Spouse has never acknowledged the autism diagnosis

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a mom, I've never needed my spouses consent to evaluate. I've always just decided what my child needed and got it done.

Because OP spouse probably handles everything and they don't want to be bothered. OP can schedule an evaluation and take the child.

You guys just make up stories. OP said he/she is afraid spouse will get angry if he/she takes kid for evaluation without agreement. It's understandable that OP wants to be on same page with spouse. OP didn't say anything about how child care duties are divided.

OP can just as easily schedule an appointment and take the child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I totally get being upset his wife won't consent to an evaluation. I don't understand being upset his wife won't accept an arbitrary label.

A diagnosis of autism isn’t arbitrary (nor is it a “label.”)

Then you know nothing about autism spectrum disorders.

My friend has been an OT for 40 years. She says that they used to get kids diagnosed w brain damage.

Now every kid with any kind of brain damage or neurological difference, so long as they have communication or social or sensory issues, it doesn't even need to be all 3, gets diagnosed with autism. It's the catchall diagnosis.

As a parent whose dc was dx a year ago (so, 'now')-this is not true. At all. My child wasn't even dx until age 4.5, dc had been in EI since 12 months. No one slapped an ASD label on dc, it was after a 2 day neuropysch eval that included ADOS.

My dc was dx with ASD because my dc has autism.

Every child, family and diagnosis was different. Plenty of kids are diagnosed at 2 or younger now. Its often done for insurance billing purposes. Glad you got it properly done but that's not the case with every family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a mom, I've never needed my spouses consent to evaluate. I've always just decided what my child needed and got it done.

Because OP spouse probably handles everything and they don't want to be bothered. OP can schedule an evaluation and take the child.

You guys just make up stories. OP said he/she is afraid spouse will get angry if he/she takes kid for evaluation without agreement. It's understandable that OP wants to be on same page with spouse. OP didn't say anything about how child care duties are divided.

There seems to be a lot of projecting in this thread by spouses who obviously don’t acknowledge their child has autism.

If OP cares about child and is concerned, the responsible thing to do is schedule an evaluation and take the child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I totally get being upset his wife won't consent to an evaluation. I don't understand being upset his wife won't accept an arbitrary label.

Wife doesn't need to consent. I've done tons of evaluations without my spouse. It was never an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I totally get being upset his wife won't consent to an evaluation. I don't understand being upset his wife won't accept an arbitrary label.

A diagnosis of autism isn’t arbitrary (nor is it a “label.”)

Then you know nothing about autism spectrum disorders.

My friend has been an OT for 40 years. She says that they used to get kids diagnosed w brain damage.

Now every kid with any kind of brain damage or neurological difference, so long as they have communication or social or sensory issues, it doesn't even need to be all 3, gets diagnosed with autism. It's the catchall diagnosis.

As a parent whose dc was dx a year ago (so, 'now')-this is not true. At all. My child wasn't even dx until age 4.5, dc had been in EI since 12 months. No one slapped an ASD label on dc, it was after a 2 day neuropysch eval that included ADOS.

My dc was dx with ASD because my dc has autism.

Every child, family and diagnosis was different. Plenty of kids are diagnosed at 2 or younger now. Its often done for insurance billing purposes. Glad you got it properly done but that's not the case with every family.

Nobody said "÷)eveey family." You are the one who implies that everyone is misdiagnosed with a "catchall."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I totally get being upset his wife won't consent to an evaluation. I don't understand being upset his wife won't accept an arbitrary label.

Wife doesn't need to consent. I've done tons of evaluations without my spouse. It was never an issue.

You aren't married to OP's spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I totally get being upset his wife won't consent to an evaluation. I don't understand being upset his wife won't accept an arbitrary label.

Wife doesn't need to consent. I've done tons of evaluations without my spouse. It was never an issue.

You aren't married to OP's spouse.

Your child comes first. If your child needs a medical appointment or evaluation you take them. How is it even a question?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I totally get being upset his wife won't consent to an evaluation. I don't understand being upset his wife won't accept an arbitrary label.

Wife doesn't need to consent. I've done tons of evaluations without my spouse. It was never an issue.

Well, this is actually an answer to OP's question of what would you do. I have never been in those shoes of having a spouse who does not want to get an evaluation that I think is necessary. But, I haven't scheduled an evaluation specifically to get a diagnosis, other than when I did the last neuropsych, I added extra testing to try to tease out a mental health diagnosis, which was necessary in order to figure out a medication plan. But, I think if the purpose of the evaluation was to secure a diagnosis, then I would defer. OTOH, if the purpose was to better understand strengths and weaknesses so that we could develop IEP goals and a medication plan, then I would push for doing it. Nothing good would come from unnecessary conflict in my house. We have enough on our plates dealing with our mentally ill child who has other disabilities as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I totally get being upset his wife won't consent to an evaluation. I don't understand being upset his wife won't accept an arbitrary label.

A diagnosis of autism isn’t arbitrary (nor is it a “label.”)

Then you know nothing about autism spectrum disorders.

My friend has been an OT for 40 years. She says that they used to get kids diagnosed w brain damage.

Now every kid with any kind of brain damage or neurological difference, so long as they have communication or social or sensory issues, it doesn't even need to be all 3, gets diagnosed with autism. It's the catchall diagnosis.

