Is it bad form to bring your kids to back to school night?

[Anonymous]

"we get the last word in"/


What does that mean? Surely you don't mean that you would punish a child because their parents lacked child care? That would be outrageous.

[Anonymous]

Some teachers like kids, some don't. Bringing your kids is a quick way to find out.

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Anonymous wrote:Some teachers like kids, some don't. Bringing your kids is a quick way to find out.

What a dumb thing to say. I like kids but don't want one sitting next to me at an adult event (like a New Year's Eve party).

[Anonymous]

Why the heck is back to school night considered an adult-only event in the first place? When I was a kid, it was for the whole family, and it was fine.

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People will give you the evil eye - ignore them. As long as your child is not making noise / being disruptive it is not an issue.

As a teacher who has had to deal with parents regularly who don't think rules apply to them, let me assure you that you ARE trashed in the teacher's lounge, and probably quite often.

What a wonderful, loving educator you are. Bless your heart.

Educator, not doormat. And stop being such a poor example for your kids of which rules matter and which you may choose to ignore. We get the last word in (whether you know it or not), remember that.

I'm not a poor example for my kids, thank you very much. I've never taken them to BTSN and do all that I can to cooperate with and volunteer for the school. I ALSO show a good example to my kids by NOT judging or trash talking others or making stupid petty threats ("last word whether you know it or not). I hope you're troll and not really in a school. You have no business.

[Anonymous]

Shouldn't it depend on how well behaved the child is? I would never bring a child who was squirmy or could not stay quiet. If the child is able to sit still and remain quiet like an adult, what is the problem?

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Anonymous wrote:Some teachers like kids, some don't. Bringing your kids is a quick way to find out.

What a dumb thing to say. I like kids but don't want one sitting next to me at an adult event (like a New Year's Eve party).

Lol!! If BTSN is like a New Year's Eve party to you, I'm so sorry!

[Anonymous]

Don't bring them. It's distracting for the teachers and the other parents. There is already so little room in the classroom for all the parents. I couldn't hear the teacher because a kid was so loud in the classroom. Please be mindful of the rest of us parents. We too have other kids and childcare issues. One parent stays home. That's how we do it.

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Anonymous wrote:"we get the last word in"/


What does that mean? Surely you don't mean that you would punish a child because their parents lacked child care? That would be outrageous.

Horrible. I sure hope it is not at my child's school that teachers hang out in the lounge bashing parents and plotting revenge! Sick!

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Anonymous wrote:Why the heck is back to school night considered an adult-only event in the first place? When I was a kid, it was for the whole family, and it was fine.

Because it's a time for the teachers to give a little speech to ALL of the parents, and it's hard to hear them when kids are making noise.

When you were a kid you also probably didn't have IEPs for SN kids. Why not go back to that, too.

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People will give you the evil eye - ignore them. As long as your child is not making noise / being disruptive it is not an issue.

I have never known a parent who could guarantee that their child would not make noise in a public setting.

[Anonymous]

When we first moved here, we didn't have any choice but to bring the kids because we didn't know anyone yet.

I apologized afterward to the teacher, who was understanding about it. In some cases, there's nothing else you can do and this is one of those times.

Let them play on a phone or tablet. Download a game or two that they want (and mute the sound on the phone, please!). You might also let them bring a book -- or a coloring book and crayons to color a picture while the teacher does his or her presentation. If there is a table at the back of the room where they can sit, send them there.

Have a talk with them beforehand about the behavior you expect, and why. No running, no screaming, etc. Tell them you'll buy them an ice cream cone afterward if they behave well. Bribery works.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't bring them. It's distracting for the teachers and the other parents. There is already so little room in the classroom for all the parents. I couldn't hear the teacher because a kid was so loud in the classroom. Please be mindful of the rest of us parents. We too have other kids and childcare issues. One parent stays home. That's how we do it.

And that's lovely, but my husband travels 90 some nights a year. Are you being mindful of other people's situations? It doesn't seem like it.

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Anonymous wrote:Why the heck is back to school night considered an adult-only event in the first place? When I was a kid, it was for the whole family, and it was fine.

Because it's a time for the teachers to give a little speech to ALL of the parents, and it's hard to hear them when kids are making noise.

When you were a kid you also probably didn't have IEPs for SN kids. Why not go back to that, too.

Yes to above. Adding to that is that your kids are a distraction AND it's super crowded so if you made BTSN a family event it would be even more crowded.

Seriousky, have you never been to a BTSN??? A family event...gimme a break! This isn't the PTA fall festival fundraiser, it's BTSN.

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Anonymous wrote:Why the heck is back to school night considered an adult-only event in the first place? When I was a kid, it was for the whole family, and it was fine.

Because it's a time for the teachers to give a little speech to ALL of the parents, and it's hard to hear them when kids are making noise.

When you were a kid you also probably didn't have IEPs for SN kids. Why not go back to that, too.

Yes to above. Adding to that is that your kids are a distraction AND it's super crowded so if you made BTSN a family event it would be even more crowded.

Seriousky, have you never been to a BTSN??? A family event...gimme a break! This isn't the PTA fall festival fundraiser, it's BTSN.

I've been to lots of BTSNs. There were kids at all of them. Even when the school provided child care, people still brought babies. So clearly it's possible to do it that way.