My husband just made a snide Peloton comment

[Anonymous]

I have been an athlete my entire life. I played on a very competitive team for most of my childhood through HS..and ran indoor track. I am a woman.

I have met so many women throughout my life that say they want to be fit like me. Can I help them? When I was in my 20s/early 30s, random women at my gym would pare up with me. I'd show them weights, they wanted to run on treadmill next to me, etc. Out of more than 10 women only 1 stuck with any of it...even more than a few weeks.

I came to realize that a vast majority of Americans don't know what is truly needed for fitness. This BS about a 10 min walk a day and low intensity is crap. You need variety: weights, some type of core training and some type of cardio. If you trot along at a slow pace on a walk, very little is being done in terms of fitness and even less (nothing) at weight loss.

I see your husband's frustration. Your slow peddling and mind wandering on Peloton might be good for your mental health, but in terms of fitness you are not getting much benefit at all and most likely upping your calorie intake because you think you got 'exercise'.

It's tough love. I have a neighbor that is similar and asked what she should do..but then had a litany of reasons why she couldn't do X, Y or Z. Ok.

It's hard work to go from zero to being an 'athlete', but people that stick with it generally reap the rewards and then catch 'the bug'.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its his way of telling you you are fat and need to work harder.

This. This was the nicest way he could do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been an athlete my entire life. I played on a very competitive team for most of my childhood through HS..and ran indoor track. I am a woman.

I have met so many women throughout my life that say they want to be fit like me. Can I help them? When I was in my 20s/early 30s, random women at my gym would pare up with me. I'd show them weights, they wanted to run on treadmill next to me, etc. Out of more than 10 women only 1 stuck with any of it...even more than a few weeks.

I came to realize that a vast majority of Americans don't know what is truly needed for fitness. This BS about a 10 min walk a day and low intensity is crap. You need variety: weights, some type of core training and some type of cardio. If you trot along at a slow pace on a walk, very little is being done in terms of fitness and even less (nothing) at weight loss.

I see your husband's frustration. Your slow peddling and mind wandering on Peloton might be good for your mental health, but in terms of fitness you are not getting much benefit at all and most likely upping your calorie intake because you think you got 'exercise'.

It's tough love. I have a neighbor that is similar and asked what she should do..but then had a litany of reasons why she couldn't do X, Y or Z. Ok.

It's hard work to go from zero to being an 'athlete', but people that stick with it generally reap the rewards and then catch 'the bug'.

Did OP say she wants to be fit like you?

Did OP ask what she should do?

Did OP say she wants to be an 'athlete'?

Who made OP's husband her fitness director?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been an athlete my entire life. I played on a very competitive team for most of my childhood through HS..and ran indoor track. I am a woman.

I have met so many women throughout my life that say they want to be fit like me. Can I help them? When I was in my 20s/early 30s, random women at my gym would pare up with me. I'd show them weights, they wanted to run on treadmill next to me, etc. Out of more than 10 women only 1 stuck with any of it...even more than a few weeks.

I came to realize that a vast majority of Americans don't know what is truly needed for fitness. This BS about a 10 min walk a day and low intensity is crap. You need variety: weights, some type of core training and some type of cardio. If you trot along at a slow pace on a walk, very little is being done in terms of fitness and even less (nothing) at weight loss.

I see your husband's frustration. Your slow peddling and mind wandering on Peloton might be good for your mental health, but in terms of fitness you are not getting much benefit at all and most likely upping your calorie intake because you think you got 'exercise'.

It's tough love. I have a neighbor that is similar and asked what she should do..but then had a litany of reasons why she couldn't do X, Y or Z. Ok.

It's hard work to go from zero to being an 'athlete', but people that stick with it generally reap the rewards and then catch 'the bug'.

Peddle, verb: try to sell (something, especially small goods) by going from house to house or place to place. "he peddled art and printing materials around the country"

Pedal, verb: to move by working the pedals of a bicycle. "they pedaled along the canal towpath"

I've seen this mistake twice this week on DCUM, and am determined to stamp it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been an athlete my entire life. I played on a very competitive team for most of my childhood through HS..and ran indoor track. I am a woman.

I have met so many women throughout my life that say they want to be fit like me. Can I help them? When I was in my 20s/early 30s, random women at my gym would pare up with me. I'd show them weights, they wanted to run on treadmill next to me, etc. Out of more than 10 women only 1 stuck with any of it...even more than a few weeks.

I came to realize that a vast majority of Americans don't know what is truly needed for fitness. This BS about a 10 min walk a day and low intensity is crap. You need variety: weights, some type of core training and some type of cardio. If you trot along at a slow pace on a walk, very little is being done in terms of fitness and even less (nothing) at weight loss.

I see your husband's frustration. Your slow peddling and mind wandering on Peloton might be good for your mental health, but in terms of fitness you are not getting much benefit at all and most likely upping your calorie intake because you think you got 'exercise'.