As a parent whose dc was dx a year ago (so, 'now')-this is not true. At all. My child wasn't even dx until age 4.5, dc had been in EI since 12 months. No one slapped an ASD label on dc, it was after a 2 day neuropysch eval that included ADOS.

My dc was dx with ASD because my dc has autism.

Every child, family and diagnosis was different. Plenty of kids are diagnosed at 2 or younger now. Its often done for insurance billing purposes. Glad you got it properly done but that's not the case with every family.

Nobody said "÷)eveey family." You are the one who implies that everyone is misdiagnosed with a "catchall."

There are plenty of misdiagnosis. Several people have said their kids were labeled MERLD when it was ASD. People have said their kids were labeled ASD or anxiety when it was ASD or all three. Others say their kid was tabled ASD when it was a language or other disorder. There are misdiagnosis on many levels and kids shouldn't be diagnosed with anything until age 4 or 5 when things start. That's why its not recommended to do a neuropsych until age 7 (or sometimes slightly before).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is so disturbing. Especially as my child has become a teen, he finds a lot of comfort in knowing that his challenges are part of something identifiable - knowing WHY his brain is different because he certainly knows he is different.

OP, talk to your child. I can't imagine keeping my childrens' diagnoses from them unless I was ashamed of them AND I AM NOT ASHAMED OF THEM.

They have some things that come easier to them than to other people and they have to work a lot harder at other things. Knowing there are other people who are similar does not mean that they aren't being treated as individuals.

New postef on this thread. I 10000% agree with the above

Your husband doesn't want to admit his offspring is autistic I guess. Selfish? Fearful? Ignorant? Idk

Knowing our family is autistic has been game changing in very positive ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I totally get being upset his wife won't consent to an evaluation. I don't understand being upset his wife won't accept an arbitrary label.

A diagnosis of autism isn’t arbitrary (nor is it a “label.”)

Then you know nothing about autism spectrum disorders.

My friend has been an OT for 40 years. She says that they used to get kids diagnosed w brain damage.

Now every kid with any kind of brain damage or neurological difference, so long as they have communication or social or sensory issues, it doesn't even need to be all 3, gets diagnosed with autism. It's the catchall diagnosis.

Thats total bs
Lmao! Please enlighten us more with what your elderly friend has told you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I totally get being upset his wife won't consent to an evaluation. I don't understand being upset his wife won't accept an arbitrary label.

Wife doesn't need to consent. I've done tons of evaluations without my spouse. It was never an issue.

You aren't married to OP's spouse.

Your child comes first. If your child needs a medical appointment or evaluation you take them. How is it even a question?

Well obviously there is some question for OP because of her family situation. Instead of judging, why don't you help OP get the help she needs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I totally get being upset his wife won't consent to an evaluation. I don't understand being upset his wife won't accept an arbitrary label.

A diagnosis of autism isn’t arbitrary (nor is it a “label.”)

Then you know nothing about autism spectrum disorders.

My friend has been an OT for 40 years. She says that they used to get kids diagnosed w brain damage.

Now every kid with any kind of brain damage or neurological difference, so long as they have communication or social or sensory issues, it doesn't even need to be all 3, gets diagnosed with autism. It's the catchall diagnosis.

As a parent whose dc was dx a year ago (so, 'now')-this is not true. At all. My child wasn't even dx until age 4.5, dc had been in EI since 12 months. No one slapped an ASD label on dc, it was after a 2 day neuropysch eval that included ADOS.

My dc was dx with ASD because my dc has autism.

Every child, family and diagnosis was different. Plenty of kids are diagnosed at 2 or younger now. Its often done for insurance billing purposes. Glad you got it properly done but that's not the case with every family.

Nobody said "÷)eveey family." You are the one who implies that everyone is misdiagnosed with a "catchall."

There are plenty of misdiagnosis. Several people have said their kids were labeled MERLD when it was ASD. People have said their kids were labeled ASD or anxiety when it was ASD or all three. Others say their kid was tabled ASD when it was a language or other disorder. There are misdiagnosis on many levels and kids shouldn't be diagnosed with anything until age 4 or 5 when things start. That's why its not recommended to do a neuropsych until age 7 (or sometimes slightly before).

Yes misdiagnoses occur. But you make it sound like a HUGE PROBLEM when it isn't. Diagnosis before age 4 is less accurate, but it can be done. They diagnose early so that kids can get the help they need. That's a good thing. Stop trying to make it into something it isn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I totally get being upset his wife won't consent to an evaluation. I don't understand being upset his wife won't accept an arbitrary label.

Wife doesn't need to consent. I've done tons of evaluations without my spouse. It was never an issue.

You aren't married to OP's spouse.

Your child comes first. If your child needs a medical appointment or evaluation you take them. How is it even a question?

Well obviously there is some question for OP because of her family situation. Instead of judging, why don't you help OP get the help she needs?

I did several times. Schedule and take his kid for an evaluation. It was clear it was a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I totally get being upset his wife won't consent to an evaluation. I don't understand being upset his wife won't accept an arbitrary label.

A diagnosis of autism isn’t arbitrary (nor is it a “label.”)

Then you know nothing about autism spectrum disorders.

My friend has been an OT for 40 years. She says that they used to get kids diagnosed w brain damage.

Now every kid with any kind of brain damage or neurological difference, so long as they have communication or social or sensory issues, it doesn't even need to be all 3, gets diagnosed with autism. It's the catchall diagnosis.

Your friend is an idiot.