What do men look for in a woman whom they would want to marry?
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Anonymous
So how many men on DCUM need to head to the gym RIGHT now by this logic? |
Anonymous
they should and they'd have happier marriages if they did if this is something their wife is attracted to. |
Anonymous
I am now divorced, but started out with more money, better credit, and a higher salary than my ex-husband. His credit was horrible, and left us with a high interest mortgage rate during a very competitive period. His car financing was under my name, with nearly 1% interest for the entirety of the loan. In the past I made poor decisions with credit, so I did not hold a low score against him. I did not think - wow his credit sucks, no way I will be with him. Maybe I should have. His credit eventually repaired, never quite reaching my level - but then shortly after we began divorce, and he tried to destroy any financial power I could have in the process out of anger/fear. Thankfully, I have a longer good standing history and reputation that worked out favorably, despite his attempts. As someone that never put money or prestige first as a "superficial" reason to be with someone, I also learned a hard lesson of the other extreme: men who under accomplish in life, are insecure, or use women not only as a trophy but a booster shot in their financial portfolio. Unfortunately, he hasn't been able to maintain what I helped him build. My worth has continued to grow, in more ways than one. I have no hard feelings, but I don't make excuses for him (or men like him) anymore. SES is an indicator, like everything else. The true characteristic of any person requires very intense vetting and a strong sense of morality to guide you. |
Anonymous
My ex always complained and said I should never go over a size 6. As long as I knew him he had a fat gut, fat neck, and little energy or stamina. I didn't judge him for it, but I should have. I have always exercised, not consistently but generally with good dietary habits. My new partner is very fit, very attractive, healthy eater, healthy emotionally, good cook and beautiful smile. While I have never been overweight, I do have fitness goals - he is fully accepting of me if I never meet them, but also very encouraging in maintaining a life style to support longevity, not simply for looks. He isn't preachy, and he practices what I value in principle. Loving someone really is about finding joy in giving a person what they need to be better. It is nice when it is effortless. |
Anonymous
yeah i don't really understand what you're fighting over here. i think people like to stay attractive to and for their spouses generally, right? maybe the word "skinny" was one that you didn't like - i understand! - but the general idea that your mate enjoys what you look like, and you'd like them to continue doing so, is pretty normal, right? i don't think it means your relationship isn't solid or is contingent? |