It's tough love. I have a neighbor that is similar and asked what she should do..but then had a litany of reasons why she couldn't do X, Y or Z. Ok.

It's hard work to go from zero to being an 'athlete', but people that stick with it generally reap the rewards and then catch 'the bug'.

+1

Always an excuse!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been an athlete my entire life. I played on a very competitive team for most of my childhood through HS..and ran indoor track. I am a woman.

I have met so many women throughout my life that say they want to be fit like me. Can I help them? When I was in my 20s/early 30s, random women at my gym would pare up with me. I'd show them weights, they wanted to run on treadmill next to me, etc. Out of more than 10 women only 1 stuck with any of it...even more than a few weeks.

I came to realize that a vast majority of Americans don't know what is truly needed for fitness. This BS about a 10 min walk a day and low intensity is crap. You need variety: weights, some type of core training and some type of cardio. If you trot along at a slow pace on a walk, very little is being done in terms of fitness and even less (nothing) at weight loss.

I see your husband's frustration. Your slow peddling and mind wandering on Peloton might be good for your mental health, but in terms of fitness you are not getting much benefit at all and most likely upping your calorie intake because you think you got 'exercise'.

It's tough love. I have a neighbor that is similar and asked what she should do..but then had a litany of reasons why she couldn't do X, Y or Z. Ok.

It's hard work to go from zero to being an 'athlete', but people that stick with it generally reap the rewards and then catch 'the bug'.

Wow, aren't you smug about your athleticism.

OP has never described any desire to be an athlete.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been an athlete my entire life. I played on a very competitive team for most of my childhood through HS..and ran indoor track. I am a woman.

I have met so many women throughout my life that say they want to be fit like me. Can I help them? When I was in my 20s/early 30s, random women at my gym would pare up with me. I'd show them weights, they wanted to run on treadmill next to me, etc. Out of more than 10 women only 1 stuck with any of it...even more than a few weeks.

I came to realize that a vast majority of Americans don't know what is truly needed for fitness. This BS about a 10 min walk a day and low intensity is crap. You need variety: weights, some type of core training and some type of cardio. If you trot along at a slow pace on a walk, very little is being done in terms of fitness and even less (nothing) at weight loss.

I see your husband's frustration. Your slow peddling and mind wandering on Peloton might be good for your mental health, but in terms of fitness you are not getting much benefit at all and most likely upping your calorie intake because you think you got 'exercise'.

It's tough love. I have a neighbor that is similar and asked what she should do..but then had a litany of reasons why she couldn't do X, Y or Z. Ok.

It's hard work to go from zero to being an 'athlete', but people that stick with it generally reap the rewards and then catch 'the bug'.

And?

Your response does not address OP's question. You made it an excuse to congratulate yourself on how much fitter you are than anyone else. Too bad you were unable to include a photo of your abs for people to admire.

In the history of the world has anyone's spouse or parent telling them they are fat ever resulted in sustained weight loss? I would venture a guess the answer is no.

This problem is about communication, not the actual peloton.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look, I have a Peloton. I have not been on it in months due to some medical issues. I prob could ride the scenic rides but that is not why I bought the bike. I bought it to get my butt kicked by some awesome instructors in those classes. That's the real value to Peloton and I think a lot of folks would agree.

So maybe he's not criticizing you in the way you think? Maybe he doesn't understand why you're option more from the rides you can do on any bike, to the ones that Peloton is known for? Look, I don't care what you do. You prefer the scenic rides? That's great. But, I personally wouldn't spend all this money for a Peloton just to do those.

So don't personally spend all this money.

I'm not sure what you're talking about. I -DID- spend it and wanted to. And used it until recently. As do others in my family. I'm referring to OP and what her husband may have been implying.

Not sure why you feel the need to be so defensive. OP asked for opinions. I'm giving mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I'm not sure what you're talking about. I -DID- spend it and wanted to. And used it until recently. As do others in my family. I'm referring to OP and what her husband may have been implying.

Not sure why you feel the need to be so defensive. OP asked for opinions. I'm giving mine.

I am not defensive. I have nothing to defend.

I am aggressively telling you and every other smug busybody to SHUT UP about how your decisions about how to spend money and how to exercise are the only valid ones.

Every time someone shows up to celebrate her own fitness, I think "What a sad little life you have, telling strangers who don't care that you devote all your spare time to something that does not, on its own, provide enough satisfaction, but instead leaves you with an irresistible urge to tell everyone how you are making the only right choice and they need to validate that by following suit.

To repeat, in simpler terms: It's not hurting you that someone has different priorities. Why are you so defensive? Just how small and needy are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been an athlete my entire life. I played on a very competitive team for most of my childhood through HS..and ran indoor track. I am a woman.

