Daughter and grandson just turned down full scholarship to Maryland (UMD)

[Anonymous]

In 3-4 months they'll be calling nana and asking her to brunch to beg for college money. Watch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In 3-4 months they'll be calling nana and asking her to brunch to beg for college money. Watch.

Well, Nana can always say "no" right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In 3-4 months they'll be calling nana and asking her to brunch to beg for college money. Watch.

Well, Nana can always say "no" right?

Maybe, after she starts a new thread about it first though. Nana needs to find something in life that gives her fulfillment before she gets too old, it sounds desperately empty as is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband sits on the board of a scholarship committee. They offer a few four year full scholarships and my husband is certain he'd be one of the winners. All he had to do was complete application and an overnight at UMD, to show commitment. The application was turned in two months ago, the overnight was 10 days ago.

We called the entire week before and were ignored. The student program directors told my husband they called, emailed, texted my grandson. He did not show. At Thanksgiving they acted aloof about the entire thing.

This morning our grandson is on facebook discussing various less selective in-state public and private colleges which they can't afford. They make good money but the family has zero savings. Were we not clear that this was a full ride scholarship? I am at a loss.

Maybe he doesn't want to go to UMD. Maybe his grades aren't good enough to get in.

+1 I'm thinking this might be the real issue.

OR, the kid doesn't want to go and the mom can't get him to see the value of going there (because so many kids nowadays don't really get the value of money--so many are not working after school these days, they are doing sports or homework. They don't really grasp the value; they just think they'll take out a loan or whatever; they've never taken on a financial responsibility. Or, if the mom is not financially savvy (and from Op's post it doesn't sound like it), then SHE also doesn't understand the value of money; ah, she thinks they'll just take out another loan. It could be the combination of factors--low grades, and/or lack of interest in the college, and/or not understanding the value. And a fourth thing could be a tad of rebellion--people often don't appreciate what they are given.

[Anonymous]

^^ Yup. Teen rebellion and dumbass parents that can't reign him in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have similar examples of this after volunteering at Boys & Girls Club for 20 years. In all that time I had two kids follow my advice and turn into successful adults. The rest thought they knew better or let dumb family ruin their life...

Must be nice thinking you're always better than everyone else.

And people don't let other people ruin their lives when they're a kid. Sometimes parents really do sabotage their children's success out of ignorance or insecurity.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have similar examples of this after volunteering at Boys & Girls Club for 20 years. In all that time I had two kids follow my advice and turn into successful adults. The rest thought they knew better or let dumb family ruin their life...

Must be nice thinking you're always better than everyone else.

And people don't let other people ruin their lives when they're a kid. Sometimes parents really do sabotage their children's success out of ignorance or insecurity.

I'm the pp, and yes, it sucks. Depressing even. I had to step away from Boys & Girls Club. It was futile.