Was accidentally on a group text...

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I would reply - I'm sorry, XX you feel that way about Larlo. XXX, I appreciate the invitation but based off this text its best we decline the invitation. I don't want to put Larlo in a situation where he isn't welcome by everyone.

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Anonymous wrote:It is nice that they are including your child. He must be a nightmare. Be glad you have friends and laugh it off.

This, OP. Right now he’s a handful, but they include him. I think it says a lot about how much they like you- meaning they like you a lot. PIA kids usually get sidelined. Be very thankful and really observe your son- work with him on things that clearly drive other people crazy. It will make a better life for both of you.

I think it says a lot that none of the other moms in the group text stood up for you and your kid. No, these people do not like you very much and they are clearly not your friends.

I really don't understand comments like PPs' - are you really so obsessed with your own popularity that you want to be friends with people who are saying things like this about your child?? This isn't high school, and I, personally, would not tolerate this kind of mean girl behavior. It's kind of pathetic if you do.

I agree that it says a lot that nobody defended her, but I don't think it means that they don't like the mom. I think they must like her a lot or they'd exclude her. Clearly they ALL think that about the child, which is the reason that nobody could defend her. The only reason she's being included is because they like the mom. If OP does something bitchy now, they will all just avoid her family entirely.

NP. I agree. And how you react will determine whether your son has friends after today.

WTF? OP did nothing wrong. That mom owes OP an apology and that’s what determines if SHE still has OP as a friend after today. Why does everyone suddenly assume OP is hard up for friends? Would you give this advice to your teenage daughters?!

Mean girls grow up to be mean women and it shows.

I wasn’t talking about OP having friends. I’m talking about her kid having friends. When kids are little so many relationships are driven by parents.

I am the mom of a senior who was a tough kid. It’s not easy to be a difficult kid and it’s not easy for difficult kids to make and keep friends. For the sake of my kid, I’d definitely suck it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would reply - I'm sorry, XX you feel that way about Larlo. XXX, I appreciate the invitation but based off this text its best we decline the invitation. I don't want to put Larlo in a situation where he isn't welcome by everyone.

Way to be a martyr. Larlo actually is welcome, despite the fact that he’s a handful.

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Anonymous wrote:It is nice that they are including your child. He must be a nightmare. Be glad you have friends and laugh it off.

This, OP. Right now he’s a handful, but they include him. I think it says a lot about how much they like you- meaning they like you a lot. PIA kids usually get sidelined. Be very thankful and really observe your son- work with him on things that clearly drive other people crazy. It will make a better life for both of you.

I think it says a lot that none of the other moms in the group text stood up for you and your kid. No, these people do not like you very much and they are clearly not your friends.

I really don't understand comments like PPs' - are you really so obsessed with your own popularity that you want to be friends with people who are saying things like this about your child?? This isn't high school, and I, personally, would not tolerate this kind of mean girl behavior. It's kind of pathetic if you do.

I agree that it says a lot that nobody defended her, but I don't think it means that they don't like the mom. I think they must like her a lot or they'd exclude her. Clearly they ALL think that about the child, which is the reason that nobody could defend her. The only reason she's being included is because they like the mom. If OP does something bitchy now, they will all just avoid her family entirely.

NP. I agree. And how you react will determine whether your son has friends after today.

WTF? OP did nothing wrong. That mom owes OP an apology and that’s what determines if SHE still has OP as a friend after today. Why does everyone suddenly assume OP is hard up for friends? Would you give this advice to your teenage daughters?!

Mean girls grow up to be mean women and it shows.

I wasn’t talking about OP having friends. I’m talking about her kid having friends. When kids are little so many relationships are driven by parents.

I am the mom of a senior who was a tough kid. It’s not easy to be a difficult kid and it’s not easy for difficult kids to make and keep friends. For the sake of my kid, I’d definitely suck it up.

I understand what you’re saying but this woman and the rest of the group clearly do not like OP’s child. To echo what a previous poster said why continue to put a child in a situation where he isn’t all that welcomed and will only continue to be fodder for gossip? In many situations I would agree with you but not this one. Super toxic.

