What do men look for in a woman whom they would want to marry?

[Anonymous]

I’ve known quite a few who look at the wealth of her family and parents.

Some others who look at their genetics and physical attributes that will be passed to children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve known quite a few who look at the wealth of her family and parents.

Some others who look at their genetics and physical attributes that will be passed to children.

+1. Any mental illness in her family? Alcoholics? Mom nagging or putting down her dad? Multiple divorces? Any bad apples (criminals)? All huge red flags.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the DC area a good job is really high on the list for both men and women.

+1,000

Interesting. I have moved from DC and good job isn't on the list for most men. Wonder if this is a cost of living thing

[Anonymous]

The three B’s. Brains, beauty and BJ’s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The three B’s. Brains, beauty and BJ’s.

My DH would agree and I believe I've got them covered!

[Anonymous]

Men don’t initiate the marriage discussion. I don’t think it’s really even on their minds when they are dating.

Here is how men decide to get married:
1). They like their girlfriend.
2). She wants to get married.

Of the ten or so couples I knew pretty well when they got engaged, only one got engaged without some sort of ultimatum, even if it was given very softly and sweetly.


*The one that got engaged without prompting was kind of OCPD and likes to have his life very structured. He also made all of the decisions about their house, their car, when to have their first child, etc.

[Anonymous]

Man here, basic requirements

Good person, how well she will age, not a social media addict.

Don’t care about job, or family history.

[Anonymous]

Looks and good personality (as in kind and generally a nice person).

Nothing else matters as much as the above two. NOT EVEN CLOSE.

Almost everything else is a bonus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men don’t initiate the marriage discussion. I don’t think it’s really even on their minds when they are dating.

Here is how men decide to get married:
1). They like their girlfriend.
2). She wants to get married.

Of the ten or so couples I knew pretty well when they got engaged, only one got engaged without some sort of ultimatum, even if it was given very softly and sweetly.


*The one that got engaged without prompting was kind of OCPD and likes to have his life very structured. He also made all of the decisions about their house, their car, when to have their first child, etc.

False, my husband bought a right a month after dating "knew I was he one"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the DC area a good job is really high on the list for both men and women.

+1,000

Interesting. I have moved from DC and good job isn't on the list for most men. Wonder if this is a cost of living thing

It's an education and ambition thing.

My friend moved from DC to Scottsdale, Arizona and was shocked at how many women never worked from a young age when married. She had a hard time finding women that were 'sharp' or could hold stimulating conversations.

She misses the wit and intellect that she found when she lived in NYC and DC. Her friends were lawyers, doctors, Feds, teachers, scientists, tech/software, etc..

A lot of men looking for a life mate that come from families with strong, capable and smart women are looking more from a partner than a homemaker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Smart, funny, good looking and good in the sack.

This is pretty much the exhaustive list for me

That plus good homemaker

? what does that mean? That you want her to be a sahm, do all the housechores, and childcare? Do you also want her to work and bring in income?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The three B’s. Brains, beauty and BJ’s.

Agree! Plus someone I can spend a lot of time with without getting bored or nagged. Marriage is a marathon and compatibility is critical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men don’t initiate the marriage discussion. I don’t think it’s really even on their minds when they are dating.

Here is how men decide to get married:
1). They like their girlfriend.
2). She wants to get married.

Of the ten or so couples I knew pretty well when they got engaged, only one got engaged without some sort of ultimatum, even if it was given very softly and sweetly.


*The one that got engaged without prompting was kind of OCPD and likes to have his life very structured. He also made all of the decisions about their house, their car, when to have their first child, etc.

False, my husband bought a right a month after dating "knew I was he one"

Yep. It was decided organically in our friend circle. None of us would have married any of
the guys if we had to give them an ultimatum.

[Anonymous]

OP, it's the whole package.

Looks, money, brains, BJs, physicial and mental health, education, family, common interests and values....and much more People look at human beings as a whole. I did not need a 10/10 in all areas for a lifetime partner, but the whole package had to add up...

If I was going to score it, I would say that in my wife's case, the brains, education, BJs, and common interests and values factors were off the charts. Health and money were not ideal. Everything else was neutral. But of course I did not look at it like that - I fell in love with the whole package of my wife, good and bad, and decided I wanted to spend my life with her.

[Anonymous]

Attractive, not crazy, enjoys sex are tops. Everything else is negotiable