5th Grade DD and boyfriend texting "I love you", WTF?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

this post belongs in the elementary school thread - because your daughter is in 5th grade.

Maybe if you treated her like a 5th grader and not a tween/teen, she wouldn't:

1. Have a phone
2. Have unlimited texts
3. Have a device that isn't being monitored all the time
4. Need the attention of a boy
5. Be saying I love you

She has already gotten down with some porn and other stuff on that phone too. i would check her deleted texts on your carrier and make sure she isn't on snap sending body pics over to her "boyfriend" Texting, apps, social media, and phones are for teens and grown-ups. Let this poor girl be a kid.

An 11-year-old is a tween. A fifth-grader is a tween. An 11-year-old fifth-grader is a tween.

Bonus points for assuming that the 11-year-old who said "I love you" by text must also be sexting.

Nope, sorry. 5th grade is elementary school-aged last time I checked.

And if a girl has a phone, a boyfriend, and is texting I love you to someone, I can guarantee she is looking up how to kiss, making-out, etc... and porn immediately pops up. For you to think that it doesn't happen so quickly, makes you clueless.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your 5th grader has a cellphone. She also has a boyfriend. Telling him she loves him is the least of your worries. You've been failing at parenting for a long time.

Remember when you were in fifth grade and people "went with" each other? Which meant:

1. classmates knew they were "going with each other"
2. it lasted about a week
3. maybe they talked to each other on the phone

It's just like that now, only texting on the phone instead of talking. And emojis.

If you consider this a failure at parenting, you might think about getting out more and interacting with people who have real problems.

Actually no. No one in 5th grade in my school went out with each other, had boyfriend/girlfriends, said we loved each other, talked on the phone, etc... We had recess, played outside with friends, and rode bikes.

[Anonymous]

Why does a 5th grader even have a phone? Is that becoming the new thing. My daughter is in 9th and she didn't get hers until 13. I can't imagine why a 10 year old would even need a phone with texting capabilities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your 5th grader has a cellphone. She also has a boyfriend. Telling him she loves him is the least of your worries. You've been failing at parenting for a long time.

Remember when you were in fifth grade and people "went with" each other? Which meant:

1. classmates knew they were "going with each other"
2. it lasted about a week
3. maybe they talked to each other on the phone

It's just like that now, only texting on the phone instead of talking. And emojis.

If you consider this a failure at parenting, you might think about getting out more and interacting with people who have real problems.

Actually no. No one in 5th grade in my school went out with each other, had boyfriend/girlfriends, said we loved each other, talked on the phone, etc... We had recess, played outside with friends, and rode bikes.

I am in my 40's. In my Catholic school in Fairfax Co., when we were in 4th grade, we "went with" each other just like the list described above and it continued to 5th and onwards. And this was not just the "popular" kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think 5th grade not having a text device would help this a lot..

Glad I'm not the only one who thinks this.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Every 5th grader I know has access to a texting device.

Yup. It's only the parents of infants and toddlers who are certain that their children won't text in fifth grade.

And mothers of non texting 6th graders (like me)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most kids have crushes before they are 12.

I'm a teacher and I agree with this. Elementary school crushes are very common.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ok, so I've been looking through my 11 year old daughter's texts and saw that she has a boyfriend. Didn't particularly bother me. They only see each other at school and they're not even in the same class; However I just looked again tonight and for the past 2 days they've been going on about how wonderful and special the other one is and how they love each other so so much. There must be at least 20 I love you's between the two of them.
This is really way more than what I would expect for a 5th grade "relationship". I'm not sure what if anything I should do about it.

this post belongs in the elementary school thread - because your daughter is in 5th grade.

Maybe if you treated her like a 5th grader and not a tween/teen, she wouldn't:

1. Have a phone
2. Have unlimited texts
3. Have a device that isn't being monitored all the time
4. Need the attention of a boy
5. Be saying I love you

She has already gotten down with some porn and other stuff on that phone too. i would check her deleted texts on your carrier and make sure she isn't on snap sending body pics over to her "boyfriend" Texting, apps, social media, and phones are for teens and grown-ups. Let this poor girl be a kid.

Ok. This is cray cray. How do you suppose that a 5th grader having a boyfriend (which isn't all that unusual) means girl is sending body pics?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your 5th grader has a cellphone. She also has a boyfriend. Telling him she loves him is the least of your worries. You've been failing at parenting for a long time.

Remember when you were in fifth grade and people "went with" each other? Which meant:

1. classmates knew they were "going with each other"
2. it lasted about a week
3. maybe they talked to each other on the phone

It's just like that now, only texting on the phone instead of talking. And emojis.

If you consider this a failure at parenting, you might think about getting out more and interacting with people who have real problems.

Actually no. No one in 5th grade in my school went out with each other, had boyfriend/girlfriends, said we loved each other, talked on the phone, etc... We had recess, played outside with friends, and rode bikes.

I'm 45 and i remember there being "couples'" in 5th Grade. It consisted of a boy asking a girl "will you go with me?" Girl saying yes and that was it. If there had been cell phones, that would have been a part of it as well. 5th Grade couples are the same today. They don't actually get together or do anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does a 5th grader even have a phone? Is that becoming the new thing. My daughter is in 9th and she didn't get hers until 13. I can't imagine why a 10 year old would even need a phone with texting capabilities.

For good or bad pretty much all 5th graders do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does a 5th grader even have a phone? Is that becoming the new thing. My daughter is in 9th and she didn't get hers until 13. I can't imagine why a 10 year old would even need a phone with texting capabilities.

I gave my DD one towards the end of 4th grade when she started taking the train to/from school by herself. She had to call me when she got to school (train let her out two blocks away) and this way when we were meeting on a main street to walk the mile home after school/work she could text/call if her train was stuck or she missed the one we thought she'd be on, etc.