Spouse has never acknowledged the autism diagnosis

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, you see it all the time. Kids who get known as having autism get boxed in by other people in a way that kids with language disorder or sensory issues don't.

I've asked this question at least 4 different times on this thread and so far nobody has answered. WHO ARE YOU TELLING? If you are telling someone who doesn't need to know, that's on you.

Spouse is upset their partner won't accept the label of autism although the kid is getting needed services.

Why does s/he need the label? Because she wants to be identified as the autism box. It's not about helping the kid.

This thread is about getting a neuropsychological evaluation for more information about a diagnosis given nearly a decade ago.

It would probably help the kid and the parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, you see it all the time. Kids who get known as having autism get boxed in by other people in a way that kids with language disorder or sensory issues don't.

I've asked this question at least 4 different times on this thread and so far nobody has answered. WHO ARE YOU TELLING? If you are telling someone who doesn't need to know, that's on you.

Spouse is upset their partner won't accept the label of autism although the kid is getting needed services.

Why does s/he need the label? Because she wants to be identified as the autism box. It's not about helping the kid.

I go 100% the other way here. Op wants and needs support from her husband but he is so freaking messed up emotionally that he can't even give her that support and has to deny their kid is not neurotypical because he is so emotionally fragile.

[Anonymous]

I don't know how you can respect your husband, op.

[Anonymous]

Oh please she never said he wasn't helping or supporting. I bet he is doing a ton. He just doesn't want the label.


Which is a perfectly valid choice, as many SN parents on this thread have made the same choice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, you see it all the time. Kids who get known as having autism get boxed in by other people in a way that kids with language disorder or sensory issues don't.

I've asked this question at least 4 different times on this thread and so far nobody has answered. WHO ARE YOU TELLING? If you are telling someone who doesn't need to know, that's on you.

Spouse is upset their partner won't accept the label of autism although the kid is getting needed services.

Why does s/he need the label? Because she wants to be identified as the autism box. It's not about helping the kid.

This thread is about getting a neuropsychological evaluation for more information about a diagnosis given nearly a decade ago.

It would probably help the kid and the parents.

+1 Kid already has the label. OP apparently thinks he may need more therapies and so wants testing to see. Because spouse is resisting the label, spouse doesn't want testing, as that may confirm the label.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, you see it all the time. Kids who get known as having autism get boxed in by other people in a way that kids with language disorder or sensory issues don't.

I've asked this question at least 4 different times on this thread and so far nobody has answered. WHO ARE YOU TELLING? If you are telling someone who doesn't need to know, that's on you.

Spouse is upset their partner won't accept the label of autism although the kid is getting needed services.

Why does s/he need the label? Because she wants to be identified as the autism box. It's not about helping the kid.

OP only mentioned speech therapy. Not clear if kid is getting more. Better to ask than assume.

[Anonymous]

If kid is age 10 and only getting speech, it's most likely not very severe issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, you see it all the time. Kids who get known as having autism get boxed in by other people in a way that kids with language disorder or sensory issues don't.

I've asked this question at least 4 different times on this thread and so far nobody has answered. WHO ARE YOU TELLING? If you are telling someone who doesn't need to know, that's on you.

Seriously. You don’t need to reveal diagnoses to schools, family, FB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If kid is age 10 and only getting speech, it's most likely not very severe issue.

You can't tell anything from that. OP said nothing about kids actual symptoms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If kid is age 10 and only getting speech, it's most likely not very severe issue.

It’s not specified what services the child is getting. That doesn’t mean it’s not severe. But even if not, where is the harm in having a differential diagnosis?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, you see it all the time. Kids who get known as having autism get boxed in by other people in a way that kids with language disorder or sensory issues don't.

I've asked this question at least 4 different times on this thread and so far nobody has answered. WHO ARE YOU TELLING? If you are telling someone who doesn't need to know, that's on you.

Spouse is upset their partner won't accept the label of autism although the kid is getting needed services.

Why does s/he need the label? Because she wants to be identified as the autism box. It's not about helping the kid.

This thread is about getting a neuropsychological evaluation for more information about a diagnosis given nearly a decade ago.

It would probably help the kid and the parents.

+1 Kid already has the label. OP apparently thinks he may need more therapies and so wants testing to see. Because spouse is resisting the label, spouse doesn't want testing, as that may confirm the label.

It’s this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh please she never said he wasn't helping or supporting. I bet he is doing a ton. He just doesn't want the label.


Which is a perfectly valid choice, as many SN parents on this thread have made the same choice

He has never acknowledged the diagnosis. That means EVEN to his spouse.

9/10 the parent who won't acknowledge has a lot iof the same symptoms and not being able to acknowledge dx to their spouse is because they can't acknowledge it to themselves either. They are threatened because they don't want to think that they themselves may have it too.

[Anonymous]

I don't post about my kids' dx on social media but I certainly acknowledge it to my dh and he to me and to our kids. We are t embarrassed by it and I DGAF what other people think. No one is putting my kids in a box.

If your communities are so intolerant then move.

[Anonymous]

The dMV is so provincial in some ways. If you think your kids will be discriminated against, move!

At the very least, don't use it as an excuse to keep info from your kids.

This is very different from IQ. This is more like if your kid had diabetes. Would you keep that from them???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, you see it all the time. Kids who get known as having autism get boxed in by other people in a way that kids with language disorder or sensory issues don't.

I've asked this question at least 4 different times on this thread and so far nobody has answered. WHO ARE YOU TELLING? If you are telling someone who doesn't need to know, that's on you.

Spouse is upset their partner won't accept the label of autism although the kid is getting needed services.

Why does s/he need the label? Because she wants to be identified as the autism box. It's not about helping the kid.

OP only mentioned speech therapy. Not clear if kid is getting more. Better to ask than assume.

The child has a diagnosis and services paid for by the diagnosis. Child is getting ST. The only insurance options are PT,OT, ST and ABA. Child ready qualifies and has an ASD diagnosis. Parent says they are high functioning what ever that means. A diagnosis or evaluation is meaningless if it isn't going to give more services or supports in school and nothing will be changed because of it.

The real questions are how is the child doing at school and home and what more does OP believe child can benefit more from. And, given they have a diagnosis and insurance is paying, will this mean more/better supports at school, etc. If child can get more supports, testing is worth it.