Daughter and grandson just turned down full scholarship to Maryland (UMD)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband sits on the board of a scholarship committee. They offer a few four year full scholarships and my husband is certain he'd be one of the winners. All he had to do was complete application and an overnight at UMD, to show commitment. The application was turned in two months ago, the overnight was 10 days ago.

We called the entire week before and were ignored. The student program directors told my husband they called, emailed, texted my grandson. He did not show. At Thanksgiving they acted aloof about the entire thing.

This morning our grandson is on facebook discussing various less selective in-state public and private colleges which they can't afford. They make good money but the family has zero savings. Were we not clear that this was a full ride scholarship? I am at a loss.

How do you know he will be accepted to UMD? Perhaps he is looking at less selective state schools because that is where he has the best chance of acceptance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This post is a fraud. Priority applications were due Nov 1 and decisions don't come out until end of Jan beginnings of Feb.

OP was really not clear. The boy turned down the opportunity to APPLY for a scholarship.

[Anonymous]

TROLL POST.

[Anonymous]

OP please leave your estate to a charity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he is not interested in UMD - not really your business why, or how his parents will pay for college, unless they're asking you to contribute. Based on your post it sounds like there is a history of intrusiveness and control. I'd guess your daughter is fed up and doesn't want to deal with your reaction, so she's letting you find out passively.

Control...eh, sorta. It sounds like OP raised an aloof, disorganized loser who is also raising an aloof loser.

OP know her daughter left the nest with the wrong values and is now trying to back track by micromanaging everything.

[Anonymous]

How is giving family a bee line to a scholarship worth $60,000 "controlling"? Some of you are looney tunes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm thinking it's a huge conflict of interest for your grandson to apply for a scholarship for which your husband is on the committee.

Oh no it's frequently given to friends and extended family. Committee selection process. The applicants just need the required traits and statistics.

Still highly unethical. "Let's make a scholarship committee and hand them out to friends and family"...hmmm....if that's not corrupt I don't know what is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm thinking it's a huge conflict of interest for your grandson to apply for a scholarship for which your husband is on the committee. [/quote

Ditto! What a joke.

[Anonymous]

Conflict of interest? Lol you all are pretty naive about private scholarships. I assure you only connected kids win them 9 out of 10 times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm thinking it's a huge conflict of interest for your grandson to apply for a scholarship for which your husband is on the committee.

Oh no it's frequently given to friends and extended family. Committee selection process. The applicants just need the required traits and statistics.

Still highly unethical. "Let's make a scholarship committee and hand them out to friends and family"...hmmm....if that's not corrupt I don't know what is.

Trump University?

[Anonymous]

I would love to hear the daughter's version of events. I bet she's been down this road before and is tired of the strings and the disapproval that come with these gifts. I'm guessing her financial decisions aren't all bad, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm thinking it's a huge conflict of interest for your grandson to apply for a scholarship for which your husband is on the committee.

and he world is small so perhaps you are not respecting their anonymity.

[Anonymous]

I've never heard of these scholarships that are given to "connected" people rather than merit. Are these organizations 501c3 or c4s that are getting a tax exemption for charitable or social welfare activities? How is it consistent with those missions to have scholarship giveaways to family and friends? This seems totally shady to me.

[Anonymous]

A full ride is fantastic but did you ever think your grandson wasn't interested in attending UMD? I turned down a full ride at Howard to go to Wellesley and yes I took out loans. It was my choice and my parents just as it is your grandson's. If they're not asking for money, leave it alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've never heard of these scholarships that are given to "connected" people rather than merit. Are these organizations 501c3 or c4s that are getting a tax exemption for charitable or social welfare activities? How is it consistent with those missions to have scholarship giveaways to family and friends? This seems totally shady to me.

You are very naive. For example, you ever watch 80s comedy Caddyshack? Remember when the judge promised the kid the Evans Scholarship...