Is it rude of me to ask a bridesmaid to step down? Here is why..

[Anonymous]

If someone did that to me I would assume they hate me.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, you can't do this without permanently damaging the friendship. I can't imagine where your head is at, OP. Temporary wedding inanity?

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OP hasn't been back. If this was creative writing she gets an A.

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Anonymous wrote:isn't it already weird that fiance has less attendants than you? I would just add 2 to his side to even things up.

Fewer

Davos in the house.

WTF is a Davos? City in Switzerland? Weirdo.

Yeah OP, rude. You sound high maintenance.

NP. You must be one of the 6 people who doesn't watch GoT. That's Game of Thrones in case you're unaware. Davos is a character who learned to read as an adult, and recently corrected someone who said less instead of fewer. It was funny, not weird.

NP. I watched GOT, and the reference sailed right by me, but as soon as you mentioned the back story, I completely remembered the scene.

I'm guessing at how petty the OP is that at this rate she will lose a lot of friends from now until next September. Red wedding carnage.

It was Stannis the manis who said it first, his love for grammer rubbed off on Davos...

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Anonymous wrote:isn't it already weird that fiance has less attendants than you? I would just add 2 to his side to even things up.

Fewer

Davos in the house.

WTF is a Davos? City in Switzerland? Weirdo.

Yeah OP, rude. You sound high maintenance.

NP. You must be one of the 6 people who doesn't watch GoT. That's Game of Thrones in case you're unaware. Davos is a character who learned to read as an adult, and recently corrected someone who said less instead of fewer. It was funny, not weird.

NP. I watched GOT, and the reference sailed right by me, but as soon as you mentioned the back story, I completely remembered the scene.

I'm guessing at how petty the OP is that at this rate she will lose a lot of friends from now until next September. Red wedding carnage.

It was Stannis the manis who said it first, his love for grammer rubbed off on Davos...

I guess you've got no love for spelling, eh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm getting married next September and although I wanted 8 bridesmaids, I compromised with fiancé and now have 6. He will only have 5 groomsmen though.
After getting to know his niece, it would mean a lot to me, if she could be one of my bridesmaids. She is only 4 years younger than me.

When we first got engaged, I didn't know her that well. I don't want to continue to off set the bridal party. I want to ask friend if she would mine stepping down and explaining that after thinking about it, it is a hard decision but I would love my future niece in law to be in the ceremony. It is hard choosing which friend to ask to step down, but I'm leaning towards a friend I have known since high school, but we hangout 2 a year or so.
Everyone else I see more regularly. She is a dear friend, but id think she'd understand?..

Has anyone been through this before?..

That's beyond rude you would even consider this. Of course not!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The solution is obvious: your fiancé has about 7 more months to make two new friends that he can ask to be groomsmen. Tell him to get on Tinder Social asap.

I just saw a movie like this when I was on a plane. Didn't turn out well for the bride, as I recall.

I'll provide the dissenting voice: You should totally disinvite that bridesmaid, but make sure you give her a good reason why. Not this niece business. Tell her you noticed in a FB picture it appears she's put on five pounds and you are "concerned for her health," and that she won't fit into her dress by the time the wedding arrives. When she swears she'll lose the weight in time, tell her you just can't run that kind of risk - not with your Big Day on the line! Be sure to tell her that you "super duper" value your friendship and will make sure she gets the biggest slice of cake.

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Who knew symmetry was so important to people?

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Anonymous wrote:Who knew symmetry was so important to people?

And who knew that it was necessary to have so many attendants at a wedding?

WTF?

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Anonymous wrote:isn't it already weird that fiance has less attendants than you? I would just add 2 to his side to even things up.

Fewer

Davos in the house.

WTF is a Davos? City in Switzerland? Weirdo.

Yeah OP, rude. You sound high maintenance.

NP. You must be one of the 6 people who doesn't watch GoT. That's Game of Thrones in case you're unaware. Davos is a character who learned to read as an adult, and recently corrected someone who said less instead of fewer. It was funny, not weird.

NP. I watched GOT, and the reference sailed right by me, but as soon as you mentioned the back story, I completely remembered the scene.

I'm guessing at how petty the OP is that at this rate she will lose a lot of friends from now until next September. Red wedding carnage.

It was Stannis the manis who said it first, his love for grammer rubbed off on Davos...

Love the gif! I think it will pop up on dcum frequently!

[Anonymous]

OP, if you did this to me I would not come to your wedding, and I would probably distance myself from you out of hurt. It might end our friendship.

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I guess you've got no love for spelling, eh?

that is an accurate assessment, my bad

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Anonymous wrote:A wedding, however untraditional you make it, is a FORMAL occasion and asking someone to be your bridesmaid is a BIG DEAL.

Get this new friend as an extra one. You simply cannot ask someone to step down unless she is

1 . a raging alcoholic who would ruin the day
2. heavily pregnant and likely to drop
3. insane and awaiting treatment

You are showing very, very bad form.

If I were your friend and you asked this, you can bet your ass I would literally never speak to you again.

4. Incarcerated
5. Sleeping with your fiancé.

Seriously op, incredibly rude. I hate being a bridesmaid and even I would be hurt if the designation were retracted. Especially for such an asinine reason.

[Anonymous]

One scenario where it wouldn't be the.worst.ever:

If the maid of honor knows one of the bridesmaids isn't really feeling it but doesn't want to say so, they could coordinate a graceful replacement. Then the lukewarm bridesmaid is happy and so are you. But that'd be rare.

Make the niece an attendant. My friend had many bridesmaids and a few attendants (they may have gotten a corsage or something token).

[Anonymous]

Only do this if you want to end the friendship and if you discuss it with others it will be sure to get back to her.