Spouse has never acknowledged the autism diagnosis

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know how you can respect your husband, op.

We don't know if spouse is a man or women.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, you see it all the time. Kids who get known as having autism get boxed in by other people in a way that kids with language disorder or sensory issues don't.

I've asked this question at least 4 different times on this thread and so far nobody has answered. WHO ARE YOU TELLING? If you are telling someone who doesn't need to know, that's on you.

Spouse is upset their partner won't accept the label of autism although the kid is getting needed services.

Why does s/he need the label? Because she wants to be identified as the autism box. It's not about helping the kid.

OP only mentioned speech therapy. Not clear if kid is getting more. Better to ask than assume.

This is the post. It mentions an ASD diagnosis and child in speech therapy.

"Child is almost 12. High functioning. Services (mostly ST) covered b/c of early diagnosis. I think it’s accurate. Spouse won’t agree to testing for differential diagnosis in any case.

What would you do?"

If Op wants an evaluation, do it. Where is the issue?

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, you see it all the time. Kids who get known as having autism get boxed in by other people in a way that kids with language disorder or sensory issues don't.

I've asked this question at least 4 different times on this thread and so far nobody has answered. WHO ARE YOU TELLING? If you are telling someone who doesn't need to know, that's on you.

Spouse is upset their partner won't accept the label of autism although the kid is getting needed services.

Why does s/he need the label? Because she wants to be identified as the autism box. It's not about helping the kid.

OP only mentioned speech therapy. Not clear if kid is getting more. Better to ask than assume.

The child has a diagnosis and services paid for by the diagnosis. Child is getting ST. The only insurance options are PT,OT, ST and ABA. Child ready qualifies and has an ASD diagnosis. Parent says they are high functioning what ever that means. A diagnosis or evaluation is meaningless if it isn't going to give more services or supports in school and nothing will be changed because of it.

The real questions are how is the child doing at school and home and what more does OP believe child can benefit more from. And, given they have a diagnosis and insurance is paying, will this mean more/better supports at school, etc. If child can get more supports, testing is worth it.

In this case it’s about getting a differential diagnosis that was given when a child was a toddler. A neuropsychological evaluation isn’t just about getting services.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know how you can respect your husband, op.

We don't know if spouse is a man or women.

OP said spouse is a woman. OP did not state his/her own gender.

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I totally get being upset his wife won't consent to an evaluation. I don't understand being upset his wife won't accept an arbitrary label.

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As a mom, I've never needed my spouses consent to evaluate. I've always just decided what my child needed and got it done.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, you see it all the time. Kids who get known as having autism get boxed in by other people in a way that kids with language disorder or sensory issues don't.

I've asked this question at least 4 different times on this thread and so far nobody has answered. WHO ARE YOU TELLING? If you are telling someone who doesn't need to know, that's on you.

Spouse is upset their partner won't accept the label of autism although the kid is getting needed services.

Why does s/he need the label? Because she wants to be identified as the autism box. It's not about helping the kid.

OP only mentioned speech therapy. Not clear if kid is getting more. Better to ask than assume.

The child has a diagnosis and services paid for by the diagnosis. Child is getting ST. The only insurance options are PT,OT, ST and ABA. Child ready qualifies and has an ASD diagnosis. Parent says they are high functioning what ever that means. A diagnosis or evaluation is meaningless if it isn't going to give more services or supports in school and nothing will be changed because of it.

The real questions are how is the child doing at school and home and what more does OP believe child can benefit more from. And, given they have a diagnosis and insurance is paying, will this mean more/better supports at school, etc. If child can get more supports, testing is worth it.

In this case it’s about getting a differential diagnosis that was given when a child was a toddler. A neuropsychological evaluation isn’t just about getting services.

So, OP doesn't think the diagnosis is correct? The post is clear its ASD or that is the diagnosis. If they get a different diagnosis what is the benefit? If the ASD is removed the insurance may not pay for ST anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:As a mom, I've never needed my spouses consent to evaluate. I've always just decided what my child needed and got it done.

Because OP spouse probably handles everything and they don't want to be bothered. OP can schedule an evaluation and take the child.

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Anonymous wrote:I totally get being upset his wife won't consent to an evaluation. I don't understand being upset his wife won't accept an arbitrary label.

I think OP is conflating the two issues, but it seems to be more about acknowledges the child's actual difficulties than the label.

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Anonymous wrote:I totally get being upset his wife won't consent to an evaluation. I don't understand being upset his wife won't accept an arbitrary label.

A diagnosis of autism isn’t arbitrary (nor is it a “label.”)

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Anonymous wrote:As a mom, I've never needed my spouses consent to evaluate. I've always just decided what my child needed and got it done.

Because OP spouse probably handles everything and they don't want to be bothered. OP can schedule an evaluation and take the child.

You guys just make up stories. OP said he/she is afraid spouse will get angry if he/she takes kid for evaluation without agreement. It's understandable that OP wants to be on same page with spouse. OP didn't say anything about how child care duties are divided.

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Anonymous wrote:I totally get being upset his wife won't consent to an evaluation. I don't understand being upset his wife won't accept an arbitrary label.

A diagnosis of autism isn’t arbitrary (nor is it a “label.”)

Then you know nothing about autism spectrum disorders.

My friend has been an OT for 40 years. She says that they used to get kids diagnosed w brain damage.

Now every kid with any kind of brain damage or neurological difference, so long as they have communication or social or sensory issues, it doesn't even need to be all 3, gets diagnosed with autism. It's the catchall diagnosis.

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Anonymous wrote:I totally get being upset his wife won't consent to an evaluation. I don't understand being upset his wife won't accept an arbitrary label.

A diagnosis of autism isn’t arbitrary (nor is it a “label.”)

Then you know nothing about autism spectrum disorders.

My friend has been an OT for 40 years. She says that they used to get kids diagnosed w brain damage.

Now every kid with any kind of brain damage or neurological difference, so long as they have communication or social or sensory issues, it doesn't even need to be all 3, gets diagnosed with autism. It's the catchall diagnosis.

Your friend is incorrect. Sorry. Being an OT does not make her any kind of expert on diagnosis.

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Anonymous wrote:As a mom, I've never needed my spouses consent to evaluate. I've always just decided what my child needed and got it done.

Because OP spouse probably handles everything and they don't want to be bothered. OP can schedule an evaluation and take the child.

You guys just make up stories. OP said he/she is afraid spouse will get angry if he/she takes kid for evaluation without agreement. It's understandable that OP wants to be on same page with spouse. OP didn't say anything about how child care duties are divided.

There seems to be a lot of projecting in this thread by spouses who obviously don’t acknowledge their child has autism.

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Anonymous wrote:I totally get being upset his wife won't consent to an evaluation. I don't understand being upset his wife won't accept an arbitrary label.

A diagnosis of autism isn’t arbitrary (nor is it a “label.”)

Then you know nothing about autism spectrum disorders.

My friend has been an OT for 40 years. She says that they used to get kids diagnosed w brain damage.

Now every kid with any kind of brain damage or neurological difference, so long as they have communication or social or sensory issues, it doesn't even need to be all 3, gets diagnosed with autism. It's the catchall diagnosis.

As a parent whose dc was dx a year ago (so, 'now')-this is not true. At all. My child wasn't even dx until age 4.5, dc had been in EI since 12 months. No one slapped an ASD label on dc, it was after a 2 day neuropysch eval that included ADOS.

My dc was dx with ASD because my dc has autism.