Is an engaged ex off limits?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I slept with my ex when he was engaged. They still got married, but I still found it satisfying that he cheated because she was my exBFF.

You are a really awful person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I slept with my ex when he was engaged. They still got married, but I still found it satisfying that he cheated because she was my exBFF.

You are a really awful person.

Lynn? Is that you?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends-- how do you think you would feel if someone slept with your fiancé while you were in the process of planning a wedding?

There is your answer.

Omg, no one is advising the OP to SLEEP with the ex, just have a talk and make sure there's no regrets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I slept with my ex when he was engaged. They still got married, but I still found it satisfying that he cheated because she was my exBFF.

You should be so proud of yourself. You're a real classy woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I slept with my ex when he was engaged. They still got married, but I still found it satisfying that he cheated because she was my exBFF.

You should be so proud of yourself. You're a real classy woman.

Since you are a revenge mongering slut, I offer you 20 bucks to do me right now!

[Anonymous]

Yes. D.B.A.A. as they say in Breaking Bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I slept with my ex when he was engaged. They still got married, but I still found it satisfying that he cheated because she was my exBFF.

You are a really awful person.

Lynn? Is that you?!?

Yeah, how'd you guess dawg?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Broke up due to distance. Bumped into each other back home last weekend. Gave each other that old look.

What look?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends-- how do you think you would feel if someone slept with your fiancé while you were in the process of planning a wedding?

There is your answer.

Omg, no one is advising the OP to SLEEP with the ex, just have a talk and make sure there's no regrets.

You're right that OP doesn't specify "off limits" for what. But I was certainly under the impression that she was asking if it was okay to sleep with him. Jusdging from the responses, I am not alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Broke up due to distance. Bumped into each other back home last weekend. Gave each other that old look.

What look?

Good question. Was it the let me get my hard-on to lavish your scented oil rubbed body? Or the eyebrows squinted - i cannot believe i am running into this bitch again?- look

[Anonymous]

All is fair in love and war! Sleep with the XBF. Show him what he is missing

[Anonymous]

In theory, he is off-limits.

And I personally wouldn't go "there" because I know bad karma would likely follow me into my next romantic relationship no doubt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this is even a question and I can't believe posters encouraging her to go for it. Engaged IS taken. She'd still be a homewrecker. What is wrong with some of you?!

If they only broke up due to distance, it's possible the ex never stopped loving OP and is only with the new bf/gf because they didn't think OP was coming back into the picture?

My DH was deployed to the Middle East 3 times while we were dating. Never once did I give up because of the distance. We couldn't even talk regularly. He's been deployed twice since we've been married and nothing has changed.

OP this is not okay and distance shouldn't have mattered if the rest was there.

[Anonymous]

When my grandfather was a guest at a wedding he saw one of the bridesmaids and thought she was the most beautiful woman he had ever seen. He asked who she was and was told to stay away from her because she was engaged. My grandfather said "that's the girl I'm going to marry." And he did. Had that not happened, I wouldn't exist. So I can't really say that pursuing someone who is engaged but not yet married is immoral.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my grandfather was a guest at a wedding he saw one of the bridesmaids and thought she was the most beautiful woman he had ever seen. He asked who she was and was told to stay away from her because she was engaged. My grandfather said "that's the girl I'm going to marry." And he did. Had that not happened, I wouldn't exist. So I can't really say that pursuing someone who is engaged but not yet married is immoral.

You can say it is immoral. Your grandparents are human. Humans mess up. I know my grandparents were quite immoral, but such is life. It is hard to be perfect.