Is an engaged ex off limits?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I believe that if you were meant to be with your ex, you would've made it work despite the distance. It's time to move on.

Maybe the fact that they met again means they were meant to be.

Since OP went out of way to see him, that's unlikely. And op, please enlighten us, how long since you broke up until his engagement?

[Anonymous]

Engaged is Taken. Get over yourself, OP, it was probably just dirt in their eye, not a luring look at you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am astounded at the amount of posters who think it's okay to mess with someone who is engaged to someone else. It sure says a lot about the caliber of people you are. And it is no wonder there are so many other threads about failing marriages. Where is the respect for a committed relationship? Where is the respect for other people? The "me, me, me" and "do what makes you happy without regard for anyone else," and simply the pure selfishness is what is ruining relationships. Surely I can't be the only one that sees this.

Bingo!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the feeling is mutual, go for it. Engaged is not married. Unless there are kids, you're not really breaking up a family.

+1. My grandparents met when my grandmother was engaged to someone else. She broke the engagement and eventually married grandpa. Was married for 60+ until grandpa died. So yeah, breaking off the engagement turned out well especially since our family would not exist if she hadn't broken off her first engagement. Go for it!

Same with my grandparents.

Breaking off an engagement because you would prefer to be with someone else is the honorable thing to do. But looking at engaged guys as "fair game" is wrong. If the guy wants to be with you he should end it with his fiance first.

Thank you!

One of or both parties in an engagement deciding not to call things off for whatever reason is an entirely different thing than what OP what's to do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: I'm married, and think an engagement is NOT the same as a marriage. Nothing on this earth is. An engagement is a promise - - a marriage is a contract; an engagement is a good faith promise to commit to a contract. Like a down payment, or earnest. It is not the contract itself.

Better to break a promise than to break a contract and have more severe penalties.

+1. The whole point of an engagement is to make sure it's the person you want to marry. It's more serious than dating, so you get to learn more about the person, but it's not the real thing yet.

If they can't stick with only you during engagement, much better to learn that before marriage.

OMG! Why are you people so dense!
No engagement is not the same as marriage but is still a serious thing.
It's not cool to knowingly go after engaged people, just like it's not cool to knowingly go after someone with a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Would you honestly be okay with someone going after your fiance? Would you advise your friends to do this?
Would you go after someone else's fiance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I'm married, and think an engagement is NOT the same as a marriage. Nothing on this earth is. An engagement is a promise - - a marriage is a contract; an engagement is a good faith promise to commit to a contract. Like a down payment, or earnest. It is not the contract itself.

Better to break a promise than to break a contract and have more severe penalties.

+1. The whole point of an engagement is to make sure it's the person you want to marry. It's more serious than dating, so you get to learn more about the person, but it's not the real thing yet.

If they can't stick with only you during engagement, much better to learn that before marriage.

OMG! Why are you people so dense!
No engagement is not the same as marriage but is still a serious thing.
It's not cool to knowingly go after engaged people, just like it's not cool to knowingly go after someone with a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Would you honestly be okay with someone going after your fiance? Would you advise your friends to do this?
Would you go after someone else's fiance?

My boyfriend was engaged when he met me and broke off his engagement. He wasn't sure if he wanted to marry her.

I didn't know he was engaged when we met but we got on really well and I was interested.

We are currently dating but I don't blame myself for his breaking off his engagement either. He would not have continued with his engagement anyway. They were living together and it just did not work out.

[Anonymous]

It's not your problem. If he decides to cheat, that's on him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not your problem. If he decides to cheat, that's on him.

Because you're an inanimate rock with no morals or opinions of your own? Nonsense.

It takes two to tango. If you knowingly hook up with an engaged guy - that is on you.

Obviously, he is the one who has willfully chosen to break the commitment he made to his fiance. But you choosing to be with a taken guy reflects poorly on you too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am astounded at the amount of posters who think it's okay to mess with someone who is engaged to someone else. It sure says a lot about the caliber of people you are. And it is no wonder there are so many other threads about failing marriages. Where is the respect for a committed relationship? Where is the respect for other people? The "me, me, me" and "do what makes you happy without regard for anyone else," and simply the pure selfishness is what is ruining relationships. Surely I can't be the only one that sees this.