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Anonymous wrote:I would reply - I'm sorry, XX you feel that way about Larlo. XXX, I appreciate the invitation but based off this text its best we decline the invitation. I don't want to put Larlo in a situation where he isn't welcome by everyone.

Way to be a martyr. Larlo actually is welcome, despite the fact that he’s a handful.

He is welcome by the person who invited him but not the other parent. It was made clear he wasn't welcomed by that person. I wouldn't want my child around someone like that.

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Anonymous wrote:It is nice that they are including your child. He must be a nightmare. Be glad you have friends and laugh it off.

This, OP. Right now he’s a handful, but they include him. I think it says a lot about how much they like you- meaning they like you a lot. PIA kids usually get sidelined. Be very thankful and really observe your son- work with him on things that clearly drive other people crazy. It will make a better life for both of you.

I think it says a lot that none of the other moms in the group text stood up for you and your kid. No, these people do not like you very much and they are clearly not your friends.

I really don't understand comments like PPs' - are you really so obsessed with your own popularity that you want to be friends with people who are saying things like this about your child?? This isn't high school, and I, personally, would not tolerate this kind of mean girl behavior. It's kind of pathetic if you do.

I agree that it says a lot that nobody defended her, but I don't think it means that they don't like the mom. I think they must like her a lot or they'd exclude her. Clearly they ALL think that about the child, which is the reason that nobody could defend her. The only reason she's being included is because they like the mom. If OP does something bitchy now, they will all just avoid her family entirely.

NP. I agree. And how you react will determine whether your son has friends after today.

WTF? OP did nothing wrong. That mom owes OP an apology and that’s what determines if SHE still has OP as a friend after today. Why does everyone suddenly assume OP is hard up for friends? Would you give this advice to your teenage daughters?!

Mean girls grow up to be mean women and it shows.

I wasn’t talking about OP having friends. I’m talking about her kid having friends. When kids are little so many relationships are driven by parents.

I am the mom of a senior who was a tough kid. It’s not easy to be a difficult kid and it’s not easy for difficult kids to make and keep friends. For the sake of my kid, I’d definitely suck it up.

I understand what you’re saying but this woman and the rest of the group clearly do not like OP’s child. To echo what a previous poster said why continue to put a child in a situation where he isn’t all that welcomed and will only continue to be fodder for gossip? In many situations I would agree with you but not this one. Super toxic.

+1, did anyone say, we are very glad to have him or defend him in any way. If not, he's not welcome and its toxic.

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I think it says a lot that none of the other moms in the group text stood up for you and your kid. No, these people do not like you very much and they are clearly not your friends.

I think the other moms may have not said anything because they probably realized that Larlo's mom was on the thread and were horrified at Mean Mom's comment but hoped Larlo's mom missed it so they didn't want to give further life to the meanness by responding and keeping that part of the conversation going. At least, that's my charitable assumption. The test is that if you weigh in with what the PP above suggested, i.e., "sorry I realize Larlo can be a handful, thank you for including him"---the decent moms on the thread will chime in to say something nice or else text you privately with support. If no one responds at all, then I would agree that these people do not like you or your child and are not your friends.

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Anonymous wrote:It is nice that they are including your child. He must be a nightmare. Be glad you have friends and laugh it off.

Most young boys are nightmares.

That’s not true. But these people are all complicit in being jerks. I’d find new friends. What bitches. It’s one thing to say that quietly to another person, it’s another to put it in a group text.

If it were me, I might gift her a bottle of wine at the event and say “sorry to rain on your parade with our presence, but just so you know your little angel taught my kid the F word and is a bully like his mother” (or whatever it is her kid did because I’m sure they’re not perfect)

Well, someone is certainly a nightmare here...

As bad as the original comment was, so many of the responses here are 10x worse. I hate to think about what these posters' daughters will be like when they're teenagers.

Wrong. Trash talking a kid is beyond the pale. Calling out the bully is fine. I’m non confrontational so I probably wouldn’t go through with it and sadly, I’d probably just remove everyone on the text from my life outside of whatever school/kid things needed to be done.

Way to put your petty complaints above what's best for your children. That's super big of you.

