Child free women trying to co-opt Mother’s Day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have kid and a dog. Honestly, right now I prefer the dog and the card she "made" me yesterday. She is always so happy to see me and we never get sick of each other.

#dogmom2020

Maybe consider giving your kid up for adoption?

Some people shouldn't have become parents. It's not too late. I bet you could still find a nice family who would want them.

They are 13 and 15. The bloom is off the rose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like dogs so much more than kids. In fact, i pretty can't stand kids.

Get off DC Urban MOMs then weirdo.

There is a Pet section.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have kid and a dog. Honestly, right now I prefer the dog and the card she "made" me yesterday. She is always so happy to see me and we never get sick of each other.

#dogmom2020

Maybe consider giving your kid up for adoption?

Some people shouldn't have become parents. It's not too late. I bet you could still find a nice family who would want them.

They are 13 and 15. The bloom is off the rose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It irritates me when people turn Mother’s Day into a day of mourning for those who have had miscarriages. Pregnancy loss gets a whole month. They don’t need to take over the DAY that mothers get.

How does this diminish your Mother’s Day?

I feel like this will be inflammatory but this is the equivalent of all lives matter to moms. Its a day for moms, thats what its called. So when everyone under the sun can define themselves as a mom, then it really isn't celebrating 'moms' but more like, 'women' or 'anyone with a vaguely maternal instinct or who has a relationship with a child or animal.'

I can deal with the people who think mother's day is stupid and pointless and hallmark-y. Fine. Whatever. But OP is right, if you have no children and want no children then you should not be celebrated on mother's day. Just like Chinese people shouldn't be celebrated during black history month and straight women shouldn't be celebrated during pride week.

If you're going to name something specific, then it loses all meaning when anyone can define themselves as that specific thing.

This is how I feel too. You just said it better than I would have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It irritates me when people turn Mother’s Day into a day of mourning for those who have had miscarriages. Pregnancy loss gets a whole month. They don’t need to take over the DAY that mothers get.

How does this diminish your Mother’s Day?

I feel like this will be inflammatory but this is the equivalent of all lives matter to moms. Its a day for moms, thats what its called. So when everyone under the sun can define themselves as a mom, then it really isn't celebrating 'moms' but more like, 'women' or 'anyone with a vaguely maternal instinct or who has a relationship with a child or animal.'

I can deal with the people who think mother's day is stupid and pointless and hallmark-y. Fine. Whatever. But OP is right, if you have no children and want no children then you should not be celebrated on mother's day. Just like Chinese people shouldn't be celebrated during black history month and straight women shouldn't be celebrated during pride week.

If you're going to name something specific, then it loses all meaning when anyone can define themselves as that specific thing.

By the fact that you quoted the post about miscarriages, I'm assuming that means you don't believe women who have lost their children during pregnancy to be mothers? What about women whose children died later in life-- as infants, toddlers, children, young adults, and so on? Are they no longer mothers?

I should have picked a different post. I’m the pp and do not feel this way about mother’s who have suffered losses.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are dreadful.

Hope you had a great time celebrating your fake holiday!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: OP, you sound jealous

Jealous....of women who consider their dogs to be the equivalent of a human child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: OP, you sound jealous

Jealous....of women who consider their dogs to be the equivalent of a human child?

No. Jealous that she was smart enough to have dogs and not kids and lead an unencumbered adventurous life. Sorry you drank the kool-aid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: OP, you sound jealous

Jealous....of women who consider their dogs to be the equivalent of a human child?

No. Jealous that she was smart enough to have dogs and not kids and lead an unencumbered adventurous life. Sorry you drank the kool-aid.

If someone told invited you to a birthday dinner and there were 20 other people there and they spent the whole party talking about how 9 other attendees also had birthdays within 6 months of yours and therefore it was their party too then it would be a sucky party for you. If you had been invited to a joint party from the start then hey, the more the merrier, super fun! But it was sold to you as specifically your birthday party. You got excited thinking about it in that context. What’s the point of having told you that if there were going to be 10 names on the cake?

What’s the point of Mother’s Day if it’s for every person that has taken care of another living thing.

Weirdly there aren’t a bunch of childless by choice dads coopting Father’s Day with pictures of their dogs. Because people don’t expect men to have to put their emotions aside for the emotional benefit of others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It irritates me when people turn Mother’s Day into a day of mourning for those who have had miscarriages. Pregnancy loss gets a whole month. They don’t need to take over the DAY that mothers get.

How does this diminish your Mother’s Day?

