Is an engaged ex off limits?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If the feeling is mutual, go for it. Engaged is not married. Unless there are kids, you're not really breaking up a family.

+1. My grandparents met when my grandmother was engaged to someone else. She broke the engagement and eventually married grandpa. Was married for 60+ until grandpa died. So yeah, breaking off the engagement turned out well especially since our family would not exist if she hadn't broken off her first engagement. Go for it!

Same with my grandparents.

Totally different scenario. Engagements in the pre- whoring days happened all the time and were meant to be a trail period but these days, they are "we're already living together and pregnant, but want you to pay for our holiday to Jamaica- - and we'll call it a wedding".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: I'm married, and think an engagement is NOT the same as a marriage. Nothing on this earth is. An engagement is a promise - - a marriage is a contract; an engagement is a good faith promise to commit to a contract. Like a down payment, or earnest. It is not the contract itself.

Better to break a promise than to break a contract and have more severe penalties.

+1. The whole point of an engagement is to make sure it's the person you want to marry. It's more serious than dating, so you get to learn more about the person, but it's not the real thing yet.

If they can't stick with only you during engagement, much better to learn that before marriage.

OMG! Why are you people so dense!
No engagement is not the same as marriage but is still a serious thing.
It's not cool to knowingly go after engaged people, just like it's not cool to knowingly go after someone with a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Would you honestly be okay with someone going after your fiance? Would you advise your friends to do this?
Would you go after someone else's fiance?

My boyfriend was engaged when he met me and broke off his engagement. He wasn't sure if he wanted to marry her.

I didn't know he was engaged when we met but we got on really well and I was interested.

We are currently dating but I don't blame myself for his breaking off his engagement either. He would not have continued with his engagement anyway. They were living together and it just did not work out.

Can you not see this is different from what OP is talking about?

Just as a favor to you since you seem to be a little slow on the intake , dump your boyfriend, save yourself the future heartache.

My grandmother dumped her fiancé to marry my grandfather and they were married for 60+ yrs until grandpa died. Breaking off an engagement is common and does not make you a cheater. That is why there is a difference between "engaged" and "married" since you are slow and don't know the difference.

Yeah, but grandma did not go down on every man she met. What's your excuse? You act like an engagement in the 1930s is the same as now. Get a grip on reality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I'm married, and think an engagement is NOT the same as a marriage. Nothing on this earth is. An engagement is a promise - - a marriage is a contract; an engagement is a good faith promise to commit to a contract. Like a down payment, or earnest. It is not the contract itself.

Better to break a promise than to break a contract and have more severe penalties.

+1. The whole point of an engagement is to make sure it's the person you want to marry. It's more serious than dating, so you get to learn more about the person, but it's not the real thing yet.

If they can't stick with only you during engagement, much better to learn that before marriage.

OMG! Why are you people so dense!
No engagement is not the same as marriage but is still a serious thing.
It's not cool to knowingly go after engaged people, just like it's not cool to knowingly go after someone with a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Would you honestly be okay with someone going after your fiance? Would you advise your friends to do this?
Would you go after someone else's fiance?

My boyfriend was engaged when he met me and broke off his engagement. He wasn't sure if he wanted to marry her.

I didn't know he was engaged when we met but we got on really well and I was interested.

We are currently dating but I don't blame myself for his breaking off his engagement either. He would not have continued with his engagement anyway. They were living together and it just did not work out.

Can you not see this is different from what OP is talking about?

Just as a favor to you since you seem to be a little slow on the intake , dump your boyfriend, save yourself the future heartache.

My grandmother dumped her fiancé to marry my grandfather and they were married for 60+ yrs until grandpa died. Breaking off an engagement is common and does not make you a cheater. That is why there is a difference between "engaged" and "married" since you are slow and don't know the difference.

Too bad during those years she failed to impart any morals to her children and grandchildren seeing as her granddaughter thinks it's totes cool to try and break up a relationship.

+1

[Anonymous]

If he's attractive, wealthy and smart I assure you OP isn't the only dame making a last ditch effort to sink her claws into him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What ethnicity is the OP? Answer depends on that....

WHAT?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I'm married, and think an engagement is NOT the same as a marriage. Nothing on this earth is. An engagement is a promise - - a marriage is a contract; an engagement is a good faith promise to commit to a contract. Like a down payment, or earnest. It is not the contract itself.

Better to break a promise than to break a contract and have more severe penalties.

+1. The whole point of an engagement is to make sure it's the person you want to marry. It's more serious than dating, so you get to learn more about the person, but it's not the real thing yet.

If they can't stick with only you during engagement, much better to learn that before marriage.

OMG! Why are you people so dense!
No engagement is not the same as marriage but is still a serious thing.
It's not cool to knowingly go after engaged people, just like it's not cool to knowingly go after someone with a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Would you honestly be okay with someone going after your fiance? Would you advise your friends to do this?
Would you go after someone else's fiance?

