Just tell me straight- is the uninvited sibling you are bringing to the party going to take a favor?

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Anonymous wrote:If you say "we cannot accommodate siblings," you are admitting that you're poor.

Deny it all you want.

What’s wrong with being poor, and planning the party you can afford?

Nothing. That poster is an asshat.

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Anonymous wrote:Favor is a tasty custom cookie btw.

Write the invited child’s name on the favor bag. Done.

This is what you do.

That’s so unkind. The siblings are just little kids too. Why be so stingy? It’s a fricking cookie.

It’s a custom, pre-ordered cookie. She isn’t rewrapping Chips Ahoy.

Unless that cookie is dipped in gold you are being incredibly cheap. Oh and if a few extra cookies sets you back, maybe you shouldn't be spending money on a party to begin with OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just buy (normal) cookies to supplement and do try to loosen up.

Let me guess - you RSVP with extra siblings who weren’t invited? Why place the burden on the party planner? You’re making excuses for bad behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:Favor is a tasty custom cookie btw.

Write the invited child’s name on the favor bag. Done.

This is what you do.

That’s so unkind. The siblings are just little kids too. Why be so stingy? It’s a fricking cookie.

It’s a custom, pre-ordered cookie. She isn’t rewrapping Chips Ahoy.

Unless that cookie is dipped in gold you are being incredibly cheap. Oh and if a few extra cookies sets you back, maybe you shouldn't be spending money on a party to begin with OP.

Maybe she is splurging on the cookies. Planning a party in her budget for the guests she invited doesn’t make her cheap. But calling someone else out for, in your opinion, not having enough money to accommodate uninvited guests DOES make you insensitive and not a very nice person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who raised y’all? Put names on the favors and tell kids they weren’t invited so they don’t get a cookie? Once you accept the RSVP, those children are now your invited guests. Buy extra cookies or tell people you can’t accommodate siblings.

This poster has a point. If you don’t want the siblings and you know they’re planning to come, say no. Unexpected siblings, I wouldn’t worry about (and would still label the favors - I always do that so I can be sure everyone got one/no one forgot to get one).

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Anonymous wrote:Favor is a tasty custom cookie btw.

Write the invited child’s name on the favor bag. Done.

This is what you do.

That’s so unkind. The siblings are just little kids too. Why be so stingy? It’s a fricking cookie.

It’s a custom, pre-ordered cookie. She isn’t rewrapping Chips Ahoy.

Unless that cookie is dipped in gold you are being incredibly cheap. Oh and if a few extra cookies sets you back, maybe you shouldn't be spending money on a party to begin with OP.

Maybe she is splurging on the cookies. Planning a party in her budget for the guests she invited doesn’t make her cheap. But calling someone else out for, in your opinion, not having enough money to accommodate uninvited guests DOES make you insensitive and not a very nice person.

My god. Is this thread for real? so much manufactured distress...

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Anonymous wrote:Favor is a tasty custom cookie btw.

Write the invited child’s name on the favor bag. Done.

This is what you do.

That’s so unkind. The siblings are just little kids too. Why be so stingy? It’s a fricking cookie.

It’s a custom, pre-ordered cookie. She isn’t rewrapping Chips Ahoy.

Unless that cookie is dipped in gold you are being incredibly cheap. Oh and if a few extra cookies sets you back, maybe you shouldn't be spending money on a party to begin with OP.

Maybe she is splurging on the cookies. Planning a party in her budget for the guests she invited doesn’t make her cheap. But calling someone else out for, in your opinion, not having enough money to accommodate uninvited guests DOES make you insensitive and not a very nice person.

You do realize we are talking about extra cookies here? It's not a big deal. Get back-up cookies--or make your own cookies and put them in gift bag. It's really not a hard problem to solve.

[Anonymous]

It’s not a budget thing, more if a time thing. Party is Sunday, cookies have been delivered. People RSVPing with siblings coming last minute.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not a budget thing, more if a time thing. Party is Sunday, cookies have been delivered. People RSVPing with siblings coming last minute.

Just make a back-up gift bag in case they are needed and you can include small gift and treat. Should be fine.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not a budget thing, more if a time thing. Party is Sunday, cookies have been delivered. People RSVPing with siblings coming last minute.

Stale cookies...yuck. Get a different favor and let kids choose.

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Anonymous wrote:Have two baskets - one marked "party favors" and the "party crasher favors."

I love you!

[Anonymous]

Stop the sibling bringing immediately. Just say, NO SIBLINGS,!

[Anonymous]

Actually I do kind of think it’s cheap (not to at least have an equivalent for siblings, if you don’t have time to get the same thing) and have no patience in this case for the “she’s on a budget” argument. And I’m someone who made a case in a recent thread in favor of my single mom friend who didn’t provide tickets to the carousel at a public park as part of the party itself (it was the “favor”). So I’m not like these posters who are all, “It’s one banana, Michael! How much could it cost, $10?” I get budgeting. And even being pretty broke. But to me, inviting siblings is a gray area or a cultural thing (in many cases) and something you have to plan for happening... not “bad behavior” you need to “discourage.” So if you’re on a strict budget, you reduce your spending per person, you don’t plan things out to the last penny in hopes that your 4 year old’s birthday party won’t be crashed by— heaven forfend!— a sibling, even an uninvited one. Obviously within reason— if someone comes with an entourage of 20, fine, turn them away.

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I didn’t read all 6 pages but unfortunately I think you’ll have to buy more cookies. We had this exact thing happen and ran out of favors (we even had parents take more than one favor for an INFANT sibling AT HOME!). My husband, bless his heart, was pulling out fruit snacks and candy from our pantry to give to the 3 kids who didn’t get favors at my son’s birthday last year.

If you can’t get those exact cookies, run to Wegmans and buy a few of their iced cookies as backups.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t read all 6 pages but unfortunately I think you’ll have to buy more cookies. We had this exact thing happen and ran out of favors (we even had parents take more than one favor for an INFANT sibling AT HOME!). My husband, bless his heart, was pulling out fruit snacks and candy from our pantry to give to the 3 kids who didn’t get favors at my son’s birthday last year.

If you can’t get those exact cookies, run to Wegmans and buy a few of their iced cookies as backups.

We also just went to a birthday party last weekend that only 1 of my kids was invited to. The same parent who took extra favors at my son’s birthday did the exact thing at this party! Took TWO extra goody bags for their 2 kids who weren’t invited. One of their kids is not even 1YO!