I'm a female sex addict in recovery...ask me anything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you didn't know who the father of your three children was for certain until you took the DNA tests? Was your husband unaware through all of those years that you were having sex with multiple men?

Correct. He was unaware.

NP here. What would you say to him if he wanted to have some revenge sex with some strangers?

[Anonymous]

Only men, or did you try women too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only men, or did you try women too?

Only men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you didn't know who the father of your three children was for certain until you took the DNA tests? Was your husband unaware through all of those years that you were having sex with multiple men?

Correct. He was unaware.

NP here. What would you say to him if he wanted to have some revenge sex with some strangers?

He did some of that. Craig's list, Ashley Madison. He was hurt and trying to get back at me. I don't know exactly what happened but I assumed he was just acting out and perhaps even trying to understand my behavior. I basically did nothing and waited for him to get it out of his system.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With alcoholics in recovery, they have to understand that they cannot have a healthy relationship with booze. But with sex addiction, how do you manage having sex in a healthy way? Do some sex addicts simply give up sex entirely the way that alcoholics give up drinking? It seems like it would be very difficult to manage .

Some sex addicts adopt abstinence for a period of time while they recover. Since I am married I did not. My rule
Is sex only with my husband. If I were single or my marriage ended I would likely need to become abstinent for awhile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op you have a tough journey ahead of you. I was going judge because I'm good at judging people for their actions. BUT you took full responsibility for your actions and didn't blame others or use excuses. This can be a learning opprtunity for some of the dcum posters who blame others for their problems ( relationships, job, marriage, children) rather than accept responbility. Good luck in your journey. People who recognize they have done wrong and genuinely want to change for better deserve a second chance in my book. I hope you find peace and happiness in the end.

Yes. I agree. My inlaws are alcoholics and will never own up to it or the damage it has caused extended family. No apologies, no changes ever. Just believing their way is the right way. Can't stand them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Only men, or did you try women too?

Only men

How many were your clients?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Only men, or did you try women too?

Only men

How many were your clients?

2-3

[Anonymous]

Is your husband the father of your kids or do you know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Only men, or did you try women too?

Only men

How many were your clients?

2-3

OMG! You should be disbarred.

[Anonymous]

so all told, how many men have you slept with while you have been married to your husband? how many altogether over the course of your life?

have you done anything (in terms of sex acts) that you regret?

[Anonymous]

Hi, long time reader, first time poster on this thread. Did a lot of men hit on you or did you flirt with them? Did it turn physical immediately or did it escalate over time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your husband the father of your kids or do you know?

Yes he is

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:so all told, how many men have you slept with while you have been married to your husband? how many altogether over the course of your life?

have you done anything (in terms of sex acts) that you regret?

Sex partners while married- 7

Emotional affairs while married 12

Total sex partners in my life 25

i regret having sex with another man in our marital bed. I regret having sex with another man in our car. I regret not always using birth control with these men. I regret letting this one man finish on my chest. I regret having sexl in my office at work in the middle of the work day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi, long time reader, first time poster on this thread. Did a lot of men hit on you or did you flirt with them? Did it turn physical immediately or did it escalate over time?

Some men hit on me and flirted until it escalated. Generally though I flirted and dropped signals and sexual innuendo until it escalated