Sister is pissed at me because I can’t do a girls weekend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why can you do something for just a weekend? Then you wouldn’t need to take time off of work?

OP is this an option?

+1. So much room for compromise here. If a “ski trip” doesn’t fit into your schedule, why not do a 36-hr city weekend trip. That would give you more flexibility on the time of year too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your priorities are screwed up.

What?!

[Anonymous]

OP - there is a sense here that you do not value your sister as an equal. She needs to be an equal peer. Not beg for your affection or your attention. And you shouldn't lord power over her or pity her. Your post reeks of superiority. I think you, mistakenly, still have an older/younger sister dynamic going on. Nothing good will come of this. You need to be two equal adults. And stop trying to control with emotional manipulation.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely do not cancel either of your planned trips, especially if you’re looking forward to them. The people on here trying to guilt you into doing so are ridiculous.

That said, my guess is your sister is having some growing pains having moved away and is in need of some comfort and time with her sister. OP, you really should try to find a weekend (forget “long”) and pick a cheap place (see where Southwest is flying) where you can each fly and meet up and have some fun.

And tell her that her silent treatment has to stop. You love her and want to see her (I think?) and she has to work with you. Shifting from a mother-daughter dynamic to a sister dynamic will take some more time because her move away has made her feel unsettled and needy, I suspect.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are cold.

[Anonymous]

IDK why both of you can't compromise. She wants a long weekend away and you want to her to just visit you. Sister comes to visit for a weekend and you take one night to go to a close hotel for a girls night. Drinks, spa, casino whatever. People make life so complicated and I don't get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel bad for the sister. She’s understanding for the first time that her sister doesn’t actually like spending time with her. It’s just another obligation.

That has to suck. Obviously, the sister is hurt that pretty much the only family she has doesn’t really like her. It’s also crappy for OP, it must have been exhausting to go through the motions out of obligation for all those years.

Now the gig is up. Both sisters have to face the truth.

Your family hates you, I'm sure

DP. Wow. How do you end up at this conclusion from reading the PP?? Because she is sympathetic with OP's sister??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - there is a sense here that you do not value your sister as an equal. She needs to be an equal peer. Not beg for your affection or your attention. And you shouldn't lord power over her or pity her. Your post reeks of superiority. I think you, mistakenly, still have an older/younger sister dynamic going on. Nothing good will come of this. You need to be two equal adults. And stop trying to control with emotional manipulation.

Anonymous wrote:
OP, you are cold.

both of these.

[Anonymous]

I’m team OP. She invited her up for a weekend. She is not obligated to cancel her other girlfriend trips.

[Anonymous]

The responses on this thread bashing OP are cray cray. I have 4 sisters and we all live within an hour's drive of each other and are close. I still wouldn't cancel a trip with friends because one of them suddenly wants to take a trip and they WOULDN'T ASK. Jfc.