My son's best friend has a new super cute gf. But my son doesn't

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care if your well adjusted teenage son has a girlfriend? Seriously, if he's happy with sports and academics for now, that's a good thing!

Agree. Let him figure this out for himself. I completely understand how you want him to be happy and you'd like to make that happen for him. And despite your denial, your worry suggests otherwise. But you can't do it for him. I know how hard it is to back off and let a teenager figure things out. Take a deep breath and hang in there and don't get involved!

Just to add - this is not about figuring out what girls these days normally do or do not do. This is about mom needing to back off - as hard as it feels. That's the hardest part about parenting a teenager - accepting that you don't have control over things that you could easily fix. Been there. Done that. Got the t-shirt. Good luck, mom!

I'm not trying to fix anything per se. More so wondering if it's sorta odd his best pal's gf isn't introducing him to her friends.

[Anonymous]

Uou are being a total creeper OP. I don't know if you're the mom or dad, but it's only slightly less creepy if you're the mom.

[Anonymous]

I’m the mother of a DD your son’s age. She’s not interested in having a boyfriend and I’m not encouraging dating. Most of my friends aren’t encouraging their DDs to date. Strange that you are. You sound like a nightmare—

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are way too invested in this. You shouldn't be making your son feel like a girlfriend is a status symbol in the first place, let alone that he is lower in your eyes for not acquiring a cute enough one. This is very, very bizarre behavior on your part.

I didn't project any of this on him. I merely tried to provide as much detail to you all for purpose of insightful responses.

You need to stop responding and reassess your reaction. Your post is creepy and suggests you don't recognize boundaries and are living vicariously through your kid(s).

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't encourage your son to get into a relationship just for the sake of it. That's a terrible life lesson.

Kids don't really date the way they used to. They hang out in groups. Eventually a couple might hit it off and start going out. But there's not much casual dating where just 2 people who don't know each other well go to dinner or a movie. There definitely are not set ups, except maybe to get a friend a prom date or something.

If your son is happy, leave him alone. He doesn't "need" a girlfriend at his age. I'm sure he meets plenty of people. Leave him be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are way too invested in this. You shouldn't be making your son feel like a girlfriend is a status symbol in the first place, let alone that he is lower in your eyes for not acquiring a cute enough one. This is very, very bizarre behavior on your part.

+1

You are one of those SUPER annoying moms, just FYI, in case your kids haven't told you. (And just a comment in case you do any professional writing..... overuse of the word "super" is not an attractive trait in an adult.)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care if your well adjusted teenage son has a girlfriend? Seriously, if he's happy with sports and academics for now, that's a good thing!

Agree. Let him figure this out for himself. I completely understand how you want him to be happy and you'd like to make that happen for him. And despite your denial, your worry suggests otherwise. But you can't do it for him. I know how hard it is to back off and let a teenager figure things out. Take a deep breath and hang in there and don't get involved!

Just to add - this is not about figuring out what girls these days normally do or do not do. This is about mom needing to back off - as hard as it feels. That's the hardest part about parenting a teenager - accepting that you don't have control over things that you could easily fix. Been there. Done that. Got the t-shirt. Good luck, mom!

I'm not trying to fix anything per se. More so wondering if it's sorta odd his best pal's gf isn't introducing him to her friends.

Okay. It's notl

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care if your well adjusted teenage son has a girlfriend? Seriously, if he's happy with sports and academics for now, that's a good thing!

Agree. Let him figure this out for himself. I completely understand how you want him to be happy and you'd like to make that happen for him. And despite your denial, your worry suggests otherwise. But you can't do it for him. I know how hard it is to back off and let a teenager figure things out. Take a deep breath and hang in there and don't get involved!

Just to add - this is not about figuring out what girls these days normally do or do not do. This is about mom needing to back off - as hard as it feels. That's the hardest part about parenting a teenager - accepting that you don't have control over things that you could easily fix. Been there. Done that. Got the t-shirt. Good luck, mom!

I'm not trying to fix anything per se. More so wondering if it's sorta odd his best pal's gf isn't introducing him to her friends.

Okay. It's notl

*not.

[Anonymous]

I cannot believe this is real. The heat has fried some brains this week.

If OP is real, she is going to make an *awesome* MIL. Jeff should pay her royalties for all of the crazy ass posts to come. Sell the story to Netflix.

[Anonymous]

This is a super post, OP. Really super. In fact, super super.

[Anonymous]

OP, good lord, you really should focus your interests elsewhere. What a nightmare. I'm virtually certain your DS has picked up on your anxiety about this. Your DS is probably not all that you think he is in the view of his peers and especially to girls.

[Anonymous]

Super troll score: 3

[Anonymous]

OP is worried her son might be gay. It's ok, OP. It really is. Your son is likely not gay and just not interested in dating right now. Signed, mom of a gay 17 year old.

[Anonymous]

This is sad. I really for your DS that you are even thinking this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care if your well adjusted teenage son has a girlfriend? Seriously, if he's happy with sports and academics for now, that's a good thing!

Agree. Let him figure this out for himself. I completely understand how you want him to be happy and you'd like to make that happen for him. And despite your denial, your worry suggests otherwise. But you can't do it for him. I know how hard it is to back off and let a teenager figure things out. Take a deep breath and hang in there and don't get involved!

Just to add - this is not about figuring out what girls these days normally do or do not do. This is about mom needing to back off - as hard as it feels. That's the hardest part about parenting a teenager - accepting that you don't have control over things that you could easily fix. Been there. Done that. Got the t-shirt. Good luck, mom!

I'm not trying to fix anything per se. More so wondering if it's sorta odd his best pal's gf isn't introducing him to her friends.

I think it's clear that the new GF recognizes, even if you don't, that your son is more interested in his friend than any other girl the GF could introduce him to.