Is an engaged ex off limits?

[Anonymous]

I've read several "romantic" wedding stories in The Times about engagements getting called off so the couple could rekindle something or start something. Jerry Seinfeld's wife was engaged when he met her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Broke up due to distance. Bumped into each other back home last weekend. Gave each other that old look.

Are you two living in the same place again? If you think this is the real deal and there's a possibility of a future, maybe it's okay, but if you just want a fling, then stay the hell away from him. That would be cruel to both him and his fiancé.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've read several "romantic" wedding stories in The Times about engagements getting called off so the couple could rekindle something or start something. Jerry Seinfeld's wife was engaged when he met her.

She was newly MARRIED.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't sound like your distance problem is solved (you were traveling for the holidays, yes?), so this is still impossible. You don't want to get in there and just have sex wih him and possibly break up his engagement, right? Cause if you do, that sounds really shallow and you sound pretty terrible. Don't be that person.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this is even a question and I can't believe posters encouraging her to go for it. Engaged IS taken. She'd still be a homewrecker. What is wrong with some of you?!

THIS.

Yes, you're a home wrecker of you go after someone else's man. Period. If you can't get your own single man, there's a problem. If you chase men who are in a COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP, you're a homewrecking skanky slut. No matter what you tell yourself to try to feel better about it.

Why do you assume OP is female? Examine your motives.

Men can be sluts too. It works both ways. Read it again with the genders switched if it bothers you so much. NBD. You think I'm going to change my opinion?

If a partner has a wandering eye during engagement I'd say that's a blessing to find out before tying the knot. If he or she really loves who they're engaged to they won't step out or even entertain the idea. Whatever's meant to be will happen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I've read several "romantic" wedding stories in The Times about engagements getting called off so the couple could rekindle something or start something. Jerry Seinfeld's wife was engaged when he met her.

She was newly MARRIED.

Yikes. I've always hated her. Phony Long Island gold digger.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this is even a question and I can't believe posters encouraging her to go for it. Engaged IS taken. She'd still be a homewrecker. What is wrong with some of you?!

THIS.

Yes, you're a home wrecker of you go after someone else's man. Period. If you can't get your own single man, there's a problem. If you chase men who are in a COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP, you're a homewrecking skanky slut. No matter what you tell yourself to try to feel better about it.

Why do you assume OP is female? Examine your motives.

Men can be sluts too. It works both ways. Read it again with the genders switched if it bothers you so much. NBD. You think I'm going to change my opinion?

If a partner has a wandering eye during engagement I'd say that's a blessing to find out before tying the knot. If he or she really loves who they're engaged to they won't step out or even entertain the idea. Whatever's meant to be will happen.

I'm not necessarily buying that the engaged person is into it. Sounds like OP is romanticizing a chance encounter based on past unrequited desires. OP needs to move along and find a single person to mess with.

[Anonymous]

But Engaged is "in a committed relationship ". That means he/she has made a commitment to be faithful to another person.

OP- do you really want to be with someone who would so easily cheat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the feeling is mutual, go for it. Engaged is not married. Unless there are kids, you're not really breaking up a family.

Pretty terrible advice all around. I doubt OP would be ok if her fiancé did this to her.

[Anonymous]

OP doesn't need to sleep with him to find out if old feelings are still there and if he really does want to marry his fiancé. For sure its worth at least a conversation.

[Anonymous]

If you are that interested, TALK to him and tell him, but don't sleep with him. Let him decide if he wants to break off the engagement.

[Anonymous]

OP started a thread on this last week but I don't recall that ex was engaged. You can be damn sure that OP led the look and whatever look the ex gave was not the same. Wishful thinking on the part of OP. Go home and let your ex move on with his/her new love.

[Anonymous]

Depends-- how do you think you would feel if someone slept with your fiancé while you were in the process of planning a wedding?

There is your answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP started a thread on this last week but I don't recall that ex was engaged. You can be damn sure that OP led the look and whatever look the ex gave was not the same. Wishful thinking on the part of OP. Go home and let your ex move on with his/her new love.

Are you sure it wasn't an entirely different OP? That's the more likely answer.

[Anonymous]

I slept with my ex when he was engaged. They still got married, but I still found it satisfying that he cheated because she was my exBFF.