My son's best friend has a new super cute gf. But my son doesn't

[Anonymous]

Please don't rake me over the coals for this. So DS's best friend, I'd say they're equally handsome young men, gregarious, both sporty, my DS is more accomplished in academics (attends more selective private). They hang together all the time. Well, maybe not as much this summer.

Over the weekend his friend brought his new gf to our beach house. Super sweet girl, super cute, very outgoing! Plays soccer and cheers. After, we asked DS if he's met any of her friends (hint, hint). He honestly said no. Isn't it odd that his best friend's gf hasn't tried to introduce him to her friends to get the double date/couple thing going?

Back in my day it was super common to set up friends with each other. Am I reaching? I think my DS is sometimes super immature for his age. I'm wondering if this is another signal of it.

[Anonymous]

Why is it her responsibility to get your son a gf? (and 'attends a more selective private' is a major eyeroll)

[Anonymous]

You are way too invested in this. You shouldn't be making your son feel like a girlfriend is a status symbol in the first place, let alone that he is lower in your eyes for not acquiring a cute enough one. This is very, very bizarre behavior on your part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are way too invested in this. You shouldn't be making your son feel like a girlfriend is a status symbol in the first place, let alone that he is lower in your eyes for not acquiring a cute enough one. This is very, very bizarre behavior on your part.

I didn't project any of this on him. I merely tried to provide as much detail to you all for purpose of insightful responses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don't rake me over the coals for this. So DS's best friend, I'd say they're equally handsome young men, gregarious, both sporty, my DS is more accomplished in academics (attends more selective private). They hang together all the time. Well, maybe not as much this summer.

Over the weekend his friend brought his new gf to our beach house. Super sweet girl, super cute, very outgoing! Plays soccer and cheers. After, we asked DS if he's met any of her friends (hint, hint). He honestly said no. Isn't it odd that his best friend's gf hasn't tried to introduce him to her friends to get the double date/couple thing going?

Back in my day it was super common to set up friends with each other. Am I reaching? I think my DS is sometimes super immature for his age. I'm wondering if this is another signal of it.

No, it is not odd.

And why is your son's social life his friend's girlfriend's responsibility, anyway?

Is there anything at all in this life for which girls and women are not responsible?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don't rake me over the coals for this. So DS's best friend, I'd say they're equally handsome young men, gregarious, both sporty, my DS is more accomplished in academics (attends more selective private). They hang together all the time. Well, maybe not as much this summer.

Over the weekend his friend brought his new gf to our beach house. Super sweet girl, super cute, very outgoing! Plays soccer and cheers. After, we asked DS if he's met any of her friends (hint, hint). He honestly said no. Isn't it odd that his best friend's gf hasn't tried to introduce him to her friends to get the double date/couple thing going?

Back in my day it was super common to set up friends with each other. Am I reaching? I think my DS is sometimes super immature for his age. I'm wondering if this is another signal of it.

And this is relevant because ... why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are way too invested in this. You shouldn't be making your son feel like a girlfriend is a status symbol in the first place, let alone that he is lower in your eyes for not acquiring a cute enough one. This is very, very bizarre behavior on your part.

I didn't project any of this on him. I merely tried to provide as much detail to you all for purpose of insightful responses.

Your entire post is about how your son is just as good as his friend in most ways, and better (in your opinion) in others, but you don't understand why friend has a cute girlfriend and he doesn't, and now you're pressuring the friend's gf to find him someone and calling your son immature to strangers on a message board because he's failed to "beat" his friend in this girlfriend competition that only exists in your head.

You are behaving very badly. Leave that girl alone, and stay out of your son's love life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is it her responsibility to get your son a gf? (and 'attends a more selective private' is a major eyeroll)

Not her responsibility but it seems normal for girls dating boys to ask girlfriends to hang with their bf's mates. And she wasn't introverted, she obviously has a lot of friends. I'm honestly worried there's something off-putting my son does that would prevent this because on paper he seems like a catch.

[Anonymous]

mom is worried her son is an incel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is it her responsibility to get your son a gf? (and 'attends a more selective private' is a major eyeroll)

I never did this when young or even now - it's a recipe for disaster.

[Anonymous]

Your sentiments are truly bizarre. You sound like you are living 50 years ago where girlfriends are possessions and Wally should set Clarence up in a date.

Also so weird that you are even thinking about this. Do you not have a life of your own? Perhaps pay attention to current events. Lots going on there to focus energy on.

Huge eye roll to “selective private” and “our beach house.”

[Anonymous]

Why do you care if your well adjusted teenage son has a girlfriend? Seriously, if he's happy with sports and academics for now, that's a good thing!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don't rake me over the coals for this. So DS's best friend, I'd say they're equally handsome young men, gregarious, both sporty, my DS is more accomplished in academics (attends more selective private). They hang together all the time. Well, maybe not as much this summer.

Over the weekend his friend brought his new gf to our beach house. Super sweet girl, super cute, very outgoing! Plays soccer and cheers. After, we asked DS if he's met any of her friends (hint, hint). He honestly said no. Isn't it odd that his best friend's gf hasn't tried to introduce him to her friends to get the double date/couple thing going?

Back in my day it was super common to set up friends with each other. Am I reaching? I think my DS is sometimes super immature for his age. I'm wondering if this is another signal of it.

And this is relevant because ... why?

I'm guessing OP is projecting her douchey insecurity on her son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it her responsibility to get your son a gf? (and 'attends a more selective private' is a major eyeroll)

Not her responsibility but it seems normal for girls dating boys to ask girlfriends to hang with their bf's mates. And she wasn't introverted, she obviously has a lot of friends. I'm honestly worried there's something off-putting my son does that would prevent this because on paper he seems like a catch.

Kind of like it "seems normal" for wives to drive their families' social lives?

Not.her.responsibility.

[Anonymous]

This has got to win the craziest post of the day.

Good lord mom, back off! I shudder to think what kind of MIL you will be.