Why in the world would you think it's "best for the child" to put them in the kind of environment where queen-bee moms attack children on text messages?

Let's face it: this isn't an attack on the child, this is an attack on the mother. There's no indications of any inappropriate actions toward the child.

If the mother is half as whiney as the posters in this thread, she's going to have a hard time finding a new group of friends for herself and her child.

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Ok, I really need an update on this one. Come back, OP!

Also, I’m team snarky response or just show up with Advil. Laugh this off and then ignore that woman forever.

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Anonymous wrote:It is nice that they are including your child. He must be a nightmare. Be glad you have friends and laugh it off.

This, OP. Right now he’s a handful, but they include him. I think it says a lot about how much they like you- meaning they like you a lot. PIA kids usually get sidelined. Be very thankful and really observe your son- work with him on things that clearly drive other people crazy. It will make a better life for both of you.

I think it says a lot that none of the other moms in the group text stood up for you and your kid. No, these people do not like you very much and they are clearly not your friends.

I really don't understand comments like PPs' - are you really so obsessed with your own popularity that you want to be friends with people who are saying things like this about your child?? This isn't high school, and I, personally, would not tolerate this kind of mean girl behavior. It's kind of pathetic if you do.

I agree that it says a lot that nobody defended her, but I don't think it means that they don't like the mom. I think they must like her a lot or they'd exclude her. Clearly they ALL think that about the child, which is the reason that nobody could defend her. The only reason she's being included is because they like the mom. If OP does something bitchy now, they will all just avoid her family entirely.

NP. I agree. And how you react will determine whether your son has friends after today.

WTF? OP did nothing wrong. That mom owes OP an apology and that’s what determines if SHE still has OP as a friend after today. Why does everyone suddenly assume OP is hard up for friends? Would you give this advice to your teenage daughters?!

Mean girls grow up to be mean women and it shows.

I wasn’t talking about OP having friends. I’m talking about her kid having friends. When kids are little so many relationships are driven by parents.

I am the mom of a senior who was a tough kid. It’s not easy to be a difficult kid and it’s not easy for difficult kids to make and keep friends. For the sake of my kid, I’d definitely suck it up.

I understand what you’re saying but this woman and the rest of the group clearly do not like OP’s child. To echo what a previous poster said why continue to put a child in a situation where he isn’t all that welcomed and will only continue to be fodder for gossip? In many situations I would agree with you but not this one. Super toxic.

+1, did anyone say, we are very glad to have him or defend him in any way. If not, he's not welcome and its toxic.

They may or may not feel that way, but they’re just spineless cowards so OP will never know.

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Anonymous wrote:It is nice that they are including your child. He must be a nightmare. Be glad you have friends and laugh it off.

Most young boys are nightmares.

As the mom of two boys, and a friend of people who have anywhere from 1-4 sons, this isn’t true. There is always an outlier or two in the group.

We are really good friends with the parents with of two boys who are outliers, and the older the kids get, people are really just less tolerant of the behavior. OP is your son neurotypical?

[Anonymous]

If OP doesn’t check back in soon, that’s a good troll post!

[Anonymous]

“Sorry if Larlo isn’t your cup of tea. Every kid is liked by some people and not liked by others. I usually have Advil in my purse, so how about you bring the wine this time?”

I might also text her privately and say that you know Larlo can be loud, but it’s something you’re working in and expect he’ll mature out of. In the meantime, if she could dig a little deeper for empathy you’d appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

Show up and give her this bottle of wine:

https://www.thedrinksbusiness.com/2012/11/your-rude-wine-labels/9/

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Anonymous wrote:It is nice that they are including your child. He must be a nightmare. Be glad you have friends and laugh it off.

Most young boys are nightmares.

As the mom of two boys, and a friend of people who have anywhere from 1-4 sons, this isn’t true. There is always an outlier or two in the group.

We are really good friends with the parents with of two boys who are outliers, and the older the kids get, people are really just less tolerant of the behavior. OP is your son neurotypical?

Kids are a nightmare who have SN/mental health or poor parenting. SN can be excusable with good parenting/parent trying but not poor parenting. We've had kids come over where the kids let them run wild and they don't understand they can behave that way at home but not in my home.