DH called our nanny hot

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Anonymous wrote:Get a new nanny. Up to you if you wanna tell your husband why.

What did the nanny do to warrant losing her job?

[Anonymous]

I am a DW who would be hurt but understand that it is a guy talking to his friend. If our gardener looks good I am going to be sharing that info with someone because it's just...titillating. Life is such a boring slog when you're married. Why make it 100% unbearable for him? He is a good wife. Nurse your feelings privately and let it go.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't even care. But I'm not insecure, and my husband & I frequently mention it when we think somebody's hot. We trust one another, though.

I don't know what the nanny did to deserve getting fired.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get a new nanny. Up to you if you wanna tell your husband why.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a male nanny who's hot. He's not my type, but I can recognize hotness when I see it. I'm totally in love with DH and would never ever cheat on him. And our nanny is fantastic with our kids and they love him to pieces - it's not like he was hired for his looks.

Relax. It's as if your husband was stating a fact, not a preference.

I'm secretly gay and I'd be lusting after the hot nanny without telling my wife. LOL

[Anonymous]

NP. I have not read all the comments but my opinions around attractive nannies is that it is inviting temptation into your home! Don’t do it. Even if you have the best husband in the world and the healthiest marriage it is still temptation.
Get a new nanny!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No wonder there are so many effed up relationships in this area. People justifying an adult, married father making wildly inappropriate sexually charged comments (and yes, the word “hot” versus pretty or attractive implies this) to his (possibly equally immature) friend about his MUCH younger EMPLOYEE, while beating up on the wife for (understandably) feeling hurt/insecure...

Of course people notice attractive people. Noticing and verbalizing are actually two different things. Show your spouse some respect and consideration. Treat your employees with respect. “Everyone else does it” is not an excuse that we let fly with our children, so why would it be acceptable for an adult?

+1

And no wonder so many men are jerks. We don’t just excuse them, we say it’s normal and expected. Sheesh. I am glad I got a good husband but I worry for my children, both in their relationships but also in their everyday interactions with men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd get rid of the husband, not the nanny.

This might be a little drastic, but yeah. This is a red flag, no matter how many people think it’s totally fine to call your nanny “hot.”

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I never said this in my post about considering firing her. That is outrageous.

I'm asking for advice if this is worth bringing up to my DH??

Yes. He needs a filter. Talking about someone other than his wife in a sexual way to others is inappropriate/bad judgment. Sure, he can find her attractive (after all, she is), but calling her “hot” ups the creep factor. That’s just not a way a married man should be talking about his nanny, nor is it the way an employer should be talking about his employee.

I’m a woman and this is exactly why men don’t talk to us
Let it go

Maybe men don’t talk to you, but they talk to me. Sheesh. Sad that you think you have to excuse bad behavior just to get and keep a man. (DP)

[Anonymous]

For all you saying fire the nanny, what do you think that is going to do?


If your husband is going to cheat on you he is going to do it no matter how many nannies you fire.

If nAnny and husband are going to engage in an affair they are going to do it no matter what, in fact you firing her might be the catalyst to do so.


Good luck finding a good nanny if you get a rep for randomly firing nannies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No wonder there are so many effed up relationships in this area. People justifying an adult, married father making wildly inappropriate sexually charged comments (and yes, the word “hot” versus pretty or attractive implies this) to his (possibly equally immature) friend about his MUCH younger EMPLOYEE, while beating up on the wife for (understandably) feeling hurt/insecure...

Of course people notice attractive people. Noticing and verbalizing are actually two different things. Show your spouse some respect and consideration. Treat your employees with respect. “Everyone else does it” is not an excuse that we let fly with our children, so why would it be acceptable for an adult?

+1

And no wonder so many men are jerks. We don’t just excuse them, we say it’s normal and expected. Sheesh. I am glad I got a good husband but I worry for my children, both in their relationships but also in their everyday interactions with men.

It's also incredibly sad that so many would rather punish the nanny for 2 things she has no control over than hold their husband accountable. Sick.

[Anonymous]

You're all prudes and insecure in your marriages. If we had a hot nanny, I guarantee we'd joke with each other about it directly. If you and your husband can't, then look inward and ask yourself what's wrong with your marriage.

[Anonymous]

Danger, danger will robinson

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Anonymous wrote:All of you are gross for objectifying her like that. I bet she’d be mortified to learn of the gossip.

This, and your husband an his friend gross her out. Now you and your friend gross her out also. Men are dogs, but what is your excuse, ladies?

[Anonymous]

I don't understand this. At all.

You hired a 28 year old who was objectively attractive before your DH said anything. Did you think he didn't notice her? The only difference is he said the part in his head out loud.

All men want to sleep with women like her.