My son's best friend has a new super cute gf. But my son doesn't

[Anonymous]

Maybe he’s gay, OP.

[Anonymous]

OP - I would really prefer that my kids didn’t date in high school. Let them focus on school, friends and extra curriculars. Worrying about your kids love life is a bad idea at any time in their life but especially when they are still in high school!

[Anonymous]

As the parent of a teenage boy, this may be the most insane post I've ever seen. Seek help OP, seriously. Your reaction to your son's friend's girlfriend is super weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don't rake me over the coals for this. So DS's best friend, I'd say they're equally handsome young men, gregarious, both sporty, my DS is more accomplished in academics (attends more selective private). They hang together all the time. Well, maybe not as much this summer.

Over the weekend his friend brought his new gf to our beach house. Super sweet girl, super cute, very outgoing! Plays soccer and cheers. After, we asked DS if he's met any of her friends (hint, hint). He honestly said no. Isn't it odd that his best friend's gf hasn't tried to introduce him to her friends to get the double date/couple thing going?

Back in my day it was super common to set up friends with each other. Am I reaching? I think my DS is sometimes super immature for his age. I'm wondering if this is another signal of it.

Instead of overly involving yourself in your son's social/love life, you should dedicate your time to enhancing your vocabulary.

Your writing seems SUPER juvenile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it her responsibility to get your son a gf? (and 'attends a more selective private' is a major eyeroll)

Not her responsibility but it seems normal for girls dating boys to ask girlfriends to hang with their bf's mates. And she wasn't introverted, she obviously has a lot of friends. I'm honestly worried there's something off-putting my son does that would prevent this because on paper he seems like a catch.

Maybe in the 1950s and 60s, but not any more.

[Anonymous]

I feel sorry for your son and especially for his friend and the girlfriend.

You should enter the sand castle competition and leave them alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don't rake me over the coals for this. So DS's best friend, I'd say they're equally handsome young men, gregarious, both sporty, my DS is more accomplished in academics (attends more selective private). They hang together all the time. Well, maybe not as much this summer.

Over the weekend his friend brought his new gf to our beach house. Super sweet girl, super cute, very outgoing! Plays soccer and cheers. After, we asked DS if he's met any of her friends (hint, hint). He honestly said no. Isn't it odd that his best friend's gf hasn't tried to introduce him to her friends to get the double date/couple thing going?

Back in my day it was super common to set up friends with each other. Am I reaching? I think my DS is sometimes super immature for his age. I'm wondering if this is another signal of it.

And this is relevant because ... why?

In some circles, a boy at for example, a Big 3 private, would be a status symbol demonstrating some level of family money, connections, athletic prowess and baseline intelligence.

OMG. You need a hobby. This sounds like a b-level Edith Wharton novel featuring the D.C. Area

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are way too invested in this. You shouldn't be making your son feel like a girlfriend is a status symbol in the first place, let alone that he is lower in your eyes for not acquiring a cute enough one. This is very, very bizarre behavior on your part.

I didn't project any of this on him. I merely tried to provide as much detail to you all for purpose of insightful responses.

Here’s my response: stop talking about this. It’s really bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don't rake me over the coals for this. So DS's best friend, I'd say they're equally handsome young men, gregarious, both sporty, my DS is more accomplished in academics (attends more selective private). They hang together all the time. Well, maybe not as much this summer.

Over the weekend his friend brought his new gf to our beach house. Super sweet girl, super cute, very outgoing! Plays soccer and cheers. After, we asked DS if he's met any of her friends (hint, hint). He honestly said no. Isn't it odd that his best friend's gf hasn't tried to introduce him to her friends to get the double date/couple thing going?

Back in my day it was super common to set up friends with each other. Am I reaching? I think my DS is sometimes super immature for his age. I'm wondering if this is another signal of it.

If your son is as impressive as you think he already have a girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he’s gay, OP.

That was my first thought.

[Anonymous]

I get what you are saying OP. When I was young, I met tons of boys through my sister's and my best friend's boyfriends. When we would hang out as a group their boyfriends would bring their some of their friends. I have a younger son, he is 13, but his best friend has a "girlfriend". I think it's very innocent and they have gone to see a movie or they sit together at lunch. But just like that my son has become closer friends with a bunch of girls because the girl's friends sit with her at lunch and my son sits with his best friend and their other friends. So, yes, like adults, kids meet new people whenever a friend adds someone new to their circle. Just an FYI, I never dated any of the boys I met through my sister's boyfriend or through my best friend's boyfriend. But I did become good friends with a few of them and I eventually dated the brother of one of my new friends. I'm not sure why everyone thinks this is strange. It is the most normal thing.

[Anonymous]

Word got out that your son's mom is a nutter and now no super cute girl will be seen with him. You're probably a meme at this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you even care if your kid has a GF? He's a teen.

Because she is a tiger mom. She got him into a top private and now must fix him with a “super” girlfriend. She has to control every area of this poor guy’s life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he’s gay, OP.

That was my first thought.

Mine, too.

OP, you should be super relieved that your son's not going to knock up a super perky cheerleader in the nearest future and she's not going to come after your family wealth.

[Anonymous]

OP's question is a little tiger mom-ish, but it's not entirely unreasonable. I do think it's odd that your son's best friend's girlfriend hasn't introduced your allegedly impressive and handsome son to any of her BFFs. Handsome rich teen boys certainly have no trouble getting girls to take interest. Your son is either not as handsome as you think, immature for his age, or gay. Or maybe the new girlfriend is a loner with few girlfriends?