I'm a female sex addict in recovery...ask me anything

[Anonymous]

What % of men rejected you? I mean, did ANY of them act with decency and just say no way, you're nuts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Were you sexually abused as a child?

Yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What % of men rejected you? I mean, did ANY of them act with decency and just say no way, you're nuts?

Some would just not take it that far. So yes I would get rejected. They wouldn't flirt back or whatever.

[Anonymous]

How would you exercise your addition? Dating apps? Internet? Men at work? Customers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you let even grody, stinky, and ugly men touch you?

NP here: I actually knew a woman who really got into that. It was a "thing" of her's. I think she loved doing it because she was SO DAMN HOT (Brazilian and gorgeous) and the contrast of these old gross men all over her allowed her to feel in control. She could choose these gross guys, while conventionally attractive men were rejected (sometimes). Bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Did you receive physical gratification (I'm talking about O's here) from these encounters?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been in recovery? How many kids do you have now? Sounds like you are married. If accurate how do feel about a man (husband) staying with you through multiple cheating? Do you respect him? Is there any trust in your marriage?

I have been in recovery for three years thanks to a 12 step program for sex addicts. I have 3 kids. I am married and do respect my husband. Trust is pretty much obliterated and my husband is very angry with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How would you exercise your addition? Dating apps? Internet? Men at work? Customers?

Tinder, Craig's list, male coworkers, ex boyfriends. All men were potential acting out partners. By the time I got into recovery I felt like I was on the verge of becoming a sexual predator.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you receive physical gratification (I'm talking about O's here) from these encounters?

Sometimes. And I would get wet from the "sexting".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does husband even know?
Does the first step of addiction recovery involve revealing all to him? If so, how did that go?

Yes he knows. It was terrible and he kicked me out. I'm back home now but it has been extremely tumultuous
Now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure the behavior yout listed is indicative of sex addiction. Sounds like you're just an attention whore with low self-esteem.

Sex Addicts Anonymous disagrees and would say my insecurity and need for attention and validation were my character defects that facilitated my addiction. Step 5 and 6.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been in recovery? How many kids do you have now? Sounds like you are married. If accurate how do feel about a man (husband) staying with you through multiple cheating? Do you respect him? Is there any trust in your marriage?

I have been in recovery for three years thanks to a 12 step program for sex addicts. I have 3 kids. I am married and do respect my husband. Trust is pretty much obliterated and my husband is very angry with me.

Does your husband attend any S-Anon meetings or similar? I was married to a sex addict and S-Anon was a tremendous help for me.

[Anonymous]

Any STDs? Did you spread anything to your husband?

How old are your kids? Aside from the impact on your marriage, how has this impacted your ability to parent or relationship with your kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been in recovery? How many kids do you have now? Sounds like you are married. If accurate how do feel about a man (husband) staying with you through multiple cheating? Do you respect him? Is there any trust in your marriage?

I have been in recovery for three years thanks to a 12 step program for sex addicts. I have 3 kids. I am married and do respect my husband. Trust is pretty much obliterated and my husband is very angry with me.

Does your husband attend any S-Anon meetings or similar? I was married to a sex addict and S-Anon was a tremendous help for me.

He went to a few but he is still too angry
Help

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure the behavior yout listed is indicative of sex addiction. Sounds like you're just an attention whore with low self-esteem.

I just posted about having been married to a sex addict. What OP describes is very characteristic of sex addiction.