Just tell me straight- is the uninvited sibling you are bringing to the party going to take a favor?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t read all 6 pages but unfortunately I think you’ll have to buy more cookies. We had this exact thing happen and ran out of favors (we even had parents take more than one favor for an INFANT sibling AT HOME!). My husband, bless his heart, was pulling out fruit snacks and candy from our pantry to give to the 3 kids who didn’t get favors at my son’s birthday last year.

If you can’t get those exact cookies, run to Wegmans and buy a few of their iced cookies as backups.

We also just went to a birthday party last weekend that only 1 of my kids was invited to. The same parent who took extra favors at my son’s birthday did the exact thing at this party! Took TWO extra goody bags for their 2 kids who weren’t invited. One of their kids is not even 1YO!

This is why I have my kid hand out the goody bags in my presence. If someone tired to take an extra, I’m say I’m sorrry, but we only have enough for the party kids.

[Anonymous]

Here’s a question: will the uninvited sibling be bringing a separate gift? If not, no goodie bag, and the parent in question doesn’t have a leg to stand on in expecting one. They’re the cheapo, not OP.

[Anonymous]

Yes you should provide a favor to every child there. Buy a few extra if you need to. Don't be cheap!!!

What is wrong with you?? I can't believe you are complaining about a few dollars over excluding a kid and making him/her feel bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a question: will the uninvited sibling be bringing a separate gift? If not, no goodie bag, and the parent in question doesn’t have a leg to stand on in expecting one. They’re the cheapo, not OP.

We are talking about children. Children brought by their parents who did nothing wrong. Look a three-year-old in the eyes and say, “No! You don’t get a cookie because you were not invited!”

God help us, some of you women are truly pathetically petty.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One per family

One cookie per family? People throw “tacky” and “low class” around a lot on DCUM. Not giving out favors to all of of the children you accepted RSVPs for is the epitome of tacky and low class.

Honestly do you know how evite works? People reply. There’s no formal acceptance process.

Do you know how life works? If OP does not reply to the people that have RSVPed for Larla and her two siblings saying she can not accommodate siblings, she has tacitly accepted their reply AND their two extra guests. She needs to a)buy more cookies, or b) tell people she can’t accommodate siblings.

Telling guests (and they ARE guests after she accepted the RSVP) there are things they cannot have or do at the party is tacky. Full stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a question: will the uninvited sibling be bringing a separate gift? If not, no goodie bag, and the parent in question doesn’t have a leg to stand on in expecting one. They’re the cheapo, not OP.

Point of the party should not be how many gifts the kid get. To even look at a child's birthday party like you suggest is really materialistic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t read all 6 pages but unfortunately I think you’ll have to buy more cookies. We had this exact thing happen and ran out of favors (we even had parents take more than one favor for an INFANT sibling AT HOME!). My husband, bless his heart, was pulling out fruit snacks and candy from our pantry to give to the 3 kids who didn’t get favors at my son’s birthday last year.

If you can’t get those exact cookies, run to Wegmans and buy a few of their iced cookies as backups.

We also just went to a birthday party last weekend that only 1 of my kids was invited to. The same parent who took extra favors at my son’s birthday did the exact thing at this party! Took TWO extra goody bags for their 2 kids who weren’t invited. One of their kids is not even 1YO!

This is why I have my kid hand out the goody bags in my presence. If someone tired to take an extra, I’m say I’m sorrry, but we only have enough for the party kids.

But why? Why would you do this? Why make yourself seem so cheap and rude, and why involve your kids in that also?
Is it that you cannot afford the extra goody bags? Are you trying to stick it to the parents who brought extra kids (I'm not excusing that, but that's not the question). What is it you are trying to achieve here?

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s a question: will the uninvited sibling be bringing a separate gift? If not, no goodie bag, and the parent in question doesn’t have a leg to stand on in expecting one. They’re the cheapo, not OP.

Point of the party should not be how many gifts the kid get. To even look at a child's birthday party like you suggest is really materialistic.

If you’re couching it in terms of the OP being cheap, then you are the one who has brought it to a materialistic level. You give a gift, you get a bag. No gift, no bag. Very simple.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s a question: will the uninvited sibling be bringing a separate gift? If not, no goodie bag, and the parent in question doesn’t have a leg to stand on in expecting one. They’re the cheapo, not OP.

We are talking about children. Children brought by their parents who did nothing wrong. Look a three-year-old in the eyes and say, “No! You don’t get a cookie because you were not invited!”

God help us, some of you women are truly pathetically petty.

Even worse- the PP is saying to a child "no, you don't get a goody bag because you didn't bring a present." OMG!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a question: will the uninvited sibling be bringing a separate gift? If not, no goodie bag, and the parent in question doesn’t have a leg to stand on in expecting one. They’re the cheapo, not OP.

We are talking about children. Children brought by their parents who did nothing wrong. Look a three-year-old in the eyes and say, “No! You don’t get a cookie because you were not invited!”

God help us, some of you women are truly pathetically petty.

Even worse- the PP is saying to a child "no, you don't get a goody bag because you didn't bring a present." OMG!

Well, the parent should have thought of that before they decided to inflict another child (ie expense) on the host. It’s up to them to manage their child’s expectations. Y’all are some entitled prats.

[Anonymous]

I would just eat the cookies myself and skip the party favors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hand them to the invited kids only. Don’t leave them out for kids to take themselves.

I do this anyway. The kid is getting ready to leave, and I (and now my kid, once she was old enough) thanks them for coming and hands them the favor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not a budget thing, more if a time thing. Party is Sunday, cookies have been delivered. People RSVPing with siblings coming last minute.

Tell them siblings aren't invited. And change the RSVP setting on Evite or whatever to only one kid. They are rude, but you are not helpless here.

Or else label the fancy cookies for the invited guests, and have some grocery-store cookies for the siblings.

[Anonymous]

I would send out thank you cards and the cookies together and not have any favors at the party.

[Anonymous]

This is one reason I don't do favors. They're dumb.