I feel like this will be inflammatory but this is the equivalent of all lives matter to moms. Its a day for moms, thats what its called. So when everyone under the sun can define themselves as a mom, then it really isn't celebrating 'moms' but more like, 'women' or 'anyone with a vaguely maternal instinct or who has a relationship with a child or animal.'

I can deal with the people who think mother's day is stupid and pointless and hallmark-y. Fine. Whatever. But OP is right, if you have no children and want no children then you should not be celebrated on mother's day. Just like Chinese people shouldn't be celebrated during black history month and straight women shouldn't be celebrated during pride week.

If you're going to name something specific, then it loses all meaning when anyone can define themselves as that specific thing.

This is how I feel too. You just said it better than I would have.

I agree. I mean I say this even as I’m homeschooling my kids. I’m not Teacher. Should I be celebrated during that week. That’s the problem including everyone because we can’t exclude anyone. Not everyone can be everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: OP, you sound jealous

Jealous....of women who consider their dogs to be the equivalent of a human child?

No. Jealous that she was smart enough to have dogs and not kids and lead an unencumbered adventurous life. Sorry you drank the kool-aid.

If someone told invited you to a birthday dinner and there were 20 other people there and they spent the whole party talking about how 9 other attendees also had birthdays within 6 months of yours and therefore it was their party too then it would be a sucky party for you. If you had been invited to a joint party from the start then hey, the more the merrier, super fun! But it was sold to you as specifically your birthday party. You got excited thinking about it in that context. What’s the point of having told you that if there were going to be 10 names on the cake?

What’s the point of Mother’s Day if it’s for every person that has taken care of another living thing.

Weirdly there aren’t a bunch of childless by choice dads coopting Father’s Day with pictures of their dogs. Because people don’t expect men to have to put their emotions aside for the emotional benefit of others.

This made me laugh!

[Anonymous]

You know, another thing to consider are the women who are NOT childless by choice. Who would give anything to be a mother, but for whatever reason - infertility, health concerns, not having a life partner, etc. - they cannot see that dream fulfilled. So maybe they have those fur babies to fill the hole in their heart, and while they care for them differently than those of us with children, they appreciate the opportunity to feel like a mom / caregiver in their own way. Some of these women, like my sister-in-law who has been unable to have children, though she would love to, instead is a godmother to my children and "mom" to her two cats. She has had enough heartache in her life being unable to have kids, so if she wants to post pictures on Mother's Day of her and her cats, I'm not going to deny her that little bit of joy. Let her feel like a mom in her own way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know, another thing to consider are the women who are NOT childless by choice. Who would give anything to be a mother, but for whatever reason - infertility, health concerns, not having a life partner, etc. - they cannot see that dream fulfilled. So maybe they have those fur babies to fill the hole in their heart, and while they care for them differently than those of us with children, they appreciate the opportunity to feel like a mom / caregiver in their own way. Some of these women, like my sister-in-law who has been unable to have children, though she would love to, instead is a godmother to my children and "mom" to her two cats. She has had enough heartache in her life being unable to have kids, so if she wants to post pictures on Mother's Day of her and her cats, I'm not going to deny her that little bit of joy. Let her feel like a mom in her own way.

I feel bad for your sister in law but there is also something incredibly pathetic about posting pics of yourself with your cats and calling yourself a cat mom for Mother’s Day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know, another thing to consider are the women who are NOT childless by choice. Who would give anything to be a mother, but for whatever reason - infertility, health concerns, not having a life partner, etc. - they cannot see that dream fulfilled. So maybe they have those fur babies to fill the hole in their heart, and while they care for them differently than those of us with children, they appreciate the opportunity to feel like a mom / caregiver in their own way. Some of these women, like my sister-in-law who has been unable to have children, though she would love to, instead is a godmother to my children and "mom" to her two cats. She has had enough heartache in her life being unable to have kids, so if she wants to post pictures on Mother's Day of her and her cats, I'm not going to deny her that little bit of joy. Let her feel like a mom in her own way.

Honestly, this is why it goes on and while we allow it. It’s sort of sad and pathetic, but we play along because, well, it’s sad and pathetic. I hope I would not do that if I could not have children, but maybe I would, and I know my kind friends and family would play along.

[Anonymous]

OP, my college aged ds signed my card

"Love,

Your Favorite Child,

and Paul."

With a pawprint. Because my favorite child is my dcat. Paul knows that I love him almost as much as his sister (dcat).

We're kind of joking.

But my ds and I kind of play this up because I have an uptight friend like you, and she absolutely does NOT get the joke when my ds talks about his "sister." Isn't it possible some of these women are goading you a bit, for fun?