Does your wife make more than you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH makes about 170k; my compensation is about 480k.

We have never had any issues related to this. FWIW, my parents were in the same field, with my mom always a few steps ahead of dad, who was her biggest supporter.

Keep in mind your husband out earns the majority of men in this country, even those with a college degree. It's only in relation to your salary that that amount seems small. It's a byproduct of living here on the east coast, where you get salaries in the $400k+ range, which are truly in the 1%

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH makes about 170k; my compensation is about 480k.

We have never had any issues related to this. FWIW, my parents were in the same field, with my mom always a few steps ahead of dad, who was her biggest supporter.

Keep in mind your husband out earns the majority of men in this country, even those with a college degree. It's only in relation to your salary that that amount seems small. It's a byproduct of living here on the east coast, where you get salaries in the $400k+ range, which are truly in the 1%

Of course, I realize it. I thought the question was about "weird dynamics" within the marriage, and my answer is a resolute "no".

[Anonymous]

What I find most amusing about this thread is that so many responders loooove reporting that they make big salaries -- when nobody asked. All that was asked was whether there are other wives who make more money than their husbands. Nobody asked for specifics, but everybody loooves to share them! DCUM has to attract the most insecure moms and dads on the planet.

But, what the heck. I'll play. When I was working I made more than twice as much as the highest salary disclosed on this thread and my wife never made anything. And neither one of us cared because everything we have belongs to both of us. Now our children are grown and gone, and in every case the women are making more money than the men. And none of their husbands care either.
Married couples who keep score over who earns how much are very sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I find most amusing about this thread is that so many responders loooove reporting that they make big salaries -- when nobody asked. All that was asked was whether there are other wives who make more money than their husbands. Nobody asked for specifics, but everybody loooves to share them! DCUM has to attract the most insecure moms and dads on the planet.

But, what the heck. I'll play. When I was working I made more than twice as much as the highest salary disclosed on this thread and my wife never made anything. And neither one of us cared because everything we have belongs to both of us. Now our children are grown and gone, and in every case the women are making more money than the men. And none of their husbands care either.
Married couples who keep score over who earns how much are very sad.

You are reading too much in the posts. I didn’t include our salaries in my post, but those who did have more interesting posts because it puts the discussion in context.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I find most amusing about this thread is that so many responders loooove reporting that they make big salaries -- when nobody asked. All that was asked was whether there are other wives who make more money than their husbands. Nobody asked for specifics, but everybody loooves to share them! DCUM has to attract the most insecure moms and dads on the planet.

But, what the heck. I'll play. When I was working I made more than twice as much as the highest salary disclosed on this thread and my wife never made anything. And neither one of us cared because everything we have belongs to both of us. Now our children are grown and gone, and in every case the women are making more money than the men. And none of their husbands care either.
Married couples who keep score over who earns how much are very sad.

You are reading too much in the posts. I didn’t include our salaries in my post, but those who did have more interesting posts because it puts the discussion in context.

Sure. That's why they did it. To be "more interesting."

[Anonymous]

DW breadwinner here. I make significantly more, and I find it very frustrating because even though I work more and am the primary parent, he has twice the debt (premarriage student loans) and generally does not put forth effort to improve his salary.

[Anonymous]

I make more than my husband and have our entire relationship (though never the big bucks people have listed here, our HHI is still well below $200k). He's catching up quickly, though, while my career has hit a plateau recently so I expect him to surpass me soon. The only "weird" dynamic we have is he does feel bad from time to time that he doesn't contribute more financially. No resentment on his end but I think he'd prefer to be the breadwinner. I don't care who makes more so long as we get the bills paid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW breadwinner here. I make significantly more, and I find it very frustrating because even though I work more and am the primary parent, he has twice the debt (premarriage student loans) and generally does not put forth effort to improve his salary.

Yet you married him knowing about his debt . . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DW breadwinner here. I make significantly more, and I find it very frustrating because even though I work more and am the primary parent, he has twice the debt (premarriage student loans) and generally does not put forth effort to improve his salary.

Yet you married him knowing about his debt . . .

I'm also married a man with a ton of student loan debt. I think it's fair to say "thanks but no thanks" to a relationship with a person with student loan debt if you don't want to be saddled with it in the future. But once you decide to marry that person? Yea, you can't hold it against them. Unless he lied to you about his debt and only sprung it on you after the wedding, you can't really complain about it now.

[Anonymous]

I earn more (about 50% more than him if you count employer retirement matching). But he brought more inherited assets to the table.

[Anonymous]

I make about 50% more than DH. He turned down a promotion to continue to WAH. The salary increase from a promotion would be more than offset by having to do before/after care and the loss in flexibility. As it is, he gets the kids on the bus in the morning and is there when they get home. He's able to do basic household chores like laundry and dishes during breaks in the day, and he has an hour or so of "daddy time" with our toddler between when he picks her up and I get home.

We love the current flexibility and have no issues with the income difference.

[Anonymous]

We got close at one point with DH slightly ahead. Then I popped to about 400K and had the lead. Not too long after, however, DH went from the mid-100's (which is where we both had been when we were close) to the low seven figures. I will always wonder whether his massively competitive nature drove the big jump.

He cooks more and does the bulk of the drop offs and all of the sports but I take care of all of the organizational needs so we are pretty close with respect to the household chore load and have been so since the very beginning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We got close at one point with DH slightly ahead. Then I popped to about 400K and had the lead. Not too long after, however, DH went from the mid-100's (which is where we both had been when we were close) to the low seven figures. I will always wonder whether his massively competitive nature drove the big jump.

He cooks more and does the bulk of the drop offs and all of the sports but I take care of all of the organizational needs so we are pretty close with respect to the household chore load and have been so since the very beginning.

This is CLASSIC. Thanks for letting everybody know how rich you are. Does it make you feel better?

[Anonymous]

Nope, my wife is a stay at home mom for a few years now so I am basically the only source of income at the moment though she tries her best to make any money she possibly can. Sometimes it seems to me that her ways are rather obscure, she is trying to make money using cloud mining and that makes me go wild sometimes. Basically speaking she has a contract and some hashflare redeem codes like these for it but it drives me wild how easily she spends money for its maintance hoping for a giant profit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We got close at one point with DH slightly ahead. Then I popped to about 400K and had the lead. Not too long after, however, DH went from the mid-100's (which is where we both had been when we were close) to the low seven figures. I will always wonder whether his massively competitive nature drove the big jump.

He cooks more and does the bulk of the drop offs and all of the sports but I take care of all of the organizational needs so we are pretty close with respect to the household chore load and have been so since the very beginning.

This is CLASSIC. Thanks for letting everybody know how rich you are. Does it make you feel better?

No kidding. "Oh no you didn't go and make $400k! Ima go out and make a cool mil now..."