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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^ why start a life together with somebody’s massive debt?!?!!!  +1[/quote]

I am now divorced, but started out with more money, better credit, and a higher salary than my ex-husband. His credit was horrible, and left us with a high interest mortgage rate during a very competitive period. His car financing was under my name, with nearly 1% interest for the entirety of the loan. In the past I made poor decisions with credit, so I did not hold a low score against him. I did not think - wow his credit sucks, no way I will be with him. Maybe I should have.

His credit eventually repaired, never quite reaching my level - but then shortly after we began divorce, and he tried to destroy any financial power I could have in the process out of anger/fear. Thankfully, I have a longer good standing history and reputation that worked out favorably, despite his attempts. As someone that never put money or prestige first as a "superficial" reason to be with someone, I also learned a hard lesson of the other extreme: men who under accomplish in life, are insecure, or use women not only as a trophy but a booster shot in their financial portfolio. Unfortunately, he hasn't been able to maintain what I helped him build. My worth has continued to grow, in more ways than one. I have no hard feelings, but I don't make excuses for him (or men like him) anymore. SES is an indicator, like everything else. The true characteristic of any person requires very intense vetting and a strong sense of morality to guide you.[/quote]

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