Bingo!

+100,000,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am astounded at the amount of posters who think it's okay to mess with someone who is engaged to someone else. It sure says a lot about the caliber of people you are. And it is no wonder there are so many other threads about failing marriages. Where is the respect for a committed relationship? Where is the respect for other people? The "me, me, me" and "do what makes you happy without regard for anyone else," and simply the pure selfishness is what is ruining relationships. Surely I can't be the only one that sees this.

Bingo!

+100,000,000

+ exactly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I'm married, and think an engagement is NOT the same as a marriage. Nothing on this earth is. An engagement is a promise - - a marriage is a contract; an engagement is a good faith promise to commit to a contract. Like a down payment, or earnest. It is not the contract itself.

Better to break a promise than to break a contract and have more severe penalties.

+1. The whole point of an engagement is to make sure it's the person you want to marry. It's more serious than dating, so you get to learn more about the person, but it's not the real thing yet.

If they can't stick with only you during engagement, much better to learn that before marriage.

OMG! Why are you people so dense!
No engagement is not the same as marriage but is still a serious thing.
It's not cool to knowingly go after engaged people, just like it's not cool to knowingly go after someone with a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Would you honestly be okay with someone going after your fiance? Would you advise your friends to do this?
Would you go after someone else's fiance?

My boyfriend was engaged when he met me and broke off his engagement. He wasn't sure if he wanted to marry her.

I didn't know he was engaged when we met but we got on really well and I was interested.

We are currently dating but I don't blame myself for his breaking off his engagement either. He would not have continued with his engagement anyway. They were living together and it just did not work out.

Can you not see this is different from what OP is talking about?

Just as a favor to you since you seem to be a little slow on the intake , dump your boyfriend, save yourself the future heartache.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I'm married, and think an engagement is NOT the same as a marriage. Nothing on this earth is. An engagement is a promise - - a marriage is a contract; an engagement is a good faith promise to commit to a contract. Like a down payment, or earnest. It is not the contract itself.

Better to break a promise than to break a contract and have more severe penalties.

+1. The whole point of an engagement is to make sure it's the person you want to marry. It's more serious than dating, so you get to learn more about the person, but it's not the real thing yet.

If they can't stick with only you during engagement, much better to learn that before marriage.

OMG! Why are you people so dense!
No engagement is not the same as marriage but is still a serious thing.
It's not cool to knowingly go after engaged people, just like it's not cool to knowingly go after someone with a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Would you honestly be okay with someone going after your fiance? Would you advise your friends to do this?
Would you go after someone else's fiance?

My boyfriend was engaged when he met me and broke off his engagement. He wasn't sure if he wanted to marry her.

I didn't know he was engaged when we met but we got on really well and I was interested.

We are currently dating but I don't blame myself for his breaking off his engagement either. He would not have continued with his engagement anyway. They were living together and it just did not work out.

Can you not see this is different from what OP is talking about?

Just as a favor to you since you seem to be a little slow on the intake , dump your boyfriend, save yourself the future heartache.

My grandmother dumped her fiancé to marry my grandfather and they were married for 60+ yrs until grandpa died. Breaking off an engagement is common and does not make you a cheater. That is why there is a difference between "engaged" and "married" since you are slow and don't know the difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I'm married, and think an engagement is NOT the same as a marriage. Nothing on this earth is. An engagement is a promise - - a marriage is a contract; an engagement is a good faith promise to commit to a contract. Like a down payment, or earnest. It is not the contract itself.

Better to break a promise than to break a contract and have more severe penalties.

+1. The whole point of an engagement is to make sure it's the person you want to marry. It's more serious than dating, so you get to learn more about the person, but it's not the real thing yet.

If they can't stick with only you during engagement, much better to learn that before marriage.

OMG! Why are you people so dense!
No engagement is not the same as marriage but is still a serious thing.
It's not cool to knowingly go after engaged people, just like it's not cool to knowingly go after someone with a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Would you honestly be okay with someone going after your fiance? Would you advise your friends to do this?
Would you go after someone else's fiance?

