I'm a female sex addict in recovery...ask me anything

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How long have you been in recovery? How many kids do you have now? Sounds like you are married. If accurate how do feel about a man (husband) staying with you through multiple cheating? Do you respect him? Is there any trust in your marriage?

I have been in recovery for three years thanks to a 12 step program for sex addicts. I have 3 kids. I am married and do respect my husband. Trust is pretty much obliterated and my husband is very angry with me.

Does your husband attend any S-Anon meetings or similar? I was married to a sex addict and S-Anon was a tremendous help for me.

He went to a few but he is still too angry
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Does he understand that the meetings are for him, not for you? Maybe he would be more comfortable at Al-Anon meetings? The concepts are the same (as you know), and maybe the environment would feel easier for him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any STDs? Did you spread anything to your husband?

How old are your kids? Aside from the impact on your marriage, how has this impacted your ability to parent or relationship with your kids?

No STDS. My relationship with my kids is solid. They were young when I acted out and I am a very attentive mother now that I am sober.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How long have you been in recovery? How many kids do you have now? Sounds like you are married. If accurate how do feel about a man (husband) staying with you through multiple cheating? Do you respect him? Is there any trust in your marriage?

I have been in recovery for three years thanks to a 12 step program for sex addicts. I have 3 kids. I am married and do respect my husband. Trust is pretty much obliterated and my husband is very angry with me.

Does your husband attend any S-Anon meetings or similar? I was married to a sex addict and S-Anon was a tremendous help for me.

He went to a few but he is still too angry
Help

Does he understand that the meetings are for him, not for you? Maybe he would be more comfortable at Al-Anon meetings? The concepts are the same (as you know), and maybe the environment would feel easier for him?

That's a very good suggestion. I will mention that to him

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Describe your (former) sex addiction.

Cheated in every single relationship I've ever been in. Got pregnant four times and every single time
Was not sure of the father. Hated hated hated myself when I would get caught or took a break from acting out but then would
Repeat the cycle. Began to seek out partners with every man I encountered, regardless of whether they were married and had kids. Had multiple emotional affaisr at any given time. Felt like
I was living a double life. Neglected my marriage and kids and job.

So, essentially, you are a slut, cheating wife, and unfit mother. I hope your DH has divorced you and has permanent, sole custody of children and that you have zero visitation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Were you sexually abused as a child?

Yes

Oh, yes. People like You ALWAYS have an excuse and blame someone else. You, of course. Have zero responsibility for your reprehensible behavior. Poor, poor you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Were you sexually abused as a child?

Yes

Oh, yes. People like You ALWAYS have an excuse and blame someone else. You, of course. Have zero responsibility for your reprehensible behavior. Poor, poor you.

I take full responsibility for my behavior.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Describe your (former) sex addiction.

Cheated in every single relationship I've ever been in. Got pregnant four times and every single time
Was not sure of the father. Hated hated hated myself when I would get caught or took a break from acting out but then would
Repeat the cycle. Began to seek out partners with every man I encountered, regardless of whether they were married and had kids. Had multiple emotional affaisr at any given time. Felt like
I was living a double life. Neglected my marriage and kids and job.

So, essentially, you are a slut, cheating wife, and unfit mother. I hope your DH has divorced you and has permanent, sole custody of children and that you have zero visitation.[/quote

Please ignore this poster, OP.
My question is do you have a job? ]

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Would you let even grody, stinky, and ugly men touch you?

No

A sex addict wouldn't care about physical appearance of men. You are as full of it as a stuffed goose.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Describe your (former) sex addiction.

Cheated in every single relationship I've ever been in. Got pregnant four times and every single time
Was not sure of the father. Hated hated hated myself when I would get caught or took a break from acting out but then would
Repeat the cycle. Began to seek out partners with every man I encountered, regardless of whether they were married and had kids. Had multiple emotional affaisr at any given time. Felt like
I was living a double life. Neglected my marriage and kids and job.

So, essentially, you are a slut, cheating wife, and unfit mother. I hope your DH has divorced you and has permanent, sole custody of children and that you have zero visitation.[/quote

Please ignore this poster, OP.
My question is do you have a job? ]

I am a corporate lawyer at a law firm.

[Anonymous]

Do you know if your husband is the biological father of your children?

Did you have any abortions?

[Anonymous]

-Do you think you started this thread as an outlet / a way to re-live the addiction/ episodes while still being faithful?


-When you used the word 'sober' above, does that mean you haven't acted out (sexually)? Or were you also an alcoholic?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know if your husband is the biological father of your children?

Did you have any abortions?

I had one abortion. When I disclosed my acting out to him, we did paternity testing on all three children at my husband's request.
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[Anonymous]

So how did your various partners respond to you besides the physical encounters. Were they hurt by being used. Did they understand you were damaged? Were they confused by where you were coming from and where you were headed? Did they ghost you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:-Do you think you started this thread as an outlet / a way to re-live the addiction/ episodes while still being faithful?


-When you used the word 'sober' above, does that mean you haven't acted out (sexually)? Or were you also an alcoholic?

As to
Your first question, no. I think about all of this every goddamn day so I don't need to re-live. I think I started out because I haven't been able to get to a meeting for a couple days and started feeling bottled up

Sober is a word we use in sex addiction recovery to describe refraining from acting out sexually. I have been sober from
Sexual acting out for 3 years. I'm not an alcoholic.

[Anonymous]

My youngest sister was a walking talking semen receptacle for any man wanting it. She too was married, now on her 6th, 4 kids, a Grandma. She claimed to be a sex addict because we had no father and was looking for a father figure.

LIE.

Now she's broke down with genital herpes. God got even.