If you’re a minority or parent to a mixed race child

[Anonymous]

I have two mixed race kids- I’m white and my DH is Asian. We deliberately picked an area with a high number of minority and mixed kids. He didn’t want his kids to be the only ones.

We are in howard county. Our area is minority majority and our kids are the norm. We are very happy here.

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Anonymous wrote:How much does this factor into what neighborhood you live in and what school you choose? I live in an area of NOVA that has a good number of Hispanics, Asians/East Asians and mixed kids, and my child is mixed Asian and white. I keep going back and forth on whether to find a house here or look in NW DC. I looked at Wilson High, Deal, Murch demographics and the numbers are more like 30-50%+ black and Hispanic and only 5% Asian and/or 2-5% mixed race. If you are a minority parent or parent to a mixed (especially Asian/other race mix), how did this factor into your decision making? Growing up in a white area myself, it was important for me to find an area that was racially and socioeconomically diverse, but I go back and forth on whether the specific kind of racial diversity is important. What are your thoughts? I hated being only one of 2 Asian kids in my school, so that is where I am coming from.

We are looking at purchasing a home and settling down and I would love to hear other opinions.

Mixed Asian and white is basically white.

+1 I never thought of asians as not white until I started reading DCUM.

You need to be slapped with a history book.

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Anonymous wrote:How much does this factor into what neighborhood you live in and what school you choose? I live in an area of NOVA that has a good number of Hispanics, Asians/East Asians and mixed kids, and my child is mixed Asian and white. I keep going back and forth on whether to find a house here or look in NW DC. I looked at Wilson High, Deal, Murch demographics and the numbers are more like 30-50%+ black and Hispanic and only 5% Asian and/or 2-5% mixed race. If you are a minority parent or parent to a mixed (especially Asian/other race mix), how did this factor into your decision making? Growing up in a white area myself, it was important for me to find an area that was racially and socioeconomically diverse, but I go back and forth on whether the specific kind of racial diversity is important. What are your thoughts? I hated being only one of 2 Asian kids in my school, so that is where I am coming from.

We are looking at purchasing a home and settling down and I would love to hear other opinions.

Mixed Asian and white is basically white.

+1 I never thought of asians as not white until I started reading DCUM.

Really? Maybe you should fax that over to Harvard admissions office because they make it blatantly clear that asians are not white

Good for Harvard. I was talking about my own opinions.

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not important, we looked at test scores and chose mclean (kids looks keanu reeves like)

the mclean area has a lot of whites but they are very polite and inclusive so the kids have tons of friends of all colors but mostly white because thats the demographic breakdown

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Anonymous wrote:How much does this factor into what neighborhood you live in and what school you choose? I live in an area of NOVA that has a good number of Hispanics, Asians/East Asians and mixed kids, and my child is mixed Asian and white. I keep going back and forth on whether to find a house here or look in NW DC. I looked at Wilson High, Deal, Murch demographics and the numbers are more like 30-50%+ black and Hispanic and only 5% Asian and/or 2-5% mixed race. If you are a minority parent or parent to a mixed (especially Asian/other race mix), how did this factor into your decision making? Growing up in a white area myself, it was important for me to find an area that was racially and socioeconomically diverse, but I go back and forth on whether the specific kind of racial diversity is important. What are your thoughts? I hated being only one of 2 Asian kids in my school, so that is where I am coming from.

We are looking at purchasing a home and settling down and I would love to hear other opinions.

Mixed Asian and white is basically white.

+1 I never thought of asians as not white until I started reading DCUM.

Really? Maybe you should fax that over to Harvard admissions office because they make it blatantly clear that asians are not white

Good for Harvard. I was talking about my own opinions.

So in your opinion asian people look white? Absolutely ridiculous

[Anonymous]

don't be afraid of white affluent areas, these kids are much more polite and inclusive than poor areas.

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Anonymous wrote:How much does this factor into what neighborhood you live in and what school you choose? I live in an area of NOVA that has a good number of Hispanics, Asians/East Asians and mixed kids, and my child is mixed Asian and white. I keep going back and forth on whether to find a house here or look in NW DC. I looked at Wilson High, Deal, Murch demographics and the numbers are more like 30-50%+ black and Hispanic and only 5% Asian and/or 2-5% mixed race. If you are a minority parent or parent to a mixed (especially Asian/other race mix), how did this factor into your decision making? Growing up in a white area myself, it was important for me to find an area that was racially and socioeconomically diverse, but I go back and forth on whether the specific kind of racial diversity is important. What are your thoughts? I hated being only one of 2 Asian kids in my school, so that is where I am coming from.

