Child free women trying to co-opt Mother’s Day

[Anonymous]

Guys it’s not zero sum. Who cares what other people do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guys it’s not zero sum. Who cares what other people do?

I don’t know. There is something kind of gross about comparing children to dogs. I get why it’s upsetting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guys it’s not zero sum. Who cares what other people do?

I don’t care that much, it’s just dumb social media posturing that I roll my eyes about. But these women spend the other 364 days a year ranting about how great it is to be “child free,” they talk about people’s “crotch droplings,” they pretty much literally hate kids. And then on Mother’s Day they have the audacity to make it all about themselves instead of just ... not posting anything or even talking about their own mothers! It’s just incredibly weird and self-absorbed.

[Anonymous]

I’m childfree and own dogs. I do NOT do this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guys it’s not zero sum. Who cares what other people do?

I don’t care that much, it’s just dumb social media posturing that I roll my eyes about. But these women spend the other 364 days a year ranting about how great it is to be “child free,” they talk about people’s “crotch droplings,” they pretty much literally hate kids. And then on Mother’s Day they have the audacity to make it all about themselves instead of just ... not posting anything or even talking about their own mothers! It’s just incredibly weird and self-absorbed.

Yeah, I have plenty of child-free friends and family members, but not like those. Those sound like people whose opinion I would care zero about. I haven’t seen anything that nasty, though, so presumably I’ve already eliminated those types of people from my circles already. Life is too short.

[Anonymous]

Omg, my single friend who is a “dog mom” and loves her “fur babies”. Has texted me twice today with memes about being a dog mom on Mother’s Day! I get it, I adore my dog. But being a mom to humans is a completely different ballgame.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who refer to themselves as dog moms are annoying regardless of whether they have kids.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I send my childhood nanny a gift and call her every Mother’s Day. She never had children of her own and was definitely a mother-figure to me even though I have a great mom.

I don’t mind sharing Mother’s Day with anyone, male or female, who “Mother’s”.

Lovely.

And I also agree with the PP who stated it wasn’t zero sum. It doesn’t take anything away from your celebration of Mother’s Day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg, my single friend who is a “dog mom” and loves her “fur babies”. Has texted me twice today with memes about being a dog mom on Mother’s Day! I get it, I adore my dog. But being a mom to humans is a completely different ballgame.

PP here again, as much as I do find this annoying, I also care for her as a person. I know to her, her dogs are the nearest and dearest things in her life. So I react supportively. As someone said above, this is not a zero sum game.

[Anonymous]

It irritates me when people turn Mother’s Day into a day of mourning for those who have had miscarriages. Pregnancy loss gets a whole month. They don’t need to take over the DAY that mothers get.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It irritates me when people turn Mother’s Day into a day of mourning for those who have had miscarriages. Pregnancy loss gets a whole month. They don’t need to take over the DAY that mothers get.

How does this diminish your Mother’s Day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It irritates me when people turn Mother’s Day into a day of mourning for those who have had miscarriages. Pregnancy loss gets a whole month. They don’t need to take over the DAY that mothers get.

Wow, your humanity level is just about zero.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It irritates me when people turn Mother’s Day into a day of mourning for those who have had miscarriages. Pregnancy loss gets a whole month. They don’t need to take over the DAY that mothers get.

But we are mothers, too. I have lost all of my children to stillbirth or miscarriage.

Is it wrong that I remind others that we are mothers, too? And our hisbands/boyfriends/partners are fathers, too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one that finds this utterly obnoxious? I know several women who are child free by choice and spend the other 364 days of the year railing against children and families and going on about how it’s better to be child free. Then Mother’s Day comes around and they’re all over social media wishing themselves a happy Mother’s Day because they are “dog moms.” Just stoppppp.

As a man, my feelings are hurt real bad.

If you are a mother, I am too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It irritates me when people turn Mother’s Day into a day of mourning for those who have had miscarriages. Pregnancy loss gets a whole month. They don’t need to take over the DAY that mothers get.

Op here. Wow wow wow this was NOT where I was going with this at all. My specific complaint was about the child free by choice people trying to co-opt Mother’s Day because they “mother” their pets/plants. Women who have experienced miscarriage/still birth deserve all of our compassion and respect on Mother’s Day and every day.