Child free women trying to co-opt Mother’s Day

[Anonymous]

Lol they can have it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the rant can be generalized... there are people who just want to make everything about themselves.

I have a couple old friends like this and I just hide their social media posts. And I try to have sympathy, too. People who are truly happy don't need constant external approval and attention.

Exactly. It's sad when I see a friend who is so empty that they resent a day that isn't for them.

[Anonymous]

OP here, just to clarify, I am NOT talking about women who wanted to have children and could not for various reasons. I believe we should be sensitive to those women on mother's day especially. I am specifically talking about women who are childfree and spend the rest of the time talking about how they are so glad they aren't moms and complaining about children and families. It's just so hypocritical. The rest of the year you're proud not to be a mom but all of a sudden it's mothers day so moms are being celebrated and you want in?? Sorry, but no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the rant can be generalized... there are people who just want to make everything about themselves.

I have a couple old friends like this and I just hide their social media posts. And I try to have sympathy, too. People who are truly happy don't need constant external approval and attention.

Exactly. It's sad when I see a friend who is so empty that they resent a day that isn't for them.

Yep, exactly this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, just to clarify, I am NOT talking about women who wanted to have children and could not for various reasons. I believe we should be sensitive to those women on mother's day especially. I am specifically talking about women who are childfree and spend the rest of the time talking about how they are so glad they aren't moms and complaining about children and families. It's just so hypocritical. The rest of the year you're proud not to be a mom but all of a sudden it's mothers day so moms are being celebrated and you want in?? Sorry, but no.

Sometimes this is the way women cope with having "wanted to have children and could not for various reasons:" a bit of sour grapes, a bit of unresolved longing, and a lot of "you don't discuss infertility."

[Anonymous]

Honestly I am just sad for them.

Be happy with what you have, OP!

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I have to admit this annoys me too. Unlike the PP who thinks moms feel superior 364 days of the year, I think moms generally get sh*t on 364 days of the year. We get so many mixed messages that it's hard to listen to our inner voice or what our own families taught us. It's not always so easy to tune all that out when it is everywhere.

A few years ago on Mother's Day I was in the thick of the newborn stage and exhausted. Someone I know from high school (who was always a little strange) posted not once, but twice that day referring to herself as a mother. She rescues dogs. One post was something like "Oh that aggressive pat down at the airport was quite the Mother's Day present!" Like she truly thinks she deserves to be celebrated on Mother's Day because she has a couple of dogs. It really irritated me to see that while healing from major surgery, not sleeping, and dealing with a newborn and a 3 year old. It clearly still annoys me because I still remember it! It is weird that some people can't handle a day that isn't about them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For some reason this reminds me of a friend of mine who was in vet school at the same time I was in a pediatrics residency. I was talking to her and asking how she managed to keep everything straight between so many different animals with different surgeries and different illnesses.

"It's not that bad. There just isn't as much on the line. People might think that their dogs are their kids, but they are not, actually, their kids."

Being a dog mom is great, but it isn't the same and everyone knows it. Don't worry about it, OP.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, just to clarify, I am NOT talking about women who wanted to have children and could not for various reasons. I believe we should be sensitive to those women on mother's day especially. I am specifically talking about women who are childfree and spend the rest of the time talking about how they are so glad they aren't moms and complaining about children and families. It's just so hypocritical. The rest of the year you're proud not to be a mom but all of a sudden it's mothers day so moms are being celebrated and you want in?? Sorry, but no.

Sometimes this is the way women cope with having "wanted to have children and could not for various reasons:" a bit of sour grapes, a bit of unresolved longing, and a lot of "you don't discuss infertility."

+1 - one of my dear friends is a “dog mom”. She never ended up with a guy and unfortunately it’s likely too late to have kids. She makes a lot of comments about how she’s happy she’s not in the trenches like a lot of us are right and loves being a “dog mom”. I’ve known her since college and am pretty sure she wishes she did have a family (or at least wanted that earlier in her life) but who tf cares. I love her, I wish the best for her, and I certainly have no interest in rubbing salt in the wound if she is disappointed about it

[Anonymous]

The “childfree” who won’t shut up about it are annoying in general.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly I am just sad for them.

Be happy with what you have, OP!

Yes, ignore and be happy. The day their pet can make them breakfast, draw a picture, tell them how wonderful it was to have their love and support with homework, friendships, broken hearts, career decisions, etc. is they day I will wish a fur parent Happy Mother's Day. Until then a pet is not the same as a child and I will ignore them and be thankful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the rant can be generalized... there are people who just want to make everything about themselves.

I have a couple old friends like this and I just hide their social media posts. And I try to have sympathy, too. People who are truly happy don't need constant external approval and attention.

I think it’s this right here. Some people just need attention and will use Mother’s Day or any other excuse to post about themselves. It’s especially atrocious when someone dies and instead of just giving their condolences to the family, it’s a Facebook post about “my loss.” Just ignore these people.

[Anonymous]

I send my childhood nanny a gift and call her every Mother’s Day. She never had children of her own and was definitely a mother-figure to me even though I have a great mom.

I don’t mind sharing Mother’s Day with anyone, male or female, who “Mother’s”.

[Anonymous]

Tell your friend to save it for national dog day. I have a friend like that, too. I think she's mentally unstable, I unfollowed her years ago. Too annoying, and pitiful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one that finds this utterly obnoxious? I know several women who are child free by choice and spend the other 364 days of the year railing against children and families and going on about how it’s better to be child free. Then Mother’s Day comes around and they’re all over social media wishing themselves a happy Mother’s Day because they are “dog moms.” Just stoppppp.

This made me laugh!