My boyfriend was engaged when he met me and broke off his engagement. He wasn't sure if he wanted to marry her.

I didn't know he was engaged when we met but we got on really well and I was interested.

We are currently dating but I don't blame myself for his breaking off his engagement either. He would not have continued with his engagement anyway. They were living together and it just did not work out.

Can you not see this is different from what OP is talking about?

Just as a favor to you since you seem to be a little slow on the intake , dump your boyfriend, save yourself the future heartache.

My grandmother dumped her fiancé to marry my grandfather and they were married for 60+ yrs until grandpa died. Breaking off an engagement is common and does not make you a cheater. That is why there is a difference between "engaged" and "married" since you are slow and don't know the difference.

I bet your grandmother cheated on your grandpa throughout their marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I'm married, and think an engagement is NOT the same as a marriage. Nothing on this earth is. An engagement is a promise - - a marriage is a contract; an engagement is a good faith promise to commit to a contract. Like a down payment, or earnest. It is not the contract itself.

Better to break a promise than to break a contract and have more severe penalties.

+1. The whole point of an engagement is to make sure it's the person you want to marry. It's more serious than dating, so you get to learn more about the person, but it's not the real thing yet.

If they can't stick with only you during engagement, much better to learn that before marriage.

OMG! Why are you people so dense!
No engagement is not the same as marriage but is still a serious thing.
It's not cool to knowingly go after engaged people, just like it's not cool to knowingly go after someone with a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Would you honestly be okay with someone going after your fiance? Would you advise your friends to do this?
Would you go after someone else's fiance?

My boyfriend was engaged when he met me and broke off his engagement. He wasn't sure if he wanted to marry her.

I didn't know he was engaged when we met but we got on really well and I was interested.

We are currently dating but I don't blame myself for his breaking off his engagement either. He would not have continued with his engagement anyway. They were living together and it just did not work out.

Can you not see this is different from what OP is talking about?

Just as a favor to you since you seem to be a little slow on the intake , dump your boyfriend, save yourself the future heartache.

My grandmother dumped her fiancé to marry my grandfather and they were married for 60+ yrs until grandpa died. Breaking off an engagement is common and does not make you a cheater. That is why there is a difference between "engaged" and "married" since you are slow and don't know the difference.

Since you're a fucking moron I'll try again.

OP is not engaged. OP is not asking should she dump her fiance because she's attracted to someone else. OP is asking if it's okay for her her to hit on someone she knows is engaged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I'm married, and think an engagement is NOT the same as a marriage. Nothing on this earth is. An engagement is a promise - - a marriage is a contract; an engagement is a good faith promise to commit to a contract. Like a down payment, or earnest. It is not the contract itself.

Better to break a promise than to break a contract and have more severe penalties.

+1. The whole point of an engagement is to make sure it's the person you want to marry. It's more serious than dating, so you get to learn more about the person, but it's not the real thing yet.

If they can't stick with only you during engagement, much better to learn that before marriage.

OMG! Why are you people so dense!
No engagement is not the same as marriage but is still a serious thing.
It's not cool to knowingly go after engaged people, just like it's not cool to knowingly go after someone with a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Would you honestly be okay with someone going after your fiance? Would you advise your friends to do this?
Would you go after someone else's fiance?

My boyfriend was engaged when he met me and broke off his engagement. He wasn't sure if he wanted to marry her.

I didn't know he was engaged when we met but we got on really well and I was interested.

We are currently dating but I don't blame myself for his breaking off his engagement either. He would not have continued with his engagement anyway. They were living together and it just did not work out.

Can you not see this is different from what OP is talking about?

Just as a favor to you since you seem to be a little slow on the intake , dump your boyfriend, save yourself the future heartache.

My grandmother dumped her fiancé to marry my grandfather and they were married for 60+ yrs until grandpa died. Breaking off an engagement is common and does not make you a cheater. That is why there is a difference between "engaged" and "married" since you are slow and don't know the difference.

Too bad during those years she failed to impart any morals to her children and grandchildren seeing as her granddaughter thinks it's totes cool to try and break up a relationship.