Is an engaged ex off limits?

[Anonymous]

Broke up due to distance. Bumped into each other back home last weekend. Gave each other that old look.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Way off limits.

[Anonymous]

He's off limit if you have morals.

If not, anything goes.

[Anonymous]

If the feeling is mutual, go for it. Engaged is not married. Unless there are kids, you're not really breaking up a family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the feeling is mutual, go for it. Engaged is not married. Unless there are kids, you're not really breaking up a family.

+1. My grandparents met when my grandmother was engaged to someone else. She broke the engagement and eventually married grandpa. Was married for 60+ until grandpa died. So yeah, breaking off the engagement turned out well especially since our family would not exist if she hadn't broken off her first engagement. Go for it!

[Anonymous]

Engaged isn't married. I still think it's morally dubious, but if you think something is there better to express that now and find out if the feeling is mutual than after he's married.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe this is even a question and I can't believe posters encouraging her to go for it. Engaged IS taken. She'd still be a homewrecker. What is wrong with some of you?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this is even a question and I can't believe posters encouraging her to go for it. Engaged IS taken. She'd still be a homewrecker. What is wrong with some of you?!

Please. Engaged is not married. Know many people who were engaged and then broke up. Me included. How is that being a home Wrecker? Engaged isn't the same as married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this is even a question and I can't believe posters encouraging her to go for it. Engaged IS taken. She'd still be a homewrecker. What is wrong with some of you?!

THIS.

Yes, you're a home wrecker of you go after someone else's man. Period. If you can't get your own single man, there's a problem. If you chase men who are in a COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP, you're a homewrecking skanky slut. No matter what you tell yourself to try to feel better about it.

[Anonymous]

What % of engagements fail? Off the top of my head I'm thinking at least 10%?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this is even a question and I can't believe posters encouraging her to go for it. Engaged IS taken. She'd still be a homewrecker. What is wrong with some of you?!

THIS.

Yes, you're a home wrecker of you go after someone else's man. Period. If you can't get your own single man, there's a problem. If you chase men who are in a COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP, you're a homewrecking skanky slut. No matter what you tell yourself to try to feel better about it.

Why do you assume OP is female? Examine your motives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this is even a question and I can't believe posters encouraging her to go for it. Engaged IS taken. She'd still be a homewrecker. What is wrong with some of you?!

Please. Engaged is not married. Know many people who were engaged and then broke up. Me included. How is that being a home Wrecker? Engaged isn't the same as married.

Hey, I'm an immoral idiot so everybody should be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the feeling is mutual, go for it. Engaged is not married. Unless there are kids, you're not really breaking up a family.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this is even a question and I can't believe posters encouraging her to go for it. Engaged IS taken. She'd still be a homewrecker. What is wrong with some of you?!

If they only broke up due to distance, it's possible the ex never stopped loving OP and is only with the new bf/gf because they didn't think OP was coming back into the picture?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this is even a question and I can't believe posters encouraging her to go for it. Engaged IS taken. She'd still be a homewrecker. What is wrong with some of you?!

THIS.

Yes, you're a home wrecker of you go after someone else's man. Period. If you can't get your own single man, there's a problem. If you chase men who are in a COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP, you're a homewrecking skanky slut. No matter what you tell yourself to try to feel better about it.

Why do you assume OP is female? Examine your motives.

Men can be sluts too. It works both ways. Read it again with the genders switched if it bothers you so much. NBD. You think I'm going to change my opinion?