I used to think that way when I was a freshman in college and I had a girlfriend back home and I was loyal to her but when I got back home for Christmas break she had been dating another guy and wanted to see both of us. I broke it off. Since then, I have seen people go after people with boyfriends or girlfriends all the time. We can say it's immoral but that just trivializes immorality since it covers so many people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the feeling is mutual, go for it. Engaged is not married. Unless there are kids, you're not really breaking up a family.

You are a piece of shit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the feeling is mutual, go for it. Engaged is not married. Unless there are kids, you're not really breaking up a family.

+1. My grandparents met when my grandmother was engaged to someone else. She broke the engagement and eventually married grandpa. Was married for 60+ until grandpa died. So yeah, breaking off the engagement turned out well especially since our family would not exist if she hadn't broken off her first engagement. Go for it!

Are you Rory Gilmore?

[Anonymous]

Stop looking for a place to put your penis,
Seriously!!!

[Anonymous]

Is there a chance you two could be soulmates, and the fiancé to this person is not a soulmate? If so, you have an ethical and moral duty to butt in, apart from your attraction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I'm married, and think an engagement is NOT the same as a marriage. Nothing on this earth is. An engagement is a promise - - a marriage is a contract; an engagement is a good faith promise to commit to a contract. Like a down payment, or earnest. It is not the contract itself.

Better to break a promise than to break a contract and have more severe penalties.

+1. The whole point of an engagement is to make sure it's the person you want to marry. It's more serious than dating, so you get to learn more about the person, but it's not the real thing yet.

If they can't stick with only you during engagement, much better to learn that before marriage.

OMG! Why are you people so dense!
No engagement is not the same as marriage but is still a serious thing.
It's not cool to knowingly go after engaged people, just like it's not cool to knowingly go after someone with a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Would you honestly be okay with someone going after your fiance? Would you advise your friends to do this?
Would you go after someone else's fiance?

I used to think that way when I was a freshman in college and I had a girlfriend back home and I was loyal to her but when I got back home for Christmas break she had been dating another guy and wanted to see both of us. I broke it off. Since then, I have seen people go after people with boyfriends or girlfriends all the time. We can say it's immoral but that just trivializes immorality since it covers so many people.

High school gf a little different from someone you say, will you marry me to.
Plenty of people cheat on their spouses. We can say what is moral or not. If we are brave and decent,we do so regardless of 'how many people are covered'.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the feeling is mutual, go for it. Engaged is not married. Unless there are kids, you're not really breaking up a family.

+1. My grandparents met when my grandmother was engaged to someone else. She broke the engagement and eventually married grandpa. Was married for 60+ until grandpa died. So yeah, breaking off the engagement turned out well especially since our family would not exist if she hadn't broken off her first engagement. Go for it!

Same with my grandparents.

Totally different scenario. Engagements in the pre- whoring days happened all the time and were meant to be a trail period but these days, they are "we're already living together and pregnant, but want you to pay for our holiday to Jamaica- - and we'll call it a wedding".

This. Obviously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I'm married, and think an engagement is NOT the same as a marriage. Nothing on this earth is. An engagement is a promise - - a marriage is a contract; an engagement is a good faith promise to commit to a contract. Like a down payment, or earnest. It is not the contract itself.

Better to break a promise than to break a contract and have more severe penalties.

+1. The whole point of an engagement is to make sure it's the person you want to marry. It's more serious than dating, so you get to learn more about the person, but it's not the real thing yet.

If they can't stick with only you during engagement, much better to learn that before marriage.

OMG! Why are you people so dense!
No engagement is not the same as marriage but is still a serious thing.
It's not cool to knowingly go after engaged people, just like it's not cool to knowingly go after someone with a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Would you honestly be okay with someone going after your fiance? Would you advise your friends to do this?
Would you go after someone else's fiance?

My boyfriend was engaged when he met me and broke off his engagement. He wasn't sure if he wanted to marry her.

I didn't know he was engaged when we met but we got on really well and I was interested.

We are currently dating but I don't blame myself for his breaking off his engagement either. He would not have continued with his engagement anyway. They were living together and it just did not work out.

Can you not see this is different from what OP is talking about?

Just as a favor to you since you seem to be a little slow on the intake , dump your boyfriend, save yourself the future heartache.

My grandmother dumped her fiancé to marry my grandfather and they were married for 60+ yrs until grandpa died. Breaking off an engagement is common and does not make you a cheater. That is why there is a difference between "engaged" and "married" since you are slow and don't know the difference.

Yeah, but grandma did not go down on every man she met. What's your excuse? You act like an engagement in the 1930s is the same as now. Get a grip on reality.

How do you know grandma wasn't a tramp?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop looking for a place to put your penis,
Seriously!!!

why?
It's a never-ending quest that I will pursue til I draw my final breath.