We are looking at purchasing a home and settling down and I would love to hear other opinions.

Mixed Asian and white is basically white.

+1 I never thought of asians as not white until I started reading DCUM.

Really? Maybe you should fax that over to Harvard admissions office because they make it blatantly clear that asians are not white

Good for Harvard. I was talking about my own opinions.

So in your opinion asian people look white? Absolutely ridiculous

Yes, they are considered white.

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Anonymous wrote:How much does this factor into what neighborhood you live in and what school you choose? I live in an area of NOVA that has a good number of Hispanics, Asians/East Asians and mixed kids, and my child is mixed Asian and white. I keep going back and forth on whether to find a house here or look in NW DC. I looked at Wilson High, Deal, Murch demographics and the numbers are more like 30-50%+ black and Hispanic and only 5% Asian and/or 2-5% mixed race. If you are a minority parent or parent to a mixed (especially Asian/other race mix), how did this factor into your decision making? Growing up in a white area myself, it was important for me to find an area that was racially and socioeconomically diverse, but I go back and forth on whether the specific kind of racial diversity is important. What are your thoughts? I hated being only one of 2 Asian kids in my school, so that is where I am coming from.

We are looking at purchasing a home and settling down and I would love to hear other opinions.

Mixed Asian and white is basically white.

+1 I never thought of asians as not white until I started reading DCUM.

Really? Maybe you should fax that over to Harvard admissions office because they make it blatantly clear that asians are not white

Good for Harvard. I was talking about my own opinions.

So in your opinion asian people look white? Absolutely ridiculous

Yes, they are considered white.

I once mentioned to someone hispanic that there weren't many whites in our neighborhood and he said, yes there are -- there are a lot of hispanics. So go tell Harvard that, too.

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Anonymous wrote:How much does this factor into what neighborhood you live in and what school you choose? I live in an area of NOVA that has a good number of Hispanics, Asians/East Asians and mixed kids, and my child is mixed Asian and white. I keep going back and forth on whether to find a house here or look in NW DC. I looked at Wilson High, Deal, Murch demographics and the numbers are more like 30-50%+ black and Hispanic and only 5% Asian and/or 2-5% mixed race. If you are a minority parent or parent to a mixed (especially Asian/other race mix), how did this factor into your decision making? Growing up in a white area myself, it was important for me to find an area that was racially and socioeconomically diverse, but I go back and forth on whether the specific kind of racial diversity is important. What are your thoughts? I hated being only one of 2 Asian kids in my school, so that is where I am coming from.

We are looking at purchasing a home and settling down and I would love to hear other opinions.

Mixed Asian and white is basically white.

+1 I never thought of asians as not white until I started reading DCUM.

Really? Maybe you should fax that over to Harvard admissions office because they make it blatantly clear that asians are not white

Good for Harvard. I was talking about my own opinions.

So in your opinion asian people look white? Absolutely ridiculous

Yes, they are considered white.

By you only

[Anonymous]

>>**Dark features tend to be dominant**, so she probably looks more black than white as most AA/White kids do. The rare mixed kids that look white like Megan Markle tend to be more of a part of the white community.<<


err, not at unusual and not all biracial kids ending up looking like Barack Obama. My niece has a white mother (my sister) and a black father. She looks more white -- green eyes, blondish hair. If not for the kinky-ish curls, you would never guess her mixed heritage. Her half-sister has the same black father, and she has a white mom. That child has long straight blond hair and blue eyes. A slightly wide/think nose, basically the only indication that she may have AA heritage.

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up in DCPS. The only thing important to me (at the time) was that my daughter go to a good school. She goes to a WOTP school and has been one of maybe 2-3 black kids in the class for the last 5 years. It wasn't an issue until she asked if she could go to a school with more black kids. She says no one has been mean to her, but she feels like she doesn't fit in. It's a tough thing to resolve. I haven't found any solutions yet.

They may not be mean but I can guarantee they are doing things to exclude her. I was one of only a few black kids at an all white school and it was not a good experience. Get her into a more diverse school before her self esteem ends up damaged.

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I would not send my white child to an all black school for the same reason.

I think there is some overlap, but it's different if your kid is the majority race in society and hasn't faced societal discrimination.

Hasn't faced societal discrimination? Are you kidding me?
Easy to say if you aren't the only white kid in an all black school.

PP here. No, white kids do not experience societal/institutional discrimination.

