Husband making comments about my dad's will

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow so many greedy and entitled children here.

+1

Exactly.

Not really. As a wife and mom, I wouldn't want DH to remarry as I did not spend my life building wealth for another woman to enjoy. It's for my kids to enjoy once we are gone.

But you are DEAD control freak. Nothing wrong with OP’s dad looking for a partner to share his life. He could live another 20-30 years.

Yes, I don't want another woman to control my children's money. I want the best for my kids. Mama bear.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who are all these people that feel entitled to money they didn't earn? I'm shocked to see all these greedy responses. If my parents decide they want to set all their money on fire before they pass, it's their prerogative.

You're all adults. Make your own money and stop hovering over your aging parents like vultures.

This isn’t the issue. I make more in a year than my parents made their entire lives. And if my DW were to pass before me, and I’m rounding 70 and decide to marry a woman 10 years younger to keep my d wet, shifting all or a good chunk of that wealth to Wife #2 and her kids/grandkids—at the expense of my own, who happen to be the sole offspring of my dead wife who raised the family—I would be an absolute scumbag. Or, at a minimum, an old dolt who allowed his heirs to be robbed of millions because I needed “companionship” (which I note is readily available without actually remarrying).

Yes, you are a scumbag. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow so many greedy and entitled children here.

+1

Exactly.

Not really. As a wife and mom, I wouldn't want DH to remarry as I did not spend my life building wealth for another woman to enjoy. It's for my kids to enjoy once we are gone.

But you are DEAD control freak. Nothing wrong with OP’s dad looking for a partner to share his life. He could live another 20-30 years.

He can be happy alone. My MIL was widowed at 52. She is 76 now. Has not been on a single date. That's classy. She has hobbies etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow so many greedy and entitled children here.

+1

Exactly.

Not really. As a wife and mom, I wouldn't want DH to remarry as I did not spend my life building wealth for another woman to enjoy. It's for my kids to enjoy once we are gone.

As a wife and a mom, I did not spend my entire life accumulating money for any reason other than that I enjoy my work, I live within my means, and I hope not to be a financial burden on my kids or husband after I die. I want my husband to be happy, since I did spend my life building a life with him, including our wealth and the children we raised together. If I die before him and he wants to remarry, I hope he picks someone who makes him happy and don’t really care beyond that. I have specific things set aside for my kids explicitly and if my husband’s hypothetical second wife wants to spend our money to give my DH the golden years I couldn’t, more power to her.

If my kids inherit the balance, great. If there is no balance and all the estate needs get taken care of, great. I trust my husband to honor me and our marriage. If I didn’t trust him with that, I wouldn’t have married and procreated with him.

I prioritize my kids, not my DH's new bed buddy. If having a new woman is more important than his kids....that says a lot.

His kids are adults. It’s not like he’s out getting married to the first floozy he sees while his young kids are distraught from the loss of their mom. I also recognize that my husband is a person and certainly I’d rather him have a partner in his later years than burden my kids with being his entire support system. I say this as a person whose dad will never remarry and who is currently the child managing that decline. It is exhausting. I don’t want it for my kids. YMMV I guess.

You are reading really different posts from the OP than me, I guess. The only person upset about this situation is the OP’s husband, who doesn’t really get a say. OP isn’t upset about the marriage. She’s upset with her husband for crossing a line repeatedly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow so many greedy and entitled children here.

+1

Exactly.

Not really. As a wife and mom, I wouldn't want DH to remarry as I did not spend my life building wealth for another woman to enjoy. It's for my kids to enjoy once we are gone.

But you are DEAD control freak. Nothing wrong with OP’s dad looking for a partner to share his life. He could live another 20-30 years.

Yes, I don't want another woman to control my children's money. I want the best for my kids. Mama bear.

Not your children’s money. It’s you DH’s money since you are gone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow so many greedy and entitled children here.

+1

Exactly.

Not really. As a wife and mom, I wouldn't want DH to remarry as I did not spend my life building wealth for another woman to enjoy. It's for my kids to enjoy once we are gone.

But you are DEAD control freak. Nothing wrong with OP’s dad looking for a partner to share his life. He could live another 20-30 years.

He can be happy alone. My MIL was widowed at 52. She is 76 now. Has not been on a single date. That's classy. She has hobbies etc.

He can be happy alone? Are you real? You dictate one’s happiness? Listen to yourself. Does that sound right to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are all these people that feel entitled to money they didn't earn? I'm shocked to see all these greedy responses. If my parents decide they want to set all their money on fire before they pass, it's their prerogative.

You're all adults. Make your own money and stop hovering over your aging parents like vultures.

This isn’t the issue. I make more in a year than my parents made their entire lives. And if my DW were to pass before me, and I’m rounding 70 and decide to marry a woman 10 years younger to keep my d wet, shifting all or a good chunk of that wealth to Wife #2 and her kids/grandkids—at the expense of my own, who happen to be the sole offspring of my dead wife who raised the family—I would be an absolute scumbag. Or, at a minimum, an old dolt who allowed his heirs to be robbed of millions because I needed “companionship” (which I note is readily available without actually remarrying).

