Is an engaged ex off limits?

[Anonymous]

Meh...go ahead. When you eventually get married and your husband bangs his ex-GF don't be mad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the feeling is mutual, go for it. Engaged is not married. Unless there are kids, you're not really breaking up a family.

+1. My grandparents met when my grandmother was engaged to someone else. She broke the engagement and eventually married grandpa. Was married for 60+ until grandpa died. So yeah, breaking off the engagement turned out well especially since our family would not exist if she hadn't broken off her first engagement. Go for it!

Same with my grandparents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the feeling is mutual, go for it. Engaged is not married. Unless there are kids, you're not really breaking up a family.

+1. My grandparents met when my grandmother was engaged to someone else. She broke the engagement and eventually married grandpa. Was married for 60+ until grandpa died. So yeah, breaking off the engagement turned out well especially since our family would not exist if she hadn't broken off her first engagement. Go for it!

Same with my grandparents.

Breaking off an engagement because you would prefer to be with someone else is the honorable thing to do. But looking at engaged guys as "fair game" is wrong. If the guy wants to be with you he should end it with his fiance first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you want to be with a guy who doesn't take commitments seriously? You could be his next "fiancee"...such an honor.

Seriously? This happens all the time ... and the marriages last until death.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you want to be with a guy who doesn't take commitments seriously? You could be his next "fiancee"...such an honor.

Seriously? This happens all the time ... and the marriages last until death.

It happens, but it doesn't happen all the time. And the marriages frequently do not last until death, unless you mean one spouse kills the other. Your made up statistics are pretty far off the mark.

[Anonymous]

I'm married, and think an engagement is NOT the same as a marriage. Nothing on this earth is. An engagement is a promise - - a marriage is a contract; an engagement is a good faith promise to commit to a contract. Like a down payment, or earnest. It is not the contract itself.

Better to break a promise than to break a contract and have more severe penalties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I'm married, and think an engagement is NOT the same as a marriage. Nothing on this earth is. An engagement is a promise - - a marriage is a contract; an engagement is a good faith promise to commit to a contract. Like a down payment, or earnest. It is not the contract itself.

Better to break a promise than to break a contract and have more severe penalties.

+1. The whole point of an engagement is to make sure it's the person you want to marry. It's more serious than dating, so you get to learn more about the person, but it's not the real thing yet.

If they can't stick with only you during engagement, much better to learn that before marriage.

[Anonymous]

What ethnicity is the OP? Answer depends on that....

[Anonymous]

I am astounded at the amount of posters who think it's okay to mess with someone who is engaged to someone else. It sure says a lot about the caliber of people you are. And it is no wonder there are so many other threads about failing marriages. Where is the respect for a committed relationship? Where is the respect for other people? The "me, me, me" and "do what makes you happy without regard for anyone else," and simply the pure selfishness is what is ruining relationships. Surely I can't be the only one that sees this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am astounded at the amount of posters who think it's okay to mess with someone who is engaged to someone else. It sure says a lot about the caliber of people you are. And it is no wonder there are so many other threads about failing marriages. Where is the respect for a committed relationship? Where is the respect for other people? The "me, me, me" and "do what makes you happy without regard for anyone else," and simply the pure selfishness is what is ruining relationships. Surely I can't be the only one that sees this.

Go back to the 50s prude! Its Trumps time now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Broke up due to distance. Bumped into each other back home last weekend. Gave each other that old look.

I think you should talk with her. She's probably bored with her fiance and really misses you and wants to shag you silly.

Give it a go!

[Anonymous]

Not fair game for a fling. But if you truly believe that person is for you then you owe it to yourself to try and let your feelings be known. It's your last chance... until they divorce anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What % of engagements fail? Off the top of my head I'm thinking at least 10%?

I bet it's a lot higher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the feeling is mutual, go for it. Engaged is not married. Unless there are kids, you're not really breaking up a family.

+1. My grandparents met when my grandmother was engaged to someone else. She broke the engagement and eventually married grandpa. Was married for 60+ until grandpa died. So yeah, breaking off the engagement turned out well especially since our family would not exist if she hadn't broken off her first engagement. Go for it!

Same with my grandparents.

Breaking off an engagement because you would prefer to be with someone else is the honorable thing to do. But looking at engaged guys as "fair game" is wrong. If the guy wants to be with you he should end it with his fiance first.

+1

[Anonymous]

One of my sorority sisters stole her childhood best friend's fiancé. His family is filthy rich, she's used her husband's money to become pseudo famous in certain circles. She's a pill popping alcoholic ... but it probably beats working for a living!