my husband and he is dismayed by some of the responses. Friendships with men have been the norm in male culture, not just among conservative Christians. Doing things one on one with other men - do you all know any working class men? This is the norm. And mentorship is not suspicious. Come on!


This is funny because my husband is really authentic and friendly with everybody and doesn’t have some kind of emotional wall with men like a lot of men do (for a lot of men friendship means doing activities with each other and not sharing feelings) and my husband gets hit on by gay men a ton. Why? Because in our messed up culture, emotional closeness = romance for men.

So yeah, sadly, the fact that a man has close, real emotional bonds with men is an indicator that he is gay. Of course it’s not definitive, as in the case with my husband, but it’s true.

It’s probably also because he is really fit and gay men tend to have high standards for fitness)

(If anybody wants citations to studies about these things, I can provide them)
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