Daughter and grandson just turned down full scholarship to Maryland (UMD)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He did not show.
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.They make good money but the family has zero savings.

So a family with lengthy history of making dumb decisions made another dumb decision? This shouldn't come as a surprise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he is not interested in UMD - not really your business why, or how his parents will pay for college, unless they're asking you to contribute. Based on your post it sounds like there is a history of intrusiveness and control. I'd guess your daughter is fed up and doesn't want to deal with your reaction, so she's letting you find out passively.

A facebook post on Saturday said he was rooting for the Maryland football team and wished he could have gone to the game versus Rutgers. How does one get fed up with a scholarship?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he is not interested in UMD - not really your business why, or how his parents will pay for college, unless they're asking you to contribute. Based on your post it sounds like there is a history of intrusiveness and control. I'd guess your daughter is fed up and doesn't want to deal with your reaction, so she's letting you find out passively.

A facebook post on Saturday said he was rooting for the Maryland football team and wished he could have gone to the game versus Rutgers. How does one get fed up with a scholarship?

I root for MD basketball and I didn't go there nor did either of my kids (despite the fact that it would have been 1/2 the price). I also root for the Red Sox and don't live in Boston. Sports affinities don't mean much. Stop stalking this poor kids FB page. And what kid posts stuff on FB these days anyway?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he is not interested in UMD - not really your business why, or how his parents will pay for college, unless they're asking you to contribute. Based on your post it sounds like there is a history of intrusiveness and control. I'd guess your daughter is fed up and doesn't want to deal with your reaction, so she's letting you find out passively.

A facebook post on Saturday said he was rooting for the Maryland football team and wished he could have gone to the game versus Rutgers. How does one get fed up with a scholarship?

One has decided that one would prefer to stay closer to home, and one's mother agreed. Now one and one's mother are fed up with one's grandmother, who thinks that her scholarship should be the sole deciding factor in one's choice of university.

My guess, OP, is that neither of them sees an end to this, and wants to keep him away from you. Guess what? They cut the marionette strings.

[Anonymous]

I am on facebook all afternoon and it updates with friends posts. My grandson and I are friends so I see his posts. I don't stalk the boy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he is not interested in UMD - not really your business why, or how his parents will pay for college, unless they're asking you to contribute. Based on your post it sounds like there is a history of intrusiveness and control. I'd guess your daughter is fed up and doesn't want to deal with your reaction, so she's letting you find out passively.

A facebook post on Saturday said he was rooting for the Maryland football team and wished he could have gone to the game versus Rutgers. How does one get fed up with a scholarship?

One has decided that one would prefer to stay closer to home, and one's mother agreed. Now one and one's mother are fed up with one's grandmother, who thinks that her scholarship should be the sole deciding factor in one's choice of university.

My guess, OP, is that neither of them sees an end to this, and wants to keep him away from you. Guess what? They cut the marionette strings.

Bingo.

[Anonymous]

OP please pardon my French... your daughter and grandson are idiots. There are a million families in Maryland that would do some crazy things for that scholarship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he is not interested in UMD - not really your business why, or how his parents will pay for college, unless they're asking you to contribute. Based on your post it sounds like there is a history of intrusiveness and control. I'd guess your daughter is fed up and doesn't want to deal with your reaction, so she's letting you find out passively.

A facebook post on Saturday said he was rooting for the Maryland football team and wished he could have gone to the game versus Rutgers. How does one get fed up with a scholarship?

One has decided that one would prefer to stay closer to home, and one's mother agreed. Now one and one's mother are fed up with one's grandmother, who thinks that her scholarship should be the sole deciding factor in one's choice of university.

My guess, OP, is that neither of them sees an end to this, and wants to keep him away from you. Guess what? They cut the marionette strings.

They won't be able to cut the marionette strings of tens of thousands in non-dischargeable student loans. They'll realize the scope of their stupidity in 5 or 6 years.

[Anonymous]

Did you guys ask him what happened?

[Anonymous]

I have similar examples of this after volunteering at Boys & Girls Club for 20 years. In all that time I had two kids follow my advice and turn into successful adults. The rest thought they knew better or let dumb family ruin their life...

[Anonymous]

How do you know so much about your daughter's finances? My parents know jack nothing about my family. Occasionally my mother asks if I've started putting money in a 401k (I'm 35).

Lolz, Mom. We've been maxing out for the last 10 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you know so much about your daughter's finances? My parents know jack nothing about my family. Occasionally my mother asks if I've started putting money in a 401k (I'm 35).

Lolz, Mom. We've been maxing out for the last 10 years.

They've borrowed money from us in the past, they recently had to get rid of an SUV they couldn't afford, and they're slightly overextended on their home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know so much about your daughter's finances? My parents know jack nothing about my family. Occasionally my mother asks if I've started putting money in a 401k (I'm 35).

Lolz, Mom. We've been maxing out for the last 10 years.

They've borrowed money from us in the past, they recently had to get rid of an SUV they couldn't afford, and they're slightly overextended on their home.

Your intentions are good, but you may be over involved in what is going on in their world.

It sounds like your grandson is not interested in attending UMD. Sometimes you have to let people make their own choices, even if you think it's a bad choice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He did not show.
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They make good money but the family has zero savings.

So a family with lengthy history of making dumb decisions made another dumb decision? This shouldn't come as a surprise.

+1

[Anonymous]

I'm confused. Assuming this is a private scholarship, how could he get a scholarship to UMD without knowing if he is admitted yet?