Btw, our neighborhood school is predominantly AA, although there are a few white kids there. They're doing fine and haven't experienced any race-based issues.

I have a bi-racial child and a white child. My white child was the only white kid in his class one year and didn't have any problems. Now we are in a predominantly white neighborhood. My bi-racial child has had repeated "discipline" issues with his school even though his behavior is completely typical. The white kids don't treat him like a white kid, even though he's half white. The black kids treat him like a black kid. I've heard that bi-racial kids sometimes choose one race over the other to identify with, and I now think this has to do with how accepting the racial groups are around them are of them, more than their self-identity.

I'm a white single mom, and I am prepared to be a part of whatever black community my kid finds for himself as he grows up, since he is clearly more accepted as a black person than as a white person.

“Colorism”. There was an episode about this on the show Blackish. The family of 5 kids gave all shades of black: and they addressed the discrimination that even family shows each other for being light or dark skinned. “light is alright, brown can stick around, black get back.” Began with slave owners separating dark and light blacks in families; lighter tones were “house” negroes, dark were “field” negroes. We have a painful history. Many AAs have experienced discrimination by AAs for being AA. We have a long way to go, but we are getting there. It’s a really good episode and I loce the show because they do such a good job of creating awareness around issues in the black community, and the history behind it. I

[Anonymous]

Hit send too soon.

I’m glad that you are supportive of both sides of your sons heritage, and I’m sorry for the challenges he is still facing in 2020. We should be past this by now.

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up in DCPS. The only thing important to me (at the time) was that my daughter go to a good school. She goes to a WOTP school and has been one of maybe 2-3 black kids in the class for the last 5 years. It wasn't an issue until she asked if she could go to a school with more black kids. She says no one has been mean to her, but she feels like she doesn't fit in. It's a tough thing to resolve. I haven't found any solutions yet.

They may not be mean but I can guarantee they are doing things to exclude her. I was one of only a few black kids at an all white school and it was not a good experience. Get her into a more diverse school before her self esteem ends up damaged.

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I would not send my white child to an all black school for the same reason.

I think there is some overlap, but it's different if your kid is the majority race in society and hasn't faced societal discrimination.

Hasn't faced societal discrimination? Are you kidding me?
Easy to say if you aren't the only white kid in an all black school.

PP here. No, white kids do not experience societal/institutional discrimination.

Btw, our neighborhood school is predominantly AA, although there are a few white kids there. They're doing fine and haven't experienced any race-based issues.

I have a bi-racial child and a white child. My white child was the only white kid in his class one year and didn't have any problems. Now we are in a predominantly white neighborhood. My bi-racial child has had repeated "discipline" issues with his school even though his behavior is completely typical. The white kids don't treat him like a white kid, even though he's half white. The black kids treat him like a black kid. I've heard that bi-racial kids sometimes choose one race over the other to identify with, and I now think this has to do with how accepting the racial groups are around them are of them, more than their self-identity.

I'm a white single mom, and I am prepared to be a part of whatever black community my kid finds for himself as he grows up, since he is clearly more accepted as a black person than as a white person.

“Colorism”. There was an episode about this on the show Blackish. The family of 5 kids gave all shades of black: and they addressed the discrimination that even family shows each other for being light or dark skinned. “light is alright, brown can stick around, black get back.” Began with slave owners separating dark and light blacks in families; lighter tones were “house” negroes, dark were “field” negroes. We have a painful history. Many AAs have experienced discrimination by AAs for being AA. We have a long way to go, but we are getting there. It’s a really good episode and I loce the show because they do such a good job of creating awareness around issues in the black community, and the history behind it. I

This did not begin with slave owners. Human beings the world over do this to each other. It is a mysterious part of human nature. It has nothing to do with blacks vs whites or the history of slavery.

[Anonymous]

If your child had lesbian parents and was 1/2 Asian and 1/2 white, where would you move and what neighborhood and specific schools would you think would be the best fit for your child? Thanks for any guidance!

[Anonymous]

I didn't want my 100% Asian looking kid to be the only Asian in some Arlington schools in 22207. We bought in Vienna instead, where it's 25-30% Asian.

Are you worried about them possibly being discriminated against because they don't look white? Or celebrating two cultures kind of thing? Because the genetics reality is that so many of the white-Asian mix kids either look entirely white or white with maybe a hint of Asian features. Sometimes when I meet parents at birthday parties or at school I am surprised one parent is Asian because I would not have guessed it from their kid's appearance.