Just tell me straight- is the uninvited sibling you are bringing to the party going to take a favor?

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This is not a big deal and I'm always against siblings just coming. If you have an edible favor, just buy an extra box of cookies. YOU care that they are matching and "tasty" and special cookies, but kids won't.

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Anonymous wrote:Get this, OP. I ordered enough fancy cookies to send extra home for siblings that did not attend the party. Because I’m not cheap, 20 extra bucks is not that big a deal, and then parents don’t have to deal with fights or whining when they get home.

Hurrah for you? I’m not trying to be cheap, it’s a time thing. I just didn’t realize the phenomenon of “RSVP really late and tack on siblings”.

Then grow a spine. “So excited Larla can attend! Unfortunately, I am not able to accommodate siblings.”

This. Just tell them OP. Or else own your doormat self.

It’s not about being a doormat. I don’t need people talking smack about me if some people show up with siblings and some get told no.

Are you in high school? Talking smack?

I am at capacity so unfortunately, I cannot accommodate any additional siblings. Just communicate like an adult.

People will still crab about it if they see other siblings there. I don’t need that.

OMG either include siblings or don’t. This is not that hard.

OMG don’t bring uninvited kids to a party. It’s not that hard.

Unfortunately people are stupid and entitled. You need to spell it out on the invitation. It takes like 10 seconds, which would have been a lot easier than all the hand wringing that OP is doing now.

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Anonymous wrote:Get this, OP. I ordered enough fancy cookies to send extra home for siblings that did not attend the party. Because I’m not cheap, 20 extra bucks is not that big a deal, and then parents don’t have to deal with fights or whining when they get home.

Hurrah for you? I’m not trying to be cheap, it’s a time thing. I just didn’t realize the phenomenon of “RSVP really late and tack on siblings”.

Then grow a spine. “So excited Larla can attend! Unfortunately, I am not able to accommodate siblings.”

This. Just tell them OP. Or else own your doormat self.

It’s not about being a doormat. I don’t need people talking smack about me if some people show up with siblings and some get told no.

Are you in high school? Talking smack?

I am at capacity so unfortunately, I cannot accommodate any additional siblings. Just communicate like an adult.

People will still crab about it if they see other siblings there. I don’t need that.

OMG either include siblings or don’t. This is not that hard.

OMG don’t bring uninvited kids to a party. It’s not that hard.

Unfortunately people are stupid and entitled. You need to spell it out on the invitation. It takes like 10 seconds, which would have been a lot easier than all the hand wringing that OP is doing now.

Some people bring siblings b/c the don't have child care, can't afford child care, or it's just inconvenient to leave children elsewhere. People don't intentionally trying to freeload off kids birthday party.

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Anonymous wrote:This is not a big deal and I'm always against siblings just coming. If you have an edible favor, just buy an extra box of cookies. YOU care that they are matching and "tasty" and special cookies, but kids won't.

+1. I would just buy something edible that fits the theme and hand out the favors yourself to the children, giving the custom ones to the friends.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry this is op- I’m just flummoxed. This is my one and only kid and first big birthday and I didn’t know people just RSVPd for siblings without checking. I doubled the pizza and cake but stupid me I had custom favors.

Have you not read the 5,000,000 threads on this very issue?

Seriously. How many times have we had threads on uninvited siblings coming.

OP, this is on you. You did not put no siblings in your invite and now you have siblings coming. Be nice and provide the cookies to all the kids who have RSVPd

Now if someone shows up randomly on the day of party, I wouldn't feel obliged to provide any favor.

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Anonymous wrote:If you say "we cannot accommodate siblings," you are admitting that you're poor.

Deny it all you want.

Sure. If you say so. And I bet Warren Buffet is poor too since he uses coupons

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Anonymous wrote:Just buy extra non custom cookies and give them to siblings. If they’re younger they won’t notice

This.

OP, put the custom and non custom cookies in bags that you cannot see through. Put names on the bags with the custom cookies and no name for the others and arrange them separately next to each other. If the kids do notice their cookies are different, let the rude parents deal with the crying and fighting in the car.

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I for one really want to know more about the custom cookies! Do tell OP- and then maybe we could suggest a good surrogate.

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I think the party must be for very young guests where parents are staying. This does not sound like a drop off party.

I have 3 kids but when I only had 1-2, they were many family parties back then.

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Anonymous wrote:I for one really want to know more about the custom cookies! Do tell OP- and then maybe we could suggest a good surrogate.

I just had custom cookies made for my dh’s 40th Birthday party. They were sugar cookies in the shape of his favorite team. I had helmets. They cost about $5 per cookie.

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yes, I spent a small fortune on custom cookies. The siblings will DEFINITELY take/want a cookie

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Anonymous wrote:Just buy extra non custom cookies and give them to siblings. If they’re younger they won’t notice

This.

OP, put the custom and non custom cookies in bags that you cannot see through. Put names on the bags with the custom cookies and no name for the others and arrange them separately next to each other. If the kids do notice their cookies are different, let the rude parents deal with the crying and fighting in the car.

This. You have your solution OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry this is op- I’m just flummoxed. This is my one and only kid and first big birthday and I didn’t know people just RSVPd for siblings without checking. I doubled the pizza and cake but stupid me I had custom favors.

Have you not read the 5,000,000 threads on this very issue?

Seriously. How many times have we had threads on uninvited siblings coming.

OP, this is on you. You did not put no siblings in your invite and now you have siblings coming. Be nice and provide the cookies to all the kids who have RSVPd

Now if someone shows up randomly on the day of party, I wouldn't feel obliged to provide any favor.

Yup.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, get more favors. Some families invite siblings. We plan it and do.

We have extra favors, not only for siblings who come, but siblings who are at home. I find it so sweet when a child asks for extras for their brother or sister who did not come to the party. Also, I am not poor or poorly raised so extra food and extra favors is no hardship for us.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, get more favors. Some families invite siblings. We plan it and do.

We have extra favors, not only for siblings who come, but siblings who are at home. I find it so sweet when a child asks for extras for their brother or sister who did not come to the party. Also, I am not poor or poorly raised so extra food and extra favors is no hardship for us.