Is it rude of me to ask a bridesmaid to step down? Here is why..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm getting married next September and although I wanted 8 bridesmaids, I compromised with fiancé and now have 6. He will only have 5 groomsmen though.
After getting to know his niece, it would mean a lot to me, if she could be one of my bridesmaids. She is only 4 years younger than me.

When we first got engaged, I didn't know her that well. I don't want to continue to off set the bridal party. I want to ask friend if she would mine stepping down and explaining that after thinking about it, it is a hard decision but I would love my future niece in law to be in the ceremony. It is hard choosing which friend to ask to step down, but I'm leaning towards a friend I have known since high school, but we hangout 2 a year or so.
Everyone else I see more regularly. She is a dear friend, but id think she'd understand?..

Has anyone been through this before?..

This is his niece. Rather than lose a bridesmaid, have him add a groomsman. You have to be able to find someone else (relative of his or yours) that you could add. I think your friend would no longer be your friend and might not come to the wedding.

[Anonymous]

Call me crazy but I'm all for wedding symmetry. However, OP, you're a bitch to even think about doing this. At first I was going to say absolutely don't do this, but now I think your bridesmaid would probably be better off never speaking to you again since this is how you think of her. If I were a bridesmaid and another one was asked to step down for a bullshit reason like this, I'd step down, too. I hope your whole bridal party leaves you.

[Anonymous]

I hope this is a troll.
If this is for real, I seriously advise you to reconsider getting married at this point in your life. You are not mature enough to handle the required loyalty and "for better or worse" nature of the institution.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a nightmare and will be divorced in no time. Doesn't matter.

[Anonymous]

I would be THRILLED to he relessed of my bridesmaid duties to basically soens a ton of money on your sillu bridezilla wedding. Being in weddings is awful. Being in a bitchs wedding is insufferable.

[Anonymous]

You don't sound old enough to get married.

[Anonymous]

Be prepared to lose a good friend if you do this.

This is a major deal breaker in my book.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who knew symmetry was so important to people?

But 5 and 6 is not symmetrical. If she fires her friend and add niece . . . Still 5 and 6.

[Anonymous]

Make the niece a hostess, or let her do a reading at the wedding.