I like you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow so many greedy and entitled children here.

+1

Exactly.

Not really. As a wife and mom, I wouldn't want DH to remarry as I did not spend my life building wealth for another woman to enjoy. It's for my kids to enjoy once we are gone.

But you are DEAD control freak. Nothing wrong with OP’s dad looking for a partner to share his life. He could live another 20-30 years.

He can be happy alone. My MIL was widowed at 52. She is 76 now. Has not been on a single date. That's classy. She has hobbies etc.

He can be happy alone? Are you real? You dictate one’s happiness? Listen to yourself. Does that sound right to you?

My opinion

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow so many greedy and entitled children here.

+1

Exactly.

Not really. As a wife and mom, I wouldn't want DH to remarry as I did not spend my life building wealth for another woman to enjoy. It's for my kids to enjoy once we are gone.

But you are DEAD control freak. Nothing wrong with OP’s dad looking for a partner to share his life. He could live another 20-30 years.

Yes, I don't want another woman to control my children's money. I want the best for my kids. Mama bear.

Not your children’s money. It’s you DH’s money since you are gone.

Yeah, I think its best to make a trust or set something up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow so many greedy and entitled children here.

+1

Exactly.

Not really. As a wife and mom, I wouldn't want DH to remarry as I did not spend my life building wealth for another woman to enjoy. It's for my kids to enjoy once we are gone.

As a wife and a mom, I did not spend my entire life accumulating money for any reason other than that I enjoy my work, I live within my means, and I hope not to be a financial burden on my kids or husband after I die. I want my husband to be happy, since I did spend my life building a life with him, including our wealth and the children we raised together. If I die before him and he wants to remarry, I hope he picks someone who makes him happy and don’t really care beyond that. I have specific things set aside for my kids explicitly and if my husband’s hypothetical second wife wants to spend our money to give my DH the golden years I couldn’t, more power to her.

If my kids inherit the balance, great. If there is no balance and all the estate needs get taken care of, great. I trust my husband to honor me and our marriage. If I didn’t trust him with that, I wouldn’t have married and procreated with him.

I prioritize my kids, not my DH's new bed buddy. If having a new woman is more important than his kids....that says a lot.

His kids are adults. It’s not like he’s out getting married to the first floozy he sees while his young kids are distraught from the loss of their mom. I also recognize that my husband is a person and certainly I’d rather him have a partner in his later years than burden my kids with being his entire support system. I say this as a person whose dad will never remarry and who is currently the child managing that decline. It is exhausting. I don’t want it for my kids. YMMV I guess.

You are reading really different posts from the OP than me, I guess. The only person upset about this situation is the OP’s husband, who doesn’t really get a say. OP isn’t upset about the marriage. She’s upset with her husband for crossing a line repeatedly.

Her husband has an opinion ( a good one). We are allowed to share our thoughts with our spouse. His concerns are legit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow so many greedy and entitled children here.

+1

Exactly.

Not really. As a wife and mom, I wouldn't want DH to remarry as I did not spend my life building wealth for another woman to enjoy. It's for my kids to enjoy once we are gone.

But you are DEAD control freak. Nothing wrong with OP’s dad looking for a partner to share his life. He could live another 20-30 years.

Yes, I don't want another woman to control my children's money. I want the best for my kids. Mama bear.

Your opinion won’t count once you’re gone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow so many greedy and entitled children here.

+1

Exactly.

Not really. As a wife and mom, I wouldn't want DH to remarry as I did not spend my life building wealth for another woman to enjoy. It's for my kids to enjoy once we are gone.

But you are DEAD control freak. Nothing wrong with OP’s dad looking for a partner to share his life. He could live another 20-30 years.

Yes, I don't want another woman to control my children's money. I want the best for my kids. Mama bear.

Your opinion won’t count once you’re gone.

We are going to look into trusts etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow so many greedy and entitled children here.

+1

Exactly.

Not really. As a wife and mom, I wouldn't want DH to remarry as I did not spend my life building wealth for another woman to enjoy. It's for my kids to enjoy once we are gone.

But you are DEAD control freak. Nothing wrong with OP’s dad looking for a partner to share his life. He could live another 20-30 years.

Yes, I don't want another woman to control my children's money. I want the best for my kids. Mama bear.

Your opinion won’t count once you’re gone.

I have friends that will f up DH after I am gone if he remarries. ( kidding)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow so many greedy and entitled children here.

+1

Exactly.

Not really. As a wife and mom, I wouldn't want DH to remarry as I did not spend my life building wealth for another woman to enjoy. It's for my kids to enjoy once we are gone.

But you are DEAD control freak. Nothing wrong with OP’s dad looking for a partner to share his life. He could live another 20-30 years.

He can be happy alone. My MIL was widowed at 52. She is 76 now. Has not been on a single date. That's classy. She has hobbies etc.

You don't get to decide how another adult chooses to be happy. You don't even get an ounce of input.

If you want to protect the money, write up a will that ensures it goes to the kids.

[Anonymous]

This dad is putting his sexual needs ahead if his children. I just cannot.