I have met so many women throughout my life that say they want to be fit like me. Can I help them? When I was in my 20s/early 30s, random women at my gym would pare up with me. I'd show them weights, they wanted to run on treadmill next to me, etc. Out of more than 10 women only 1 stuck with any of it...even more than a few weeks.

I came to realize that a vast majority of Americans don't know what is truly needed for fitness. This BS about a 10 min walk a day and low intensity is crap. You need variety: weights, some type of core training and some type of cardio. If you trot along at a slow pace on a walk, very little is being done in terms of fitness and even less (nothing) at weight loss.

I see your husband's frustration. Your slow peddling and mind wandering on Peloton might be good for your mental health, but in terms of fitness you are not getting much benefit at all and most likely upping your calorie intake because you think you got 'exercise'.

It's tough love. I have a neighbor that is similar and asked what she should do..but then had a litany of reasons why she couldn't do X, Y or Z. Ok.

It's hard work to go from zero to being an 'athlete', but people that stick with it generally reap the rewards and then catch 'the bug'.

Wow, aren't you smug about your athleticism.

OP has never described any desire to be an athlete.

Everyone has different fitness goals. Not everyone wants tough love. And mental health is key. More important than physical these days.
And it's "pedal."

[Anonymous]

Why are people bending over backwards to find an excuse why a snide comment is not only OK but a preferred comment??? I don't accept snide remarks from people I love (and I'm fortunate in that my family and friends aren't assholes). People make snide comments with the intention of hurting someone, however little or insignificant no one makes them to be "helpful". Its so weird how people are so often looking for a way to "catch" the OP in these kind of threads

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine does this, too, and it drives me bonkers. It's this veiled way of criticizing. I just say, "Why do you ask?" to all of them. Then he either has to back off, or he has to make the criticism overtly.

How is that veiled? How the eff do you guys live with partners who are trying to make you feel like shit, fully intentionally?

Counting the days until both kids are in college.

There is plenty of research that this is NOT advantageous to children of divorce. Do no wait until college, in many ways its actually harder on your kids this way. I know first hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been an athlete my entire life. I played on a very competitive team for most of my childhood through HS..and ran indoor track. I am a woman.

I have met so many women throughout my life that say they want to be fit like me. Can I help them? When I was in my 20s/early 30s, random women at my gym would pare up with me. I'd show them weights, they wanted to run on treadmill next to me, etc. Out of more than 10 women only 1 stuck with any of it...even more than a few weeks.

I came to realize that a vast majority of Americans don't know what is truly needed for fitness. This BS about a 10 min walk a day and low intensity is crap. You need variety: weights, some type of core training and some type of cardio. If you trot along at a slow pace on a walk, very little is being done in terms of fitness and even less (nothing) at weight loss.

I see your husband's frustration. Your slow peddling and mind wandering on Peloton might be good for your mental health, but in terms of fitness you are not getting much benefit at all and most likely upping your calorie intake because you think you got 'exercise'.

It's tough love. I have a neighbor that is similar and asked what she should do..but then had a litany of reasons why she couldn't do X, Y or Z. Ok.

It's hard work to go from zero to being an 'athlete', but people that stick with it generally reap the rewards and then catch 'the bug'.

I am not an athlete but I am in decent shape and when I have put effort into trying to get into shape I have worked very very hard. I have a peloton, have had it for three weeks and had a baby last year and I've been beating my PRs every day. I know what you speak of is what I'm saying.

That said this message is super super damaging. Going from couch to walking can dramatically improve the health of someone who is inactive. Riding that peloton on a scenic ride everyday is better than instead watching bravo for that hour.

This like, demands of perfection in fitness or else 'you're not doing anything its pointless' is a good way to keep people on the couch.

People make excuses for fitness but OP doesn't sound like she's looking to be a triathlete, sounds like she just wants to move a little every day. And if her husband turns her movement into an opportunity to criticize, she'll stop doing it entirely, and that will actually be bad.

So get off your high horse athlete and exercise some empathy muscles instead of your lats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband does this, but honestly, I don’t mind. He’s right. If I’m just sitting there spinning my legs, not getting an actual workout, I’m just wasting time. I find it motivating, maybe try to look at it that way?

+1

I was thinking the same thing. I have done the classes and the scenic rides. They are night and day in terms of a workout. Maybe you needed a break and wanted to chill. Fine. To which I would say something like "Yeah, I know Olivia would kick my butt but I decided I just wanted to keep it low key this evening."

Maybe he was trying to be encouraging or thought you didn't realize there was a difference. It is a super annoying way to phrase it, but the intent behind it wasn't necessarily bad.

[Anonymous]

It is not fun to have your decisions second guessed, especially when it comes to diet and excercise. So I get it that that was annoying to hear.

I wonder though if part of it was defensiveness because you know he kind of had a point. Is it that hard to say “ I know the instructor rides are harder but this is what I like”. Or if you are really going all out then say, I am getting the same numbers